It’s something I’ve been really conscious of with my 7 year old. It’s been a really tough year and she’s grown up a lot quicker than she would have done I think. You can’t shield them from everything and she found the transition from lockdown to back to school really tough. there were changes to her behaviour, she stopped sleeping, separation anxiety. Lots of things you would expect.
Shes inquisitive and bright and was asking a lot of questions about topical stuff (including COVID, cancer, the plague, BLM, BREXIT) but also stuff like Father Christmas and God.
I didn’t really expect to be having those kind of conversations with her so soon. She handled it all really well but in my mind she’s very young to be dealing with those things, particularly all at once.
She seems like a really emotionally intelligent bright little girl mate. Its good shes talking to you and asking those questions instead of internalising them and becoming, sad, angry upset or anxious. I think another poster saif thier little girl broke out in a rash and that can be the psychosomatic effect of stress.
In my experience and i work with a bit with kids going through, loss, change, enforced separation and the emotional impact of that - in what i do. When kids feel insecure you will notice two thing, either they will get really bold or really clingy. When children are struggling they will always show it their behavior. Essentially, two things make kids feel safe. Boundaries and nurturing.
Kids get bold, because subconsciously they want to reminded that their are rules in place to keep them safe, someone cares about them and that their is limit on what is allowed to keep them safe - bold kids want to made feel safe by being brought with a rule. Other kids become clingy, they are looking for close contact, nurturing and to be told that everything is going to be ok, loads of hugs, silly questions they know the answer to, wanting to not sleep alone, some regressive behavior (not to be worried about), speech impediments, forgetting to dress themselves, nightmares or bed wetting - reverting to a younger age to look for additional comfort - its 99 time sout of 100 tempory and the result of looking for support in a worrying time of change, loss and adjustment.
The above in my experience are very normal and not to minimize what kids are going through at the moment, its really unnatural and goes again their developmental needs. When you think about the reaction, it makes perfect sense, death number s on TV, everyone needing to be kept safe, being naturally separated from people to keep themselves and others safe - exposure to stressed adults they look to - to look after them like teachers etc, not being able or allowed to play with others - play is so important. Its all leads to an atmosphere of uncertainty, loss change, stress worry, and kids arent like us they absorb and react to that in a very different way.
What you daughter is reacting sounds very normal to me in what i see with kids dealing with in terms of stress, loss, change and adjustment and the support they need around that. If its any reassurance there is strong research to show that children who deal with adversity in their formative years, grow into more resilient adults then those who dont when they are younger.