My mother in law after going into hospital for slight heart trouble in A&E - the NHS probably stretched somehow managed to break he hip & wrist - 6 months ago - had the hip dynamic hip replacement - it's not worked - we have been told she has 12 months to live bed bound - yet they are insisting she goes into a nursing home ?
They can't find one to accommodate her needs as she has now lost her faculties ....
It's upset my family - i just feel so sorry for her plus my wife who has the power of attorney in Health & Finance plus we are in the process of taking it to the ombudsman ... very stressful times ......
Not helped by her brother who bid 100 grand for her house which is worth £280,000 - thats why the power of attorney for the sensible person in the family is a necessity in many ways ....
To be fair Joey, if your in law has lost most of her faculties and is also bedbound, she would be far better off in a nursing home than she would be in hospital. I'm surprised that you're having difficulties finding one to accommodate her because of her condition, because that's what they specialise in. It could be that there just aren't any spaces available at the moment. I don't know what it is like up there these days.
It's true that the quality provided by these nursing homes varies greatly. My old mum (who was in a similar condition to your in law by the sounds of it) spent her last few months at Broadway Nursing Home near Townsend Lane, which is not too far away from you IIRC. The young scouse carers there were absolutely brilliant with mum and I couldn't speak highly enough of them. That was nearly 10 years ago though and things may have changed since then.
I would always recommend that you visit any care home before agreeing to anything just so you can see the conditions for yourself, but if I were in your shoes I'd be looking to get her moved out of hospital as quickly as i could because they just aren't set up for caring. Plus hospitals are full of sick people, which may sound trite but is actually very important. Hope you get her sorted soon mate.