Some Help!

[micknick]

mick, this comment does worry me.. i have believed her completely so far... and i honestly want to.. its mad.. i think i know her.. and i really dont believe she could do it !! i dont know what to think !!! :S i just dont know !!! i trust her but everyone is telling me to open my eyes...

dont know..

i know im worth more than that.. and thats one thing good from this topic today !!and im going to make that clear in the letter, that im not going to tolerate being [Poor language removed] around any more !! im not going to be their on a piece of string for when she wants me , and then other times [Poor language removed] me off !! if she wants me, she wants me.... not just when it suits her !!

Jon please do what I said and read back through what you have written- you are making excuses for her and thats not good, it really seems like you are trying to convince yourself.

No woman is worth putting yourself through this, you are who you are- if she doesnt like it find someone else that does.

 

[jon_efc]

Jon, you say you are badly in love, are you sure. Does she love you? That does not seem to have come out at all in all the posts. Do you know how she feels? If she does then you are both heading the right way. But if not is the glass half full or half empty could be time to move on if that is the case.

yes im sure im badly in love rob !!! really am lol !!! i know she is in love with me 2... she is very confused though, but i dont think its about me !!! i cant explain on here.. just know their is a lot more going on in her life at the moment !!

 

[Robert Jarvis]

Then give her some space, take it easy as though you were starting all over again. Meeting for drink, walk, meal etc

 

[jon_efc]

Jon please do what I said and read back through what you have written- you are making excuses for her and thats not good, it really seems like you are trying to convince yourself.

No woman is worth putting yourself through this, you are who you are- if she doesnt like it find someone else that does.

i am trying to convince myself!!! i know that... im being [Poor language removed] stupid !! but at the same time, i do think she wants me !! and i know she loves me !!

going to write this letter in a min, i know dylan said leave it until tomorrow.. but the sooner i get it out the way the better...

i sent a text b4 just saying "hope she is spending loads of money shopping xx" cause she has gone out for the day, but she is still not replying!! so this letter will put my mind 2 rest anyway !! i hope !!

 

[jon_efc]

Then give her some space, take it easy as though you were starting all over again. Meeting for drink, walk, meal etc

that is what we was doing, we met sunday and went for a light lunch and then sat off by chester river..

and then she initiated last night after a few nice texts !!! and now it seems im back to square 1 again !!

ahhhhhhh lol

 

[Latch]

By all means pour your heart out in that letter, tell her how much she means to you, as long as everything you write is honest and heartfelt then at least if things dont work out you will know that you couldn't have done or said anything more than you already had.
After you've given her the letter back off, give her space and time to think about what you have written, if there is still something strong between you that letter should/might be all that's needed to get you back together.
On the other hand, if she is indifferent to your letter, then, sorry to say mate, your feelings towards her are stronger than her's towards you!

 

[micknick]

i am trying to convince myself!!! i know that... im being [Poor language removed] stupid !! but at the same time, i do think she wants me !! and i know she loves me !!

going to write this letter in a min, i know dylan said leave it until tomorrow.. but the sooner i get it out the way the better...

i sent a text b4 just saying "hope she is spending loads of money shopping xx" cause she has gone out for the day, but she is still not replying!! so this letter will put my mind 2 rest anyway !! i hope !!

Dude you are freaking me out- its like reading a chapter from my life 10 years ago. I know its hard but the best thing you can do is leave well alone- I promise you if she does love you like she says, she will come running!

With you texting her and chasing her it only pushes her away as she knows you are waiting around for her.

 

[Robert Jarvis]

If you are back to square one then in the words of the song "Walk on by"

 

[jon_efc]

By all means pour your heart out in that letter, tell her how much she means to you, as long as everything you write is honest and heartfelt then at least if things dont work out you will know that you couldn't have done or said anything more than you already had.
After you've given her the letter back off, give her space and time to think about what you have written, if there is still something strong between you that letter should/might be all that's needed to get you back together.
On the other hand, if she is indifferent to your letter, then, sorry to say mate, your feelings towards her are stronger than her's towards you!

yup thats my intentions completely !!! going to say everything... including the fact that i dont deserve this [Poor language removed] n stuff !! and then back off as you say !! if she has the ounce of feelings that she says she has, then she will be in touch.. if not !!! she is not worth running after !

 

[jon_efc]

Dude you are freaking me out- its like reading a chapter from my life 10 years ago. I know its hard but the best thing you can do is leave well alone- I promise you if she does love you like she says, she will come running!

With you texting her and chasing her it only pushes her away as she knows you are waiting around for her.

haha ... scary mate !!

this letter is not going to be a letter chasing her ... its going to be basically explaining everything !! and basically telling her that i dont deserve this [Poor language removed] and im not going to be a walk over as and when she wants it !! im not going to be treated badly any more.. and that i intend to back off and move on !!!

 

[jon_efc]

If you are back to square one then in the words of the song "Walk on by"

i am feeling that at the moment .... and thinking of saying ... screw all this !!!

but at the same time.. i think i will regret giving up without having my opinion be heard !!

 

[Latch]

yup thats my intentions completely !!! going to say everything... including the fact that i dont deserve this [Poor language removed] n stuff !! and then back off as you say !! if she has the ounce of feelings that she says she has, then she will be in touch.. if not !!! she is not worth running after !

best of luck Jon, and just remember mate, even if all this comes to nothing, you will get over her, although you probably dont think you will at the moment.

 

[jon_efc]

best of luck Jon, and just remember mate, even if all this comes to nothing, you will get over her, although you probably dont think you will at the moment.

cheers latch, i know if it doesnt work out then its not meant to be, even if it doesnt feel it at the moment !! and i know time is the best healer !!

but ..... still fingers crossed lol

 

[Robert Jarvis]

Latch is right, it is hard another hard point is that there are plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[monty]

Jon, and this will really test you, try this out, find an old girlfriend and ask her out telling the other one what you are doing, you'll soon see what side the bread is buttered by her reaction. Most on here will have gone through similar hence the combined advice is to ditch her, I'll resurrect this thread before Christmas and I hope you are saying 'Oh shucks lads you were right'