And in talks to resolve matters, Ukraine weren't invited. Genius.
When you're the weak power in the situation, your opinion doesn't count for much, even if it's your dirt that's the topic of discussion. It's like two much older siblings ignoring what the five-year-old kid brother has to say, because it doesn't matter to the terms of the meaningful conflict.
The broader problem here is that we've reached a point where neither side's commitments are worth the paper they're written on. Russia abrogates treaties at Putin's whim (recall that Russia guaranteed the territorial integrity of Ukraine in the treaty that got Ukraine on board with Nunn-Lugar), and I wouldn't trust the word of the United States government past the next presidential election right now. That makes cooperation
real hard...including within NATO, and Putin knows that.
The thing that might come back to bite Putin is nuclear proliferation. Ukraine's decision to sell the fissile material back to Russia looks like a bad deal cut by a cash-starved fledgling state in hindsight. Look at North Korea, then look at Ukraine, and tell me whose security situation you'd rather be in as a weak power. If I were running Poland, I would want nukes. If I were Biden, I would be strongly inclined to look the other way, because the risks of adding another nuclear power look a lot smaller than the risk of getting dragged into a war against another nuclear power under Article 5 right now. That may well be a bad long-run judgment (the risks of political instability in Poland are not insignificant), but it looks solid in the short run.
It’s weird that they need a trigger. They’ve got a shed load of troops on the border and their intention is to attack yet they still need an incident to instigate the actual attack. I’m sure a psychologist would have a field day with this behaviour.
No, this is perfectly normal in international relations, just as it is in other forms of politics. The point of a fig leaf is to give the prospective adversary an excuse to not do anything about the situation, which in turn weakens their resolve.
You're thinking about this problem through the wrong lens. Yes, this behavior is debatably weird when the apparent point of the operation is to convince yourself of something that isn't true. International relations, like most politics, is not a game of individuals. It's a game of individuals who have to navigate the internal politics of their own constituency (so as to retain power) in order to be able to act on the international stage. If you think about it that way, giving the opposition's doves ammunition against their hawks by way of a fig leaf enhances the prospects of being able to get away with utter nonsense.