Thanks for all the nice remarks as it is a terrible situation he is in .He told me that he doesn't want to meet people ,for someone who talks ( too much ) to anyone it is hard to understand but as we know he is not the only one even on here . His biggest problem stems from the fact he seems let down by those around him ,from what he told me that seems a bit OTT but it is not me so how can I judge ,not that I want to .It seems so hard to understand when you don't know all the facts ,we have been apart for 25 years other than his visits .
He was fresh out of uni when I left so the real truth is that as a man I don't know him ,how hard it was for his wife and much more .There is so much I would love to say to help but the fear of saying the wrong thing is my biggest concern . It is the past that he is struggling with but that cannot be changed !
I have had many problems in my life but I think from being self-employed I have just taken them on the chin and moved on ,sadly for him with his head in computers all day he cannot do it .I suggested yesterday that he has to do something different from his normal daily routine ,I asked when was the last time he went on the ferry over the mersey ,is my old bike still there to ride out for a break? things like that because he is on his computer night and day .
I come online normally around 6 a.m. and he is on facebook then which is 4a.m. in the UK .
He chats with people in Japan and the States for computers so that is one long day ,how can I try to stop that so he can get some sleep ?
Another problem is his mother doesn't believe he has any problems ! All she suggests is getting back to Cornwall near his kids . I think he has fallen out of love with many aspects of his life and the house/cottage they live in being quite small is one of them .
Sorry to ramble on but posting this does help me see straight ,I hope .
