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The signals are already there mate, read them.

It doesnt take a personality profiler to deduct that she's stringing you along and making herself feel wanted at your expense.

Just try this: Dont send the letter, dont text her, call her, email her for a week and leave the ball in her court. Thats letting her know what you feel.

You have done far than enough to convince her of your feelings for her. Let your soul rest at this.

Now go out tonight and rat something truly dirty. The clarity obtained from the aforementioned moment of filth will be worthwhile.
 
I've decided that no matter what we say or advise to him he's going to do what he wants to do anyway. Let him learn for himself what its like and I'm sure he'll come back and say you guys are all right she was a slapper after all.

He has to make the mistake, before he can learn from it.
 
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chicoazul said:
The signals are already there mate, read them.

It doesnt take a personality profiler to deduct that she's stringing you along and making herself feel wanted at your expense.

Just try this: Dont send the letter, dont text her, call her, email her for a week and leave the ball in her court. Thats letting her know what you feel.

You have done far than enough to convince her of your feelings for her. Let your soul rest at this.

Now go out tonight and rat something truly dirty. The clarity obtained from the aforementioned moment of filth will be worthwhile.
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Great advice Ged, we've all tried, he'll learn like we all did you big softie you(y)
 
well its 2 late anyway, i sent the letter... via my father and it got their at 11pm

i text about 8 saying i cant put up with all this anymore, im sending a letter 2 explain

and she replied, its 2 late now you have blown it, regarding speaking to her mate about her !!!

we spoke briefly on the phone , and i said i would call her back after she got the letter

so phoned just before 12 and she was crying her eyes out, i said my final piece and left it , she told me she loved me and she needed time to think about the letter etc, so i said, its up to you but cant wait forever as im hurting etc... i just sed text me..

then we both said love you then left it !!!

so their ya go... all done !!! i have done all i can do ... explained everything, how i feel and stuff.. and how i deserve better than this... so its up 2 her now to make the effort if she wants me !! if not its just time 2 move on, horribly but true !!!

if she is worth it she will realise in a few days
 
jon_efc said:
well its 2 late anyway, i sent the letter... via my father and it got their at 11pm

i text about 8 saying i cant put up with all this anymore, im sending a letter 2 explain

and she replied, its 2 late now you have blown it, regarding speaking to her mate about her !!!

we spoke briefly on the phone , and i said i would call her back after she got the letter

so phoned just before 12 and she was crying her eyes out, i said my final piece and left it , she told me she loved me and she needed time to think about the letter etc, so i said, its up to you but cant wait forever as im hurting etc... i just sed text me..

then we both said love you then left it !!!

so their ya go... all done !!! i have done all i can do ... explained everything, how i feel and stuff.. and how i deserve better than this... so its up 2 her now to make the effort if she wants me !! if not its just time 2 move on, horribly but true !!!

if she is worth it she will realise in a few days
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I admire your determination Jon, best of luck and remember heart ache does go away although you might not think so at the time(y) (y)
 
jon_efc said:
well its 2 late anyway, i sent the letter... via my father and it got their at 11pm

i text about 8 saying i cant put up with all this anymore, im sending a letter 2 explain

and she replied, its 2 late now you have blown it, regarding speaking to her mate about her !!!

we spoke briefly on the phone , and i said i would call her back after she got the letter

so phoned just before 12 and she was crying her eyes out, i said my final piece and left it , she told me she loved me and she needed time to think about the letter etc, so i said, its up to you but cant wait forever as im hurting etc... i just sed text me..

then we both said love you then left it !!!

so their ya go... all done !!! i have done all i can do ... explained everything, how i feel and stuff.. and how i deserve better than this... so its up 2 her now to make the effort if she wants me !! if not its just time 2 move on, horribly but true !!!

if she is worth it she will realise in a few days
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I'm no [Poor language removed] Miriam Stoppard mate but i think you did the right thing, the ball is in her court now, leave her be and wait for her to make the next move, give her a week if you can manage it, if she ain't been in touch by then phone her and ask her one last time if she wants to get back with you, if she still says she needs time then put the phone down on her without saying anything and get on with your life.
 
This thread has brought more posts than the Yakubu signing and all in two days, we are a caring lot on here(y) (y)
 
Latch said:
I'm no [Poor language removed] Miriam Stoppard mate but i think you did the right thing, the ball is in her court now, leave her be and wait for her to make the next move, give her a week if you can manage it, if she ain't been in touch by then phone her and ask her one last time if she wants to get back with you, if she still says she needs time then put the phone down on her without saying anything and get on with your life.
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yup well said latch !!! i feel i done the right thing too.. sometimes it does take a hell of a kick up the arse to realise you are doing something so wrong and making a mistake !!

i feel happier now anyway knowing she knows exactly how i feel !! and i know it sounds sick, but hearing her cry was nice, cause it was a reaction... and i wasnt sure if i would get one or not !!

i done a similar thing myself a few years back with an earlier ex, not to the same degree but midway through the relationship i got bored, i didnt finish it i done the ultimate twatting thing... i just ignored her, strung her along , answered her calls on the odd occasion and wouldnt be very chatty etc...

i was going through a wierd time in life, all i wanted to do was go and see my mates, i came home from work and literally went straight their.. and was their all night !!

i dont think i seen her for a month, and in all fairness to the girl.. she took it !! although she did cry sometimes.. i cant remember 100% but i remember just not giving a [Poor language removed] over anything she done etc.. and one day i seen a message from some lad saying about meeting up with her etc, it kicked me up the arse big time and made me realise, i went down and had it out ..

it turned out they were just mates and talking about me and stuff but it woke me up !!!

I dont know what was going on in my head, because im honestly not like that...i would never normally treat someone like that ... so maybe its a similar thing, not making excuses but maybe ! ??

we sorted things out and although we didnt last, it was like it is with me and the current ex anyway, although we was together 18 months it wasnt the same connection etc.. She ended up finishing me about 6 months later but for different reasons, and yes i was bothered.. but not even close to my current ex!! She basically finished me because i was bored of not doing stuff so gave her an ultimatum and she ended it haha !!! i was shocked !!

oh well moral of the story is, sometimes everyone can go through rough patches and not realise what they are doing, sometimes too late, and sometimes you get a kick up the arse just in time !!

but thanks for your support most of you, ill keep it updated obviously.. now its high profile on this site lol
 
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