Some Help!

[jon_efc]

i agree about being my choice thing, was just trying to get some ideas

whats conflicting in that by the way?? i do love her to bits, but she knows that !! i have backed off a bit over the past few days, and kind of been more casual rather than in her face.. and it seems to have worked !!

all the girl / friends have told me to back off !!

also i think she has to earn things from me, if i just hand it on a plate... then she wont respect that deep down !!! dunno thats just my angle of seeing things !!

 

[SuitsBlue]

N / A

 

[jon_efc]

no it was my female friends who told me ... dont be full on ... not her friends !!

they all say, if a lad is in your face when they need time.. texting telling you how much he loves you etc... all it does it end up pushing them away and pissing them off !!!

that has kind of happened here... but i have backed off recently.. and even sunday when i met her i didnt try and force the situation..

if tonight is what its meant to be, i will put all the stops out !! but ill need to feel the vibes first of course !!

im not trying to test her.. not in the slightest, i know she loves me !! i am trying to give her time and space..

nice one suits.. the world isnt at the end.. and to be honest im more upbeat about everything than i have been for a long time !!

just getting ready now

 

[jon_efc]

keep your fingers crossed.. leaving now to meet her... if im not back on tonight you know its all going well haha !!!

thanks people !!

 

[chicoazul]

See my previous posts on how to win control of the relationship back.

When you meet her, make sure she clocks you checking out slimmer/younger versions of her. Do it discreetly or you will look like a ted.

Get her pissed, if shes from North Wales then she's fair game, book a cheap nasty B&B, and ram her until she begs for mercy. Pummell her like a powerdrill. When finished dont even kiss her. Take your things, leave and get a taxi.

She'll on the phone begging for forgiveness the next day.

Trust me, Im a pervert.

 

[zero]

See my previous posts on how to win control of the relationship back.

When you meet her, make sure she clocks you checking out slimmer/younger versions of her. Do it discreetly or you will look like a ted.

Get her pissed, if shes from North Wales then she's fair game, book a cheap nasty B&B, and ram her until she begs for mercy. Pummell her like a powerdrill. When finished dont even kiss her. Take your things, leave and get a taxi.

She'll on the phone begging for forgiveness the next day.

Trust me, Im a pervert.

LMAO! ah yes, I never knew Chico doubled up as hitch the date doctor.

 

[monty]

See my previous posts on how to win control of the relationship back.

When you meet her, make sure she clocks you checking out slimmer/younger versions of her. Do it discreetly or you will look like a ted.

Get her pissed, if shes from North Wales then she's fair game, book a cheap nasty B&B, and ram her until she begs for mercy. Pummell her like a powerdrill. When finished dont even kiss her. Take your things, leave and get a taxi.

She'll on the phone begging for forgiveness the next day.

Trust me, Im a pervert.

Chico, why a b&b, a bus shelter was always good enough in Kirkby, or the bunker at the 10th on the golf course.

Jon

If you look out at Parkgate, WK is to your right. There is a pub at the end of the prom, a turn off to the country park is just alongside the pub, at least it did do when I last made use of it.

Sit her down with her back to the sea and as the sun sets, tell her how gorgeous she looks with the light reflected in her hair, say you love her with all your heart and whisper into her ear passionate murmourings of loves desire, with luck you'll get some action!

You have got to post on here telling us all how you got on, there will be questions!

 

[chicoazul]

I used to see a bird from Heswall for a while.

Parkgate still carries my unique scent because of this.

 

[monty]

I used to see a bird from Heswall for a while.

Parkgate still carries my unique scent because of this.

and heres me thinking it was Neston sewerage works

 

[jon_efc]

well it went kinda well... well sort of lol

didnt go according to plan though... went to pick her up for 3 but she didnt get out till almost 4 pm and then as soon as she got in the car she sed i was only seeing her till 7/8pm cause she was meeting her mates..

so my plans to go to hatchmere lake and an icecream farm kind of went out of the window !!

went back to mine, and instantly got romantic, not gonna go into detail obviously but had a fun night !!!

didnt talk about anything again, but she was talking about the future and stuff.. just didnt mention about us !!

dropped her off bout half 8, and then got a text saying... she wanted to be straight with me, had a lovely night but still confused.. and she enjoys the last few days together, but it doesnt make up for things or make her forget, then she sed sorry and love you xxx

the main problem before was a lack of trust cause she kissed someone a few months earlier !! which we have only recently sorted out and i said i trust her 100% now

text her back saying, i know it doesnt solve it over night, and it takes time, but i need a chance to prove it can all be different etc..

THEN THE [Poor language removed] HIT THE FAN !!!

at the weekend she kissed a lad at a house party n stayed in a bed with him and her mate, i knew this anyway and she sed she never slept with him but i never asked any further ...

i thought it best to ask her mate rather than her cause it could cause another arguement and she said nothing happened.. so i left it be!! i trust her !! (i wanted to know anything sexual, not sex cause i know she wouldnt do that)

and then tonight her mate told her i asked her on the phone.. and she said, so much for trust etc !! bahhh !! through text

text her back trying to explain that i thought i had the right to know if we are trying to work things out, i couldnt get back with her if something happened etc.. but i didnt want to spoil the niceness or make her feel awkward by asking her direct.. i thought it was simpler !!

now she aint replying to me !!! so who knows..

going down tomorrow night, giving her a letter ... i cant put up with this rollercoaster any more.. so going to say my piece.. then its down 2 her.. im not running after her any more !!! however much i love her, it it [Poor language removed] my head too much etc !!

she knows ill do anything to sort us, but she has to give us the chance etc !!

anyway.. their is the update guys !!! happy days hey !!

oh and thanks for the kind words chico...

and monty.. i know where you mean now!!

 

[GhostOfDixie]

speechless mate, speechless.

 

[jon_efc]

yup me 2 mate...

spoke 2 her mate on the net before.. and she said, and ill quote lol (btw bad text type here)

(00:00) Jon: do u still fink we have a future?
(00:00) xxxXChEzXxxx: yeh defo no doubt bat it, she will coem through i think soon, an say to ya wat she wnts

so going to do my piece tomorrow.. and thats it... gonna say everything i want.. and how it should be etc.. and then tell her its in her court, but im not waiting around anymore [Poor language removed] my head up

 

[GhostOfDixie]

To be honest with you mate, its hard to forget your girl with someone else, however brief the encounter was, alcohol induced or whatever. Thing is, if you can see yourself with this girl in 20 years time with children, then go for it, if not then get out now and give the head [Poor language removed] a break, its only going to get easier or harder.

Ending it all could be the best or worse decision. Its really perception that is the answer.

 

[SuitsBlue]

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[jon_efc]

mate, honestly !!! and i have never ever felt like this !!! i do think i can see myself being with her in 20 years... honestly !! i know we have only been together 15 months, but its more than just another relationship..

and i have had a few long ones !

as for the kiss, yes i know it not easy to forget.. but we was split up and i cant call them shots, at the end of the day, she told me she was very very drunk and she kissed him and she said it was horrible to be honest..

and didnt do anything else with him even though he tried..

she kissed someone else back in april when she was personally going through a rough time, she was very confused and upset and yes it broke my heart.
and i never thought i could forgive her !! but i have!

the arguement before we split was because of her cheating, i needed to talk about it, understand it, and hear from her that she would never do it again! but she couldnt talk about it, she isnt the type to express emotions etc..

once we would have had that talk i would have been able to trust her 100%.. but since we split i realised, the past is the past, she has made mistakes! but i cant live forever with them upsetting me which they do! i decided if we sort things to 100% trust her, because honestly she is the nicest girl ever and is not a slapper or bitch, just made a mistake !!!