Some Help!
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Tough like Steven Segall
I am not wobbly like jelly!!I am tough enough, 3 years of working with those bonafide intelligent pyscho's rubs off. We PT'ed with them, played the 'bad guys' in shooting exercises, so we got some good training. But, I am NOT a SEAL. I can out run a good deal of them, and I am a competant swimmer, but they can run all day with a 75lb ruck on their back, and are like fish in the water. They are unbelievable.
GhostOfDixie
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Tough like Steven Segall
I am tough enough, 3 years of working with those bonafide intelligent pyscho's rubs off. We PT'ed with them, played the 'bad guys' in shooting exercises, so we got some good training. But, I am NOT a SEAL. I can out run a good deal of them, and I am a competant swimmer, but they can run all day with a 75lb ruck on their back, and are like fish in the water. They are unbelievable.
What? jelly - Seagal rules, his films say so
better than that Van dam ver meyde from Belgium.
GhostOfDixie
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Double Impact - say no more.
Jon Mate, She best be the spitting image of Beyonce for you to put up with all that crap I only read upto page 7 ish but what I read was enough, Sleeping in the same bed as another bloke I mean come on. She's obviously dicking you around, throw that catch back in the sea mate. You can do and by the sounds of it deserve better.
Ok Jon I stayed well clear of this thread but after reading through I feel I need to give you some advice.
I went through a similar thing but when I was 18- it was my first love and I kept making excuses for her. At one point she was staying at my house and this other guy was staying at hers the next night- which I didnt know. When I found out I was devastated but people want what they cant have its human nature. I chased her for a bit and then it hit me- [Poor language removed] the bitch Im worth more than this. I completely stopped ringing her, going round her house etc etc
Do you know what happened next?! She started calling me saying she wanted to get back with me she had made a big mistake etc etc. I told her to do one and I had this new found confidence that meant I went on a bit of a bender with my mates and to be honest I got into quite a few pairs of knickers in tha time. It was my way of getting over it- no one got hurt and it was all good fun.
Mate I know its hard but read back what you have written- dont be a sucker you are making the same excuses I was- you are worth more than that and you know to say '[Poor language removed] that silly slag Im worth more than that!'
I went through a similar thing but when I was 18- it was my first love and I kept making excuses for her. At one point she was staying at my house and this other guy was staying at hers the next night- which I didnt know. When I found out I was devastated but people want what they cant have its human nature. I chased her for a bit and then it hit me- [Poor language removed] the bitch Im worth more than this. I completely stopped ringing her, going round her house etc etc
Do you know what happened next?! She started calling me saying she wanted to get back with me she had made a big mistake etc etc. I told her to do one and I had this new found confidence that meant I went on a bit of a bender with my mates and to be honest I got into quite a few pairs of knickers in tha time. It was my way of getting over it- no one got hurt and it was all good fun.
Mate I know its hard but read back what you have written- dont be a sucker you are making the same excuses I was- you are worth more than that and you know to say '[Poor language removed] that silly slag Im worth more than that!'
jon_efc
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i can see that mate.. but at the same time if she is staying at a house party... and she slept in the bed with her mate and him, and she swears she was fully dressed and she was on one side and him the other
she didnt have 2 tell me she was in a bed with him... i would never have found out.. thats why im thinking she is telling the truth !!
also... i know people dont want to know, but the fun we had last night, you could tell..... she hasnt been the excited in a long time.. trust me !!!
but u lot are worrying the [Poor language removed] out of me now !!
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jon_efc
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mick, this comment does worry me.. i have believed her completely so far... and i honestly want to.. its mad.. i think i know her.. and i really dont believe she could do it !! i dont know what to think !!! :S i just dont know !!! i trust her but everyone is telling me to open my eyes...
dont know..
i know im worth more than that.. and thats one thing good from this topic today !!and im going to make that clear in the letter, that im not going to tolerate being [Poor language removed] around any more !! im not going to be their on a piece of string for when she wants me , and then other times [Poor language removed] me off !! if she wants me, she wants me.... not just when it suits her !!
monty
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I was astonished how far this thread has gone in such a short time, lots of mates trying their best to help another out.
Jon, pleased you found that little quiet spot, with the right person its spot on man. I say the right person because from what I have read she so clearly is not the one for you, if she loved you the last thing she'd want to do is harm you in any way. Women are fickle, they can play with emotions like cat with a mouse, teasing, tweaking, pulling at the heart strings for their advantage. Most women try this at sometime because they like to experience the power they can hold over men, you become the puppet to her puppeteer. When the woman loves you she is always there for you, wants to help wants to assist because you are her man and she wants you exclusively.
Do not be fooled by your own emotions, it is those same emotions she will use against you for her ends. Most blokes have what used to be called a crush on some woman or other, what you are experiencing is slightly more than that but those same emotions are involved.
Mick says that you have to be strong, he is absolutely correct, you count as much as she does and from what you've written your relationship is a one way street. In life believe in yourself above all things, including your family, because only then can your family be secure. I managed to split from the first holder of the title Mrs Monty on Valentines day, it was the best days work I've ever done. When someone throws a bunch of flowers at you enough is enough leave as I did and I would never have found the present holder who I l--- (bloody four letter words ).
Your girlfiend appears to have scant regard for your feelings, you even make excuses for her when she should have done better, (late in work is cured by a text message rather than [Poor language removed] him let him wait). Dump her lad, it will hurt you like mad but that hurt is all a part of lifes education and you'll be that much better when you come out the otherside. Can you imagine wooing the right one in the secret place .
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Jon, pleased you found that little quiet spot, with the right person its spot on man. I say the right person because from what I have read she so clearly is not the one for you, if she loved you the last thing she'd want to do is harm you in any way. Women are fickle, they can play with emotions like cat with a mouse, teasing, tweaking, pulling at the heart strings for their advantage. Most women try this at sometime because they like to experience the power they can hold over men, you become the puppet to her puppeteer. When the woman loves you she is always there for you, wants to help wants to assist because you are her man and she wants you exclusively.
Do not be fooled by your own emotions, it is those same emotions she will use against you for her ends. Most blokes have what used to be called a crush on some woman or other, what you are experiencing is slightly more than that but those same emotions are involved.
Mick says that you have to be strong, he is absolutely correct, you count as much as she does and from what you've written your relationship is a one way street. In life believe in yourself above all things, including your family, because only then can your family be secure. I managed to split from the first holder of the title Mrs Monty on Valentines day, it was the best days work I've ever done. When someone throws a bunch of flowers at you enough is enough leave as I did and I would never have found the present holder who I l--- (bloody four letter words
).Your girlfiend appears to have scant regard for your feelings, you even make excuses for her when she should have done better, (late in work is cured by a text message rather than [Poor language removed] him let him wait). Dump her lad, it will hurt you like mad but that hurt is all a part of lifes education and you'll be that much better when you come out the otherside. Can you imagine wooing the right one in the secret place
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jon_efc
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I was astonished how far this thread has gone in such a short time, lots of mates trying their best to help another out.
Jon, pleased you found that little quiet spot, with the right person its spot on man. I say the right person because from what I have read she so clearly is not the one for you, if she loved you the last thing she'd want to do is harm you in any way. Women are fickle, they can play with emotions like cat with a mouse, teasing, tweaking, pulling at the heart strings for their advantage. Most women try this at sometime because they like to experience the power they can hold over men, you become the puppet to her puppeteer. When the woman loves you she is always there for you, wants to help wants to assist because you are her man and she wants you exclusively.
Do not be fooled by your own emotions, it is those same emotions she will use against you for her ends. Most blokes have what used to be called a crush on some woman or other, what you are experiencing is slightly more than that but those same emotions are involved.
Mick says that you have to be strong, he is absolutely correct, you count as much as she does and from what you've written your relationship is a one way street. In life believe in yourself above all things, including your family, because only then can your family be secure. I managed to split from the first holder of the title Mrs Monty on Valentines day, it was the best days work I've ever done. When someone throws a bunch of flowers at you enough is enough leave as I did and I would never have found the present holder who I l--- (bloody four letter words
Your girlfiend appears to have scant regard for your feelings, you even make excuses for her when she should have done better, (late in work is cured by a text message rather than [Poor language removed] him let him wait). Dump her lad, it will hurt you like mad but that hurt is all a part of lifes education and you'll be that much better when you come out the otherside. Can you imagine wooing the right one in the secret place
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nice post monty, and i agree. i cant believe how much this took off last night especially at the time of day it was !!
one excuse for the text message from work is because, genuinely she doesnt get signal in her work.. and thats a fact..she works in a restaurant with a tin roof and even outside it it struggles to get signal. i know im making excuses again... but only because im trying to piece the good bits back together, being stupid again !
about the power thing... agreed... but to be honest that has been the case through the whole relationship.. she does like to wear the trousers, but its wierd.. i make the decisions but when it comes to arguements, or i dunno silly things she gets her own way nearly 100% of the time !! but she has admitted that she is like this too me ! and she was like that with her ex too.
i know at the moment i am being a human battering ram too her, as and when she pleases ! i mean she hasnt even text today replying to my explanation last night ... and i dont think she will.. !
i am going to write this letter, and then go down and say my piece then walk off !!! its going to be horrible, and maybe it will kick her up the ass, but if not im going to have to deal with it and it will be hard !!!
i know my emotions get in the way of reality a bit, i know i take the blame and make excuses for her and the way she acts sometimes, and i dont know why i do that !! i honestly deep down, although all this thread has [Poor language removed] my head quite a lot... believe she is right for me !! and thats not just me being stupid !!... i also do believe what she is saying ... and the truth.. but i will find out tonight when i give her the letter.. ill watch her reactions etc !! and if she doesnt seem to care, or seems to get upset.. then clearly she is lying.. and thats it ... but i dont think that will be the case...
well i hope not !!
i do appreciate all the advice, but i hope you lot understand, its not as easy as you all say, especially when i am so badly in love !! i am not normally a walk over, only with her !! lol
monty... glad you found your special woman now
Robert Jarvis
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Jon, you say you are badly in love, are you sure. Does she love you? That does not seem to have come out at all in all the posts. Do you know how she feels? If she does then you are both heading the right way. But if not is the glass half full or half empty could be time to move on if that is the case.
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