Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

You say that is if you think I’m doing them all over or something.

You’ve misunderstood. It’s the manifestation and consequences of serious unhappiness and mental health issues.

That’s what I thought the thread was about.
If you know it’s the consequence of serious mental health issues then you shouldn’t really ask us what to do as seeing your GP is fairly obvious.

Your tone is also coming across a little rude here.
 

COYBL25

Official GOT Joey Speak Interpreter.
You say that is if you think I’m doing them all over or something.

You’ve misunderstood. It’s the manifestation and consequences of serious unhappiness and mental health issues.

That’s what I thought the thread was about.
I haven’t at all mate.

You’re illness has caused you to behave in a way that’s alienated friends and family.

You’ve obviously recovered enough to the point that you’ve realised this.

It’s now time to try and build bridges.
 

Cardano

Player Valuation: £500k
If you know it’s the consequence of serious mental health issues then you shouldn’t really ask us what to do as seeing your GP is fairly obvious.

Your tone is also coming across a little rude here.
Wowzer.

I’ve definitely misunderstood this thread.

I’ll depart. Apologies, my mistake.
 

COYBL25

Official GOT Joey Speak Interpreter.
Wowzer.

I’ve definitely misunderstood this thread.

I’ll depart. Apologies, my mistake.
C’mon mate, he didn’t mean to offend you, he’s one of the good guys on here.

Everyone’s opinion is subjective.

You asked for advice and @Nymzee responded

Whether you take it or leave it is up to you.

No doubt others will come on and possibly offer different advice.

The fact that so many want to help others through their own experiences is what makes this thread so good.
 

efcforever

Player Valuation: £10m
@Cardano

When I first started experiencing depression and anxiety related symptoms about 10 years ago I leant heavily on my wife. When I felt bad I would almost demand to her that she make me feel better. She did her absolute best for a while but it wore her down and she eventually blew up at me. I do wonder whether she'd have stayed with me if I hadn't changed my behaviour. I think maybe it's this sort of thing that people are getting at.

I dont think anyone meant to offend you. This really is a great thread.
 

EFCPaul

Player Valuation: £35m
Bit insecure about something, just want to write it out and get it off my chest.

My new work has been going good really, nearly a year in now and feel very settled and think I'm very well liked and appreciated. It's just why I cant I shake this feeling that things are going TOO well?

I'm very much an individual and act like one. I'm polite, helpful and funny towards my colleagues but I'm also distant with them. I deliberately don't divulge personal information about myself whereas everyone else seems to share everything about their lives. That's their choice, but it's definitely not what I want to be doing with colleagues. I have a small circle of close friends, people I feel I can let loose with.

Tonight was our Christmas night out. I went along and was there a few hours but left once I began to feel like I wasnt enjoying myself. I tried to mix and be amiable but I just couldn't stop feeling like I was out of place, I decided to quietly slip away when everyone was up dancing. It was a nice evening out but I wasnt determined to stay out and get hammered but didn't want to make a thing out of leaving.

I keep having feelings of insecurity, like perhaps my lack of integrating myself is going to count against me at some point. Am i being paranoid?
 

cronullasharks

Player Valuation: £40m
Bit insecure about something, just want to write it out and get it off my chest.

My new work has been going good really, nearly a year in now and feel very settled and think I'm very well liked and appreciated. It's just why I cant I shake this feeling that things are going TOO well?

I'm very much an individual and act like one. I'm polite, helpful and funny towards my colleagues but I'm also distant with them. I deliberately don't divulge personal information about myself whereas everyone else seems to share everything about their lives. That's their choice, but it's definitely not what I want to be doing with colleagues. I have a small circle of close friends, people I feel I can let loose with.

Tonight was our Christmas night out. I went along and was there a few hours but left once I began to feel like I wasnt enjoying myself. I tried to mix and be amiable but I just couldn't stop feeling like I was out of place, I decided to quietly slip away when everyone was up dancing. It was a nice evening out but I wasnt determined to stay out and get hammered but didn't want to make a thing out of leaving.

I keep having feelings of insecurity, like perhaps my lack of integrating myself is going to count against me at some point. Am i being paranoid?
Definitely not being paranoid, and it's great you get on with the people you work with.

Long as you're doing your job and being amicable with your workmates everything will be fine. ;)
 

efcforever

Player Valuation: £10m
Bit insecure about something, just want to write it out and get it off my chest.

My new work has been going good really, nearly a year in now and feel very settled and think I'm very well liked and appreciated. It's just why I cant I shake this feeling that things are going TOO well?

I'm very much an individual and act like one. I'm polite, helpful and funny towards my colleagues but I'm also distant with them. I deliberately don't divulge personal information about myself whereas everyone else seems to share everything about their lives. That's their choice, but it's definitely not what I want to be doing with colleagues. I have a small circle of close friends, people I feel I can let loose with.

Tonight was our Christmas night out. I went along and was there a few hours but left once I began to feel like I wasnt enjoying myself. I tried to mix and be amiable but I just couldn't stop feeling like I was out of place, I decided to quietly slip away when everyone was up dancing. It was a nice evening out but I wasnt determined to stay out and get hammered but didn't want to make a thing out of leaving.

I keep having feelings of insecurity, like perhaps my lack of integrating myself is going to count against me at some point. Am i being paranoid?
You went to the do and made an effort. It's more than I managed to do this year.

I have always felt a little out of place at work nights out. No matter how well I get on with people in the office I can't seem to relax and be that way on a night out.
 

Tim's tourettes

Player Valuation: £2.5m
Bit insecure about something, just want to write it out and get it off my chest.

My new work has been going good really, nearly a year in now and feel very settled and think I'm very well liked and appreciated. It's just why I cant I shake this feeling that things are going TOO well?

I'm very much an individual and act like one. I'm polite, helpful and funny towards my colleagues but I'm also distant with them. I deliberately don't divulge personal information about myself whereas everyone else seems to share everything about their lives. That's their choice, but it's definitely not what I want to be doing with colleagues. I have a small circle of close friends, people I feel I can let loose with.

Tonight was our Christmas night out. I went along and was there a few hours but left once I began to feel like I wasnt enjoying myself. I tried to mix and be amiable but I just couldn't stop feeling like I was out of place, I decided to quietly slip away when everyone was up dancing. It was a nice evening out but I wasnt determined to stay out and get hammered but didn't want to make a thing out of leaving.

I keep having feelings of insecurity, like perhaps my lack of integrating myself is going to count against me at some point. Am i being paranoid?
Hi mate, I try and avoid getting bladdered these days as I really find the feelings of depression come on strong with a hangover. I just dont find it's worth it anymore.
 

5298everton

Player Valuation: £25k
Morning everyone,

I'm after some advice if possible, I really am all over the place at the minute and have no clue what I'm meant to do or how I'm going to get through this.

I haven't spoken to anyone yet so here it goes...

Long story short, a drunken lads weekend in Prague a few weeks ago led to a brass house. A split condom and weeks later and here I am, just finding out that I have contracted HIV. I've been so stressed over the past few weeks, crunching the statistical numbers trying to concise myself I haven't got it. A 3% chance a prostitute would carry the virus in Prague, then a 0.08% chance of contracting it... I guess I found myself in that small number!

Symptom after symptom appeared in the weeks following, I kept putting them down to other things but I could feel deep down I had it.

To make matters worse and this is what is killing me, I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and love her so much. I've held off any sexual contact for the past 6 weeks, she's in bits thinking I don't love her and I've found someone else... and I'm telling her it's stress with work... But she knows it's not.

I live with my girlfriends parents at the minute as we try to save for a house.

I really don't know how I'm going to tell her.

I don't want people knowing about my having the virus too. My girlfriend and friends know each other, and I know things are going to get around very quick and soon I will be spoken about everywhere and the stigma of HIV will hang above my head.

If I'm kicked out of her house and she splits up with me, I don't know what I'll do. I haven't got any parents except a brother who has his own family and I wouldn't want to be a burden. I feel like I can't tell any of my friends of family

All of this is just spiralling around my head, all right before Christmas.

I've got a job that can be very stressful and is client facing , meaning I've got to portray that I'm ok all of the time

I really don't know what to do
 

COYBL25

Official GOT Joey Speak Interpreter.
Morning everyone,

I'm after some advice if possible, I really am all over the place at the minute and have no clue what I'm meant to do or how I'm going to get through this.

I haven't spoken to anyone yet so here it goes...

Long story short, a drunken lads weekend in Prague a few weeks ago led to a brass house. A split condom and weeks later and here I am, just finding out that I have contracted HIV. I've been so stressed over the past few weeks, crunching the statistical numbers trying to concise myself I haven't got it. A 3% chance a prostitute would carry the virus in Prague, then a 0.08% chance of contracting it... I guess I found myself in that small number!

Symptom after symptom appeared in the weeks following, I kept putting them down to other things but I could feel deep down I had it.

To make matters worse and this is what is killing me, I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and love her so much. I've held off any sexual contact for the past 6 weeks, she's in bits thinking I don't love her and I've found someone else... and I'm telling her it's stress with work... But she knows it's not.

I live with my girlfriends parents at the minute as we try to save for a house.

I really don't know how I'm going to tell her.

I don't want people knowing about my having the virus too. My girlfriend and friends know each other, and I know things are going to get around very quick and soon I will be spoken about everywhere and the stigma of HIV will hang above my head.

If I'm kicked out of her house and she splits up with me, I don't know what I'll do. I haven't got any parents except a brother who has his own family and I wouldn't want to be a burden. I feel like I can't tell any of my friends of family

All of this is just spiralling around my head, all right before Christmas.

I've got a job that can be very stressful and is client facing , meaning I've got to portray that I'm ok all of the time

I really don't know what to do
Hi mate,

If your`re in Liverpool, there`s a place called - Sahir House, who also host confidential drop ins at the Royal Hospital.

They will also help you and support you through this.

This is no way meant to be patronising or in any way detract from this horrendous and life changing situation that you find yourself in, but imo this is something so big that you`re going to need professional help and support through this.

If it was me, there`s no way I could handle this by myself, as you`ve got so much to contend with in the very near future.

Sahir House will guide you through how to tell people and help you move forward, as this won`t be the first time that they`ve helped someone in exactly the same situation a you now find yourself in.

My mates sister in law has worked for them and they are wonderful people.

Keep posting mate, even if it`s just to let off steam.
 

davids

Player Valuation: £60m
Bit insecure about something, just want to write it out and get it off my chest.

My new work has been going good really, nearly a year in now and feel very settled and think I'm very well liked and appreciated. It's just why I cant I shake this feeling that things are going TOO well?

I'm very much an individual and act like one. I'm polite, helpful and funny towards my colleagues but I'm also distant with them. I deliberately don't divulge personal information about myself whereas everyone else seems to share everything about their lives. That's their choice, but it's definitely not what I want to be doing with colleagues. I have a small circle of close friends, people I feel I can let loose with.

Tonight was our Christmas night out. I went along and was there a few hours but left once I began to feel like I wasnt enjoying myself. I tried to mix and be amiable but I just couldn't stop feeling like I was out of place, I decided to quietly slip away when everyone was up dancing. It was a nice evening out but I wasnt determined to stay out and get hammered but didn't want to make a thing out of leaving.

I keep having feelings of insecurity, like perhaps my lack of integrating myself is going to count against me at some point. Am i being paranoid?
There is increasing pressure in the modern world to be larger than life,nothing wrong with being quiet and thoughtful.Just be yourself and in the end it pays dividends.
 

Disgruntledgoat

Player Valuation: £70m
Morning everyone,

I'm after some advice if possible, I really am all over the place at the minute and have no clue what I'm meant to do or how I'm going to get through this.

I haven't spoken to anyone yet so here it goes...

Long story short, a drunken lads weekend in Prague a few weeks ago led to a brass house. A split condom and weeks later and here I am, just finding out that I have contracted HIV. I've been so stressed over the past few weeks, crunching the statistical numbers trying to concise myself I haven't got it. A 3% chance a prostitute would carry the virus in Prague, then a 0.08% chance of contracting it... I guess I found myself in that small number!

Symptom after symptom appeared in the weeks following, I kept putting them down to other things but I could feel deep down I had it.

To make matters worse and this is what is killing me, I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and love her so much. I've held off any sexual contact for the past 6 weeks, she's in bits thinking I don't love her and I've found someone else... and I'm telling her it's stress with work... But she knows it's not.

I live with my girlfriends parents at the minute as we try to save for a house.

I really don't know how I'm going to tell her.

I don't want people knowing about my having the virus too. My girlfriend and friends know each other, and I know things are going to get around very quick and soon I will be spoken about everywhere and the stigma of HIV will hang above my head.

If I'm kicked out of her house and she splits up with me, I don't know what I'll do. I haven't got any parents except a brother who has his own family and I wouldn't want to be a burden. I feel like I can't tell any of my friends of family

All of this is just spiralling around my head, all right before Christmas.

I've got a job that can be very stressful and is client facing , meaning I've got to portray that I'm ok all of the time

I really don't know what to do
Like @COYBL25 says, there are people who can help you through this and understand that you're not the first or the last person to go through this.
 

anjelikaferrett

Cats beer and Springsteen
Morning everyone,

I'm after some advice if possible, I really am all over the place at the minute and have no clue what I'm meant to do or how I'm going to get through this.

I haven't spoken to anyone yet so here it goes...

Long story short, a drunken lads weekend in Prague a few weeks ago led to a brass house. A split condom and weeks later and here I am, just finding out that I have contracted HIV. I've been so stressed over the past few weeks, crunching the statistical numbers trying to concise myself I haven't got it. A 3% chance a prostitute would carry the virus in Prague, then a 0.08% chance of contracting it... I guess I found myself in that small number!

Symptom after symptom appeared in the weeks following, I kept putting them down to other things but I could feel deep down I had it.

To make matters worse and this is what is killing me, I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and love her so much. I've held off any sexual contact for the past 6 weeks, she's in bits thinking I don't love her and I've found someone else... and I'm telling her it's stress with work... But she knows it's not.

I live with my girlfriends parents at the minute as we try to save for a house.

I really don't know how I'm going to tell her.

I don't want people knowing about my having the virus too. My girlfriend and friends know each other, and I know things are going to get around very quick and soon I will be spoken about everywhere and the stigma of HIV will hang above my head.

If I'm kicked out of her house and she splits up with me, I don't know what I'll do. I haven't got any parents except a brother who has his own family and I wouldn't want to be a burden. I feel like I can't tell any of my friends of family

All of this is just spiralling around my head, all right before Christmas.

I've got a job that can be very stressful and is client facing , meaning I've got to portray that I'm ok all of the time

I really don't know what to do
This is the NHS advice following a diagnosis. Some of it may be useful to you. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/hiv-and-aids/coping-with-a-positive-hiv-test/
 

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