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Well let me say this, in 20 years time, when all this suppressed emotion finally comes out, and it will, it may be too late to turn the clock back.

Thing is mate, 15 months isn't a lifetime, 15 months ago I was in Turkey, and it seems like yesterday.

Also you could bump into someone tomorrow who blows you away.

Maybe you should say to her that you need to think about what you want to do in the future, perhaps go away for a while - make her pine. If she pine's then maybe there is a future. If your chasing her all over the place, then she will be in charge and think that if she did it again, you would still come back to her.
 
John before reading the rest of the thread I initially though "[Poor language removed] her off"

If you ever split up with a girl, never go back. If shes "the one" then you'll never have a reason to split up. Been with mine for nearly 2 years and haven't even had an argument yet, lifes to short, if theres any stress/hassle/constant arguments/no trust, get rid and find another one.
 
suits nice post, but not all agreed with obviously !! she was in work and meant to be until 3, but 2 people phoned in sick and she had to stay until cover came in, so im not at all bothered about that !! and about staying with me until 7/8, thats just a lack of communication.. She text me saying she wanted to see me etc, but didnt say it was going to be all night, i just presumed.. so again.. not exactly her fault !

the text she sent me, i think she is trying to do the right thing !! i dont think she is cutting ties like that, but maybe im wrong !! yeah it doesnt make sense the fact it seems i am getting the blame for everything.. but i dont know?? i thought it was just stupid times etc, and she originally said it wasnt me at all.. it was her not wanting to settle down just now.. so confused and need to speak about this !!

i am allowing her the power, and it does bother me cause i feel like a right loser ! i said we can sort stuff in the text regarding the trust stuff cause obviously i need to prove i trust her now !!

and as for saying she slept with someone, i know... and i mean this fully.. she wont have done anything with anyone !!! honestly know this, and thats not me being niave (sp) so not worried about anything their !!

the letter is simply a final straw, i dont think she will show her mates, but to be honest i dont care anyway !! im not close with her mates outside of her anyway !
 
GhostOfDixie said:
Well let me say this, in 20 years time, when all this suppressed emotion finally comes out, and it will, it may be too late to turn the clock back.

Thing is mate, 15 months isn't a lifetime, 15 months ago I was in Turkey, and it seems like yesterday.

Also you could bump into someone tomorrow who blows you away.

Maybe you should say to her that you need to think about what you want to do in the future, perhaps go away for a while - make her pine. If she pine's then maybe there is a future. If your chasing her all over the place, then she will be in charge and think that if she did it again, you would still come back to her.
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agreed its not a lifetime, and yes i might meet someone tomorrow! but at the moment i do think she is the one i want.. and thats not me just being a scapegoat!!

i agree i need to get away... i am simply going to give her this letter explaining things.. nothing over the top, lovey dovey or anything, just explaining, and explaining why im going !!!
 
So why don't you bugger off travelling for a while, few months, clear your head. See something of the world - say that you will be back in 2 months and if she's yours when you get back then its meant to be. If not then at least you have time away to get used to not being with her.
 
GrandOldTeam.com said:
John before reading the rest of the thread I initially though "[Poor language removed] her off"

If you ever split up with a girl, never go back. If shes "the one" then you'll never have a reason to split up. Been with mine for nearly 2 years and haven't even had an argument yet, lifes to short, if theres any stress/hassle/constant arguments/no trust, get rid and find another one.
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Agreed their danny to a certain extent, but we are still young and making mistakes and maturing etc !!

the last 3 weeks of the relationship we spent in each others pockets which wasnt healthy !! all of this has been learnt and can be sorted now if we sort things..

sometimes it does need a kick up the arse to realise how things are meant to be, and that doesnt mean feelings etc

as for trust.. i do trust her !!! she has made her mistake and i have punished her for it !!
 
GhostOfDixie said:
So why don't you bugger off travelling for a while, few months, clear your head. See something of the world - say that you will be back in 2 months and if she's yours when you get back then its meant to be. If not then at least you have time away to get used to not being with her.
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im actually thinking of doing that mate, but kind of wanted to see what was going on first before jumping ship.. i think the end of this week will make that decision for me, and then maybe, ill be over some nice sunny beach soon lol

i know i sound pathetic in this topic a bit, and i know she isnt treating me right at the moment, but i do honestly believe the girl is awesome !!! thats why i am trying to sort things... but if you lot are right, which i hope your not, i owe you all drinks... but please dont think im a cock for sticking up for her... !
 
SuitsBlue said:
monty -

"stupid times" ?

she doesnt want to commit, then [Poor language removed] that whore off ! sharpish !!!

if someone said to me that a loved one made them feel "feel like a right loser" then i would ad do say - no one that loved or loves you would ever do that.

game over!

trust is earned.

there are plenty out there, this one needs an elbow to the curb.
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Agreed mate. John if she done it once, she'd do it again.

As for the 'she was drunk' excuse, thats no excuse in my books.
 
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