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Sorry I have not replied on this one yet jon, but my observations up to now within this thread.

You treated her great and lavished her with treats and spoiled her, then you lost your job 3 weeks ago and she has cooled off. I just want to ask, did she cool off before you lost your job, or after you lost your job and is she now missing these treats. With that in mind, does she love you and making you feel good, or does she love the way you make her feel.

If she loves the way you make her feel then the world is a big place and there are many more lobsters in the pot mate. She obviously is being selfish(not shellfish)

If she loves you and making you feel great then you are a lucky man and you should listen to what she says and give her the space she may need. Maybe there are problems in her life and with your recent bad news she cannot bring herself to tell you.

In a nutshell mate you should NEVER have to change the way you are to be with someone. It is when 2 people are being completely natural and still find each other happy that makes things work. Maybe the spark has dwindled, maybe you are both growing up and changing, or maybe with your recent times you are getting paranoid over nothing. I would invite her out for a drink and thrash it out. If she hesitates over this idea for any time then I can only advise you to stroll on mate and close that chapter of your life.
 
Dear Jon,

Sack her off. She's taking the piss out of you and your losing any ounce of self respect by doing this [Poor language removed] and chasing after her. A couple of points to help clear your head, from another angle.

1) If I was that lad in the bed with your ex and her mate, theres no [Poor language removed] way they would leave that bed without being coerced into a bit of filth. Thats how it is, and thats what probably happened.
2) She's loving the attention mate, take a step outside and look at what you would tell a mate if he was being treated in the same way. Shes feeding her young ego at your expense. [Poor language removed] her off now.
3) Get into her best mate or one of her female associates willing to sleep with you.
4) If you dont contact her from this point onwards, no contact at all, she will be back on within a week. Even then you tell her that youre enjoying the space and that youre busy on the weekend. You will be handed the leash back on the relationship and you control that dirty pony once more.
5) She's loose mate and wants some strange cock. You cant stop it, do yourself a favour and start ratting ASAP. Within a month she will be a distant memory.


Dont forget to [Poor language removed] with her mind a bit first, if she is a size ten or above she will be paranoid that shes a bit overweight so tell her youre into skinny girls now.

Whatever you do, sort yourself out and drop her. She's really not worth it and will end up getting viciously bummed by the town gobshite within a month and her heart broken. Not the type of girl youre after (well, for a relationship anyway).

Yours truly

Dr C Azul
 
I have just read the bits about her cheating in the past and her recent times sharing beds after parties.

Wipe your hands jon, walk away, [Poor language removed] her off, all the above. Listen to Dr C Azul very carefully.
 
Chico you are my hero.

Where were you when I was getting my heart broken as a young lad too dumb to know better?

(probably shagging my misses on the sly)
 
There is no bird in the world worth getting too arsed about, apart from those lucky of us to have our mother alive.

Everything else is insignifigant.

Girls are ace, once you learn how to play them.
 
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Not replied to this thread before.. but I have to agree with teh others here..

If she's cheating on you, then she can't have the feelings she says she has.

Leave her and take your chances with someone else.. otherwise you'll only be hurt again.

There is a songline that goes:

"Shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice"

You'll only set yourself up for more of the same if you don't walk away.
 
writing the letter as we speak !!!

starting with a simple... i know we was once good and i thought u was the one !!! but to be honest... i cant cope with the way things have become the past few weeks !!

etc etc..

chico, dont really appreaciate your manner of writing during a rough time that im going through, i can appreciate what your saying but its the manner in which you say it !!!

as for staying in bed with another lad... if what she says is true, although still not a nice thought she isnt doing anything wrong !!! and its just somewhere to sleep after a night out.. i have done it in the past, before i was with her ...

she cheated on me a long time ago, she isnt cheating on me as such now, and in fairness to the girl she told me everything !!

im not going to continue sticking up for her, just going to give her this letter then escape !!!
 
"she cheated on me a long time ago, she isnt cheating on me as such now, and in fairness to the girl she told me everything !!"

or what she thought you wanted to hear.
 
SuitsBlue said:
"she cheated on me a long time ago, she isnt cheating on me as such now, and in fairness to the girl she told me everything !!"

or what she thought you wanted to hear.
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nahh suits... i honestly believe her over this !!! i would never have found out, and didnt have too.. !! im not going to go into this right now!
 
slaps in face*

You need someone to spell it out to you lad, if you write that letter you will look like a cock. Dont give her that satisfaction.

You know that what I said has gone through your head and in all likeliness is true.
 
chicoazul said:
You need someone to spell it out to you lad, if you write that letter you will look like a cock. Dont give her that satisfaction.
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struggle to disagree there chico. its been how many pages and highlighting of rather contencious points and stories?

current status M.I.A
 
chicoazul said:
slaps in face*

You need someone to spell it out to you lad, if you write that letter you will look like a cock. Dont give her that satisfaction.

You know that what I said has gone through your head and in all likeliness is true.
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chico, its for my peace of mind !!! i dont give a toss if she laughs at it, shows her mates or watever !! honestly i dont !!!

although i dont think she will !!

its my peace of mind, so i at least know.. i have made that bit of effort to at least try and sort things from my end, which what ever all of you say, is what i want !!

at the end of the day, if nothing comes from it , at least i wont be thinkin... what if .. what if !!! because thats what i have been doing the past 3 weeks etc..

i think thats fair enough!!
 
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