Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

[Barnfred 55]

Good morning all, thankyou for all the advice and encouragement. I'm going to try my best to take the leap and contact some people, just building up the courage. If I don't get a reply I'm worried it might set me back. I do need to have a bit more interaction but at the same time I like the solitude. It's horrible being like this, I hate it what I have become, I am a mere shell of the person i used to be.

Have a lovely day everyone.

I get that mate and I did wonder if the fear of rejection was partly behind your reluctance to reach out to people. Honestly T I'm the same whenever I start contacting people prior to my Liverpool trips. It's irrational but that doesn't stop it happening.

But generally I get to see most people and have a great time. But the doubt is always there. The only way to find out is to contact them. I wouldn't be surprised if many of them will be made up to hear from you.

In saying this I do fully appreciate that I'm not in the same situation as you T, plus we all have different levels of coping with our demons. I guess the point I'm trying to make is that a major symptom of mental health is that you always believe the worst is going to happen, but the reality is often very different.

Anyway, you're a great guy and I wish you all the very best whatever you decide to do.

 

[Terrarian]

I get that mate and I did wonder if the fear of rejection was partly behind your reluctance to reach out to people. Honestly T I'm the same whenever I start contacting people prior to my Liverpool trips. It's irrational but that doesn't stop it happening.

But generally I get to see most people and have a great time. But the doubt is always there. The only way to find out is to contact them. I wouldn't be surprised if many of them will be made up to hear from you.

In saying this I do fully appreciate that I'm not in the same situation as you T, plus we all have different levels of coping with our demons. I guess the point I'm trying to make is that a major symptom of mental health is that you always believe the worst is going to happen, but the reality is often very different.

Anyway, you're a great guy and I wish you all the very best whatever you decide to do.

Thanks Fred really appreciate that. I'm going to try at the weekend and see how it goes, well I'm hopefully going to try at least.

 

[blue1948]

Good morning all, thankyou for all the advice and encouragement. I'm going to try my best to take the leap and contact some people, just building up the courage. If I don't get a reply I'm worried it might set me back. I do need to have a bit more interaction but at the same time I like the solitude. It's horrible being like this, I hate it what I have become, I am a mere shell of the person i used to be.

Have a lovely day everyone.

Don't tell us about solitude it is one of the greatest pleasures but there is always a line to be drawn on company ,we just enjoy it when it happens but run back home for a bit of peace .Just remember T that we all contact old friends and get no reply or they have changed there contact details .Take a step further with the people you do meet with Daisy ,make it last one more sentence and then two and see where that goes .We know they are there and that so I would be up for that first if you are hesitant in case of no reply .You can do it because you already do the hard bit in starting a chat , just don't mention Everton !

 

[blue1948]

Country music. Handsome guys. Nah. Not for me

It stars Anna Friel ,she has a good voice and sings all her songs although as a bounder you might not even notice that !

 

[Barnfred 55]

It stars Anna Friel ,she has a good voice and sings all her songs although as a bounder you might not even notice that !

Well it may be worth watching just to say I've seen a TV show where Anna Friel keeps her clothes on. Assuming she does of course.

 

[carlos21]

Thanks Fred really appreciate that. I'm going to try at the weekend and see how it goes, well I'm hopefully going to try at least.

Hiya terraian.

 

[jazzy]

I get that mate and I did wonder if the fear of rejection was partly behind your reluctance to reach out to people. Honestly T I'm the same whenever I start contacting people prior to my Liverpool trips. It's irrational but that doesn't stop it happening.

But generally I get to see most people and have a great time. But the doubt is always there. The only way to find out is to contact them. I wouldn't be surprised if many of them will be made up to hear from you.

In saying this I do fully appreciate that I'm not in the same situation as you T, plus we all have different levels of coping with our demons. I guess the point I'm trying to make is that a major symptom of mental health is that you always believe the worst is going to happen, but the reality is often very different.

Anyway, you're a great guy and I wish you all the very best whatever you decide to do.

That's really interesting given that I think you are one of the most open , outgoing people that I know

 

[Barnfred 55]

That's really interesting given that I think you are one of the most open , outgoing people that I know

I probably spend 95% of my time on my own. So when I am set loose I probably make up for lost time.

But yeah. I always wonder whether people will want to see me and never assume they will. And if anybody doesn't reply to my first message I never send a second. In a couple of cases I haven't tried to make contact again. And as T says, it's the fear of rejection and the effect it would have on my state of mind. You probably think it's irrational and it probably is, but hey.

 

[Barnfred 55]

Blue has been pestering me for more detail on my recent foray up north and, in particular, my short stay in Glossop. But as I am sure you all know, what goes on in Glossop, stays in Glossop.

 

[Barnfred 55]

Morning everyone,

Back safely but really tired. Flight was on time and landed at 11.45 and with just hand luggage through the airport in just 15 minutes.

However with the M6 , M56 and Rainford bypass all shut for repairs / road works the poor taxi driver has to take the weirdest route along the M60 / 61 and then through Chorley and eventually onto the A59 . Mrs J was like a kid , "where are we ?"

Anyway lovely break and now back to reality even though we are both knackered.

Mrs J off to the rescue shop so I will do the outdoor animals , some housework and mum's shopping with last table tennis league match of the season tonight. Such fun!

Have a lovely day everyone .

Who house sat for you mate? Was it your cousin again? Wasn't there some sort of health scare with him IIRC?

 

[jazzy]

Who house sat for you mate? Was it your cousin again? Wasn't there some sort of health scare with him IIRC?

No a young girl ( she's 30 odd but that's young in my eyes ) from the rescue.

In addition Mrs Js sister called up to check on mum.

 

[jazzy]

Have to say I love the new blue that we can use to acknowledge a post!

When did they come on the options?

 

[Gwladysover]

Have to say I love the new blue that we can use to acknowledge a post!

When did they come on the options?

Me too, I’ve only just noticed it but could have been ages ago, I’m not the most observant !

 

[Barnfred 55]

Me too, I’ve only just noticed it but could have been ages ago, I’m not the most observant !

Haha. I hadn't even noticed.

 

[Barnfred 55]

Have to say I love the new blue that we can use to acknowledge a post!

When did they come on the options?

How long do you think before a certain person starts a heart farming thread