Some Help!

[jon_efc]

OK...

I know this is a football forum, but hey what the hell !!!

A lot of you already know my recent problems about my relationship with my ex girlfriend... well we met up on sunday and had a nice day together, but i didnt try and push the situation so gave her space afterwards..

but we was having a nice text conversation last night, for the first time since we split and all went well ! Anyway i told her i was going to sleep and then about an hour later she text saying she wanted me to pick her up from work today and she wanted a romantic time, candles and music etc.

After speaking to a few people, i have been told its probably best not to do exactly as she asks, because its basically jumping the 2nd she clicks her fingers, but i do want a special time with her..

I was going to just make something to eat and if she asked why i didnt do candles n what not (which i have done in the past).. i was going to say i thought it was better to make the romance just from ourselves etc... we dont need materialistic stuff..

But the dilemma is this...

She doesnt finish work till 3 and wouldnt get back to mine till half 3.. and just spoken to my mum who thinks she will be home at 4 today, brill hey!! so we cant really get any time alone !! and i did ask my mum if she could stay out for a bit but she said no!

So... Although your mainly all lads, i thought i would try and seek some advice on what to do now !!! .. Any1 know of any really romantic spots with nice views etc on the wirral or surrounding areas !! somewhere i could put a blanket down.. not be interupted and be romantic !!

Either that or any1 got any other ideas ??? Just need to try and get this right !!! cause she does honestly mean the world too me! I would get a hotel etc, but dont want to seem full on !

Come on people, ideas... !!!

 

[GhostOfDixie]

Ok,

Idea 1, probably a long term thought, but how about moving out and getting your own place???

Idea 2, Has to really be indoors, because over here in the Wirral, it looks like a storm is brewing.

What are your finances like?

 

[monty]

Well worried of Wirral here is my advice and I give you two options

Option one.

Take her to Parkgate, early evening at one of the many restuarants or bars along the front ensuring that you leave the place before 20:00 hours. Jump in your car, or walk depending on your intention, to the Wirral Way at the West Kirkby end of the prom and srtoll in the woodland having her romantically watch the sun set over Hilbre and the Dee estuary, used to always ensure a jump.

Option two

Again take her to one of the many restuarants in Hoylake, again leave in time for the sunset from Hoylake prom. This is less romantic unless you drive down to Red Rocks and the sand dunes which in turn can prove uncomfortable if sand gets in the way, if you follow my drift.

From what you say you want her, she wants you but you may not have been showing her enough attention, of the female kind. Flatter her, woo her and enjoy.

(a bill will be sent if either strategem is successful )

Hope this is of some use mate

 

[zero]

Erm, what I would do is bribe your mum with £20 or whatever so she pisses off and problem solved...used to work for my mum all the time.

Never really had a problem like yours though, I'd say eat the meal in your bedroom atleast that way you get the privacy you want. If your room is big enough for table and chairs that is.

Hope that helps mate, all the best

 

[jon_efc]

Ok,

Idea 1, probably a long term thought, but how about moving out and getting your own place???

Idea 2, Has to really be indoors, because over here in the Wirral, it looks like a storm is brewing.

What are your finances like?

yeh mate, looking at getting my own place. but lost my job 3 weeks ago.. just before we split.. so that isnt exactly feasable at the moment, but a priority its definately becoming !!! To be honest i think i have enjoyed the luxury of being at home too much !!

it does look a bit crap weather doesnt it, typical because its been nice the past few days !! havent got that much funds at the moment, after a heavy weekend !! so trying to do it cheap ish.. but nice !!! thinking of going somewhere to eat, then romantic.. then back to mine for a film and snuggle !!

 

[zero]

Wait a minute, you lost your job then you split up with your girlfriend...that was nice of her.

 

[jon_efc]

Well worried of Wirral here is my advice and I give you two options

Option one.

Take her to Parkgate, early evening at one of the many restuarants or bars along the front ensuring that you leave the place before 20:00 hours. Jump in your car, or walk depending on your intention, to the Wirral Way at the West Kirkby end of the prom and srtoll in the woodland having her romantically watch the sun set over Hilbre and the Dee estuary, used to always ensure a jump.

thing about parkgate, is i know its a lovely place etc.. but she is from north wales and prob wont appreciate it as much, looks like just marsh land lol..

where is the wirral way west kirby end?? trying to think !!! and is the woodland close??

Option two

Again take her to one of the many restuarants in Hoylake, again leave in time for the sunset from Hoylake prom. This is less romantic unless you drive down to Red Rocks and the sand dunes which in turn can prove uncomfortable if sand gets in the way, if you follow my drift.

From what you say you want her, she wants you but you may not have been showing her enough attention, of the female kind. Flatter her, woo her and enjoy.

(a bill will be sent if either strategem is successful )

Hope this is of some use mate

i was giving her attention... bloody hell i spoil her rotten, but sometimes it gets forgotten by both parties... and taken for granted !!

we spent to much time together at the end.. because her family was away, so i literally moved in for 2 weeks.. then my mum was away so she came here for another week !! and come the end i think it just got too much !!

plus their was another factor which needed to be sorted, which has been now... but at the time was causing stupid arguements !!

 

[jon_efc]

Erm, what I would do is bribe your mum with £20 or whatever so she pisses off and problem solved...used to work for my mum all the time.

Never really had a problem like yours though, I'd say eat the meal in your bedroom atleast that way you get the privacy you want. If your room is big enough for table and chairs that is.

Hope that helps mate, all the best

my mum is quite awkward..i mean i asked her to if she could stay out after work for just another hour and she wouldnt ! she thinks im being stupid and allowing her to just walk over me , but its not that easy..! and i think i know her well enough to judge for myself !

i am thinking of going somewhere ... not sure where yet.. anyone know of any fun cheap places, silly places etc... that we could go for an hour or two... and then come back here get a takeaway and put a dvd on !!

 

[jon_efc]

Wait a minute, you lost your job then you split up with your girlfriend...that was nice of her.

it wasnt as simple as that.. i was on a contract in work... and they never renewed it... lost my job so felt low.. and you take it out on the people closest to you dont you !!!

 

[GhostOfDixie]

Did you just say where is the Wirral???

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Does she ever do anything thoughtful for you?

 

[jon_efc]

Did you just say where is the Wirral???

did i say that??

didnt mean too.. i should know lol.. i live their !! think i was meant to say where is the wirral way , west kirby end !!

and bruce yeah she does, she isnt as romantic as me... thats been my role through the relationship, but she does her own things that let me know how she feels !! although when she is romantic, she is gurrrrrd at it !! why ya ask?

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Just these things have to be reciprical. I've been in a similar situation before and she was only giving things a second chance to ease her concience. If she felt like you do then you wouldn't be in this situation in the first place.

 

[jon_efc]

thats true bruce..

but i do believe we are good together, and thats not just because i love her and what not !!! i mean i have been in many a relationship and broke up and its been hard but its moved on etc..

this one felt soooooo wrong when it happend !

its been 3 weeks almost now, and to be honest she has pushed me as much out of her life as much as she possibly could without cutting every single tie!

i think sometimes its good to have time apart, however much it [Poor language removed] hurts ! and you realise why you want each other and how it should be !! also it gives you time to realise the mistakes you might make !!

In all fairness, its normally me asking her to do something.. and this time its her... so i believe she is being genuine !!!

I might be putting all my eggs in one basket here, but can you blame me ??

 

[SuitsBlue]

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