Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[dachshund]

Thanks a lot.

The early morning cram session paid off.

Sorry if I bother you with this silly stuff, I just get completely stressed out by these things and spiral

 

[blue1948]

I don't come on here often ,as a selfish person when my problem went away I stopped .
It was my son I was worried about he has ADHD ,Asperger's and PTSD but miraculously he is doing well ,I am in contact regularly and all is good between us ,he did write me off for a while but I just mailed him whenever and he finally had the mind to speak. Now we discuss most of the things that have caused him concern ,slowly he opens up a bit more ,it has been years but it is worth the effort especially when he looks like he has turned a corner .
I am telling this as I now know how he has felt for so long without getting the help he needed ,he admits that talking to me now is helping because he did believe I was part of the cause because my last marriage ( to his Mum ) was a total disaster and he rightly sided with her when I left .Now he has seen another side to her that I certainly wouldn't tell him for himself ,I think that this realisation of perhaps taking the "wrong " side has caused a rethink on his situation and I hope that he is now seeing some of the things in a different light .
Every step is a benefit for us both and nothing is being taken for granted on my side just accepted with a great big smile .
I did post to thank the regular helpers but got drawn in to my own situation . It is a great comfort to me reading this and an inspiration to those around the sufferers .
Keep it up folks.

 

[Moggers]

So following on from my previous post.

Just had my appt with the mental health nurse, wow! Got stuff off my chest I didn't even know I needed to! Let everything out, I'd actually be lying if I said I felt a bit better at the min but its probably relief at the minute taking that next step. Prescribed Sertraline as thought as my good old 'friend' anxiety disorder / depression is back (I Remember before my last bout of this I thought anxiety was just what we got when watching us take pens! And then it was gone...)

Just spoke to Talk Liverpool and got an appt for tomorrow for first steps with them. Feel like baby steps at the start of a marathon at the minute but there is still a finish line I know lI'll get to eventually again.

Thanks for listening and keep on fighting the good fight, people.

 

[SJB]

So following on from my previous post.

Just had my appt with the mental health nurse, wow! Got stuff off my chest I didn't even know I needed to! Let everything out, I'd actually be lying if I said I felt a bit better at the min but its probably relief at the minute taking that next step. Prescribed Sertraline as thought as my good old 'friend' anxiety disorder / depression is back (I Remember before my last bout of this I thought anxiety was just what we got when watching us take pens! And then it was gone...)

Just spoke to Talk Liverpool and got an appt for tomorrow for first steps with them. Feel like baby steps at the start of a marathon at the minute but there is still a finish line I know lI'll get to eventually again.

Thanks for listening and keep on fighting the good fight, people.

Well done for taking those first steps mate and all the best with things from here on in. And good on you for sharing, reading this might inspire someone else to reach out for help who is struggling with their mental or physical health right now.

 

[mccole]

 

[anjelikaferrett]

I don't post in here much, a few times after my Mum & Dad died (which helped immensely and reading advice in here then) although I do check regularly to see how everyone is doing.

I haven't in the main suffered chronically with my mental health previously, although I had an bad episode of anxiety / depression a few years back, I was going to see the doctor anyway and let it all out then, weirdly it felt easier than the first step today though, because I was already seeing the Doctor about something else.

Anyway recently, I started losing interest in a lot of things (footy as well which is annoying when we have won!) effort brushing my teeth, emptied the dishwasher and felt like I had climbed everest etc..., I'm quite an active person but lost all interest in walking / gym etc... (although I do still force myself to go even on short walks) lately been getting tearful which I don't normally do, sleeping in as long as possible, whereas a while back I would be up at the crack of dawn to do my 11 miles! All the usual red flags!

I know thinking like this is nonsense as depression doesn't discriminate, but I feel so guilty as everything is 'great' in my life, great wife, kids, family, friends - Put off going the Doctors trying to justify it "it's just coz it's winter / wfh too much... etc etc..." although I do think these are contributory factors. So although my life is great my heads not, so I'm going to 'try' not to beat myself up over that.


Anyway, today I went for a health check, 2 birds one stone type of thing, as the first step and really let it all out to the nurse, more than I expected. I felt so much better after it and now booked in to see GP / mental health nurse for next steps.

Although, of course I know this is not the magic bullet / moment of clarity where everything will be 'ok' again, this is the best I have felt for weeks letting it out today and making that first step, for anyone struggling, I know its tough but make that appointment today.

Will keep posted how I get on.

Great post. Hope you start to feel better.

 

[Gwladysover]

So following on from my previous post.

Just had my appt with the mental health nurse, wow! Got stuff off my chest I didn't even know I needed to! Let everything out, I'd actually be lying if I said I felt a bit better at the min but its probably relief at the minute taking that next step. Prescribed Sertraline as thought as my good old 'friend' anxiety disorder / depression is back (I Remember before my last bout of this I thought anxiety was just what we got when watching us take pens! And then it was gone...)

Just spoke to Talk Liverpool and got an appt for tomorrow for first steps with them. Feel like baby steps at the start of a marathon at the minute but there is still a finish line I know lI'll get to eventually again.

Thanks for listening and keep on fighting the good fight, people.

The first steps are the hardest, well done for taking them. Wishing you all the best.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

I called Samaritans today. I suppose for that 8 minutes of connection mentioned above. The last few years have been pretty hard. The last 18 months of that has revolved around a divorce that seems no nearer to ending. I've tried everything to get through it. Journalling, meditation, exercise, good sleep, eating well, volunteering, talking to people, getting into nature every morning as the sun rises. It's been working well and I thought yesterday how proud I was of myself. The resilience without hardening and being bitter or angry. Today broke me. It's long been a suspicion that the legal system just treat you like a cash machine at times like this, and I've got a barrister prior to my FDA on Tuesday. He's already charging £1,800 for the process and wanted an extra £500 to have a phone call beforehand so I was confident he was up to speed. When you feel like even people on your own side are f**king you. And I didn't feel like I could bore people with it. I've leaned on friends and my partner a lot, but 18 months of struggle is a long time. It's a burden on them too. So, I called Samaritans.

 

[COYBL25]

I called Samaritans today. I suppose for that 8 minutes of connection mentioned above. The last few years have been pretty hard. The last 18 months of that has revolved around a divorce that seems no nearer to ending. I've tried everything to get through it. Journalling, meditation, exercise, good sleep, eating well, volunteering, talking to people, getting into nature every morning as the sun rises. It's been working well and I thought yesterday how proud I was of myself. The resilience without hardening and being bitter or angry. Today broke me. It's long been a suspicion that the legal system just treat you like a cash machine at times like this, and I've got a barrister prior to my FDA on Tuesday. He's already charging £1,800 for the process and wanted an extra £500 to have a phone call beforehand so I was confident he was up to speed. When you feel like even people on your own side are f**king you. And I didn't feel like I could bore people with it. I've leaned on friends and my partner a lot, but 18 months of struggle is a long time. It's a burden on them too. So, I called Samaritans.

Have you thought of offering yourself out on loan to Preston ?

Seriously though, one of my oldest mates is a divorce barrister and some of the things she’s told me about the fee system, is what you’re finding out now.

Please tell me you didn’t agree to that “ grift “ of a phone call ?

Expect a letter early next week, “ confirming “ the phone call with another bill for a couple of hundred !

 

[COYBL25]

I called Samaritans today. I suppose for that 8 minutes of connection mentioned above. The last few years have been pretty hard. The last 18 months of that has revolved around a divorce that seems no nearer to ending. I've tried everything to get through it. Journalling, meditation, exercise, good sleep, eating well, volunteering, talking to people, getting into nature every morning as the sun rises. It's been working well and I thought yesterday how proud I was of myself. The resilience without hardening and being bitter or angry. Today broke me. It's long been a suspicion that the legal system just treat you like a cash machine at times like this, and I've got a barrister prior to my FDA on Tuesday. He's already charging £1,800 for the process and wanted an extra £500 to have a phone call beforehand so I was confident he was up to speed. When you feel like even people on your own side are f**king you. And I didn't feel like I could bore people with it. I've leaned on friends and my partner a lot, but 18 months of struggle is a long time. It's a burden on them too. So, I called Samaritans.

Ps - I hear hunting crotchety old pensioners with hunting rifles is a very good stress reliever:

 

[Rita_Poon]

I called Samaritans today. I suppose for that 8 minutes of connection mentioned above. The last few years have been pretty hard. The last 18 months of that has revolved around a divorce that seems no nearer to ending. I've tried everything to get through it. Journalling, meditation, exercise, good sleep, eating well, volunteering, talking to people, getting into nature every morning as the sun rises. It's been working well and I thought yesterday how proud I was of myself. The resilience without hardening and being bitter or angry. Today broke me. It's long been a suspicion that the legal system just treat you like a cash machine at times like this, and I've got a barrister prior to my FDA on Tuesday. He's already charging £1,800 for the process and wanted an extra £500 to have a phone call beforehand so I was confident he was up to speed. When you feel like even people on your own side are f**king you. And I didn't feel like I could bore people with it. I've leaned on friends and my partner a lot, but 18 months of struggle is a long time. It's a burden on them too. So, I called Samaritans.

It isn't necessarily 'a bore', sometimes getting it out (the truth, how you feel, what has happened) especially something kept hold of and hidden for a long time for the first time can be the most difficult. Steadily unburdening yourself and working through and past a problem can be like kicking in quicksand. That you've gotten hold of someone is good. A bit of pre-court nerves is understandable, it's been a long painful road to here, and you could be gnawing at yourself internally because it's crunch time and you just want free. I hope things go your way, as painlessly and financially wearisomeless as possible.

It's always darkest before the dawn, the course of true love never did run smoothly, and you'll still be an Evertonian when it's wrapped up. Laugh where you can, and keep looking after yourself.

 

[blueloon]

I called Samaritans today. I suppose for that 8 minutes of connection mentioned above. The last few years have been pretty hard. The last 18 months of that has revolved around a divorce that seems no nearer to ending. I've tried everything to get through it. Journalling, meditation, exercise, good sleep, eating well, volunteering, talking to people, getting into nature every morning as the sun rises. It's been working well and I thought yesterday how proud I was of myself. The resilience without hardening and being bitter or angry. Today broke me. It's long been a suspicion that the legal system just treat you like a cash machine at times like this, and I've got a barrister prior to my FDA on Tuesday. He's already charging £1,800 for the process and wanted an extra £500 to have a phone call beforehand so I was confident he was up to speed. When you feel like even people on your own side are f**king you. And I didn't feel like I could bore people with it. I've leaned on friends and my partner a lot, but 18 months of struggle is a long time. It's a burden on them too. So, I called Samaritans.

25 years ago I was about to embark on a messy divorce that took me down as low as I’ve ever been. It’s a bit trite but time is a great healer. Not long after I married my second wife she started Volunteering with Samaritans for about 4 years, a wonderful organisation, there for anybody who needs to have a chat. Good luck with things .

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Have you thought of offering yourself out on loan to Preston ?

Seriously though, one of my oldest mates is a divorce barrister and some of the things she’s told me about the fee system, is what you’re finding out now.

Please tell me you didn’t agree to that “ grift “ of a phone call ?

Expect a letter early next week, “ confirming “ the phone call with another bill for a couple of hundred !

I did not.

 

[blueloon]

Ps - I hear hunting crotchety old pensioners with hunting rifles is a very good stress reliever:

Hoi !! I know where you go running, me and my crotchety old pensioner friends have automatic hunting rifles too

 

[David09]

I did not.

Stay strong mate and look after yourself. My ex wife tried to break me during our divorce. It cost me about £9000 .
I still didn't get a fair settlement . In hindsight I should have settled earlier and just walked away.
Two things really helped me. Running 3 times a week and cutting right down on my alcohol as that's when I seemed at my lowest.
Well done for phoning the samaritans