Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

davids

Player Valuation: £50m
Some of you may remember that I have posted a few times about social anxiety. I have been feeling well for several months now so I decided to go on a staff night out tonight. Thought I was ready for it. I'm sorry to say that I found it a real struggle, it really set my anxiety off. Couldn't wait to get away. I'm not even sure what the issue is or why it's so difficult for me.
Very positive that you gave it a try,a while ago I had a work colleague who suffered from the same.He'd try 15 minutes,go out to collect himself then come back and do the same again,until in the end he could manage an hour or so.He's done an Mindfulness course and seems much improved.
 

efcforever

Player Valuation: £8m
Very positive that you gave it a try,a while ago I had a work colleague who suffered from the same.He'd try 15 minutes,go out to collect himself then come back and do the same again,until in the end he could manage an hour or so.He's done an Mindfulness course and seems much improved.
I managed to stay for over 2 hours so I did ok. People wanted me to go on to another bar with them after we left the restaurant but I knew I'd reached my limit.
 

davids

Player Valuation: £50m
I managed to stay for over 2 hours so I did ok. People wanted me to go on to another bar with them after we left the restaurant but I knew I'd reached my limit.
Two hours was brilliant you should be proud of yourself and an ideal opportunity to make your excuses to leave before carrying on to the bar.From what my friend told me his biggest concern was other people noticing his distress.
 

Bluesaint

Player Valuation: £950k
Some of you may remember that I have posted a few times about social anxiety. I have been feeling well for several months now so I decided to go on a staff night out tonight. Thought I was ready for it. I'm sorry to say that I found it a real struggle, it really set my anxiety off. Couldn't wait to get away. I'm not even sure what the issue is or why it's so difficult for me.
Hi mate. You really should try the ‘Linden Method ‘ for anxiety, it works by taking away the mechanics of a panic disorder. Google it. Tried and tested by yours truly.
 

goodisonopheliac

Player Valuation: £30m
I saw a teenage girl on Tumblr who's obsessed with Jordan Pickford saying she wanted to hurt/kill herself over today's match and it breaks my heart. I'm really down about it, not helped by the fact I'm in terrible pain (and if anyone else has fibromyalgia, your pain management advice would be appreciated!) but my self-harming days are behind me when it comes to football, and all I could say was, "Don't be like me."
 

anjelikaferrett

waiting for the resurgence
I saw a teenage girl on Tumblr who's obsessed with Jordan Pickford saying she wanted to hurt/kill herself over today's match and it breaks my heart. I'm really down about it, not helped by the fact I'm in terrible pain (and if anyone else has fibromyalgia, your pain management advice would be appreciated!) but my self-harming days are behind me when it comes to football, and all I could say was, "Don't be like me."
That is amazing on so many levels. Well done you. Feeling down about today is the reaction of every Evertonian! I was in spitting distance of St James Park today - visiting a friend who is in the RVI (huge hospital in the middle of Newcastle) Could hear the fans and knew exactly how it was going!
 

goodisonopheliac

Player Valuation: £30m
That is amazing on so many levels. Well done you. Feeling down about today is the reaction of every Evertonian! I was in spitting distance of St James Park today - visiting a friend who is in the RVI (huge hospital in the middle of Newcastle) Could hear the fans and knew exactly how it was going!
Yeah, it hurts and I want to kick Pickford in the groin - I've had some darker thoughts about the team which I will not post here, but am forcing them back - but seeing someone say that is painful. I mean, she could be exaggerating, it could be hyperbole, but she is proper obsessed with him, she gets really upset when people make fun of him and she's got some personal stuff going on too.

I am glad I got rid of the Oxycontin tablets I picked up though.
 

EFCPaul

Player Valuation: £35m
Struggling a bit at the minute.

Still out of work, it's been about a month since I quit that other place after 2 days when it turned out to be a scam. Since then I interviewed for another job but it's been over 2 weeks and I've heard nothing back, nothing at all. I called them 10 days ago to ask if there was any feedback but they just said the interview process was still ongoing, since then nothing. Written it off now.

Sleeping pattern is all over the place, I'm waking up about 4-5pm and then staying awake until 5 or 6am the next morning. Feel stuck in a right rut. It's my birthday tomorrow and I couldn't be less bothered, we've booked a family meal but I'm not the least bit looking forward to it. Not been out for a drink with my mates for weeks, they're lying low at the moment and I think have forgotten it's my birthday this week. Meh.

Went up to Newcastle at the weekend for the match and despite the horror of the result I had good day, getting out the house was a nice change. Since then though I've crashed back down and feel rubbish again. Really hope I fly up again soon, right now I feel so demotivated and low.
 

Nymzee

Player Valuation: £70m
Struggling a bit at the minute.

Still out of work, it's been about a month since I quit that other place after 2 days when it turned out to be a scam. Since then I interviewed for another job but it's been over 2 weeks and I've heard nothing back, nothing at all. I called them 10 days ago to ask if there was any feedback but they just said the interview process was still ongoing, since then nothing. Written it off now.

Sleeping pattern is all over the place, I'm waking up about 4-5pm and then staying awake until 5 or 6am the next morning. Feel stuck in a right rut. It's my birthday tomorrow and I couldn't be less bothered, we've booked a family meal but I'm not the least bit looking forward to it. Not been out for a drink with my mates for weeks, they're lying low at the moment and I think have forgotten it's my birthday this week. Meh.

Went up to Newcastle at the weekend for the match and despite the horror of the result I had good day, getting out the house was a nice change. Since then though I've crashed back down and feel rubbish again. Really hope I fly up again soon, right now I feel so demotivated and low.
Sorry to hear about your employment woes. Have you signed on yet? I always tell people to sign on even if out of work for a few weeks but I understand pride can get in the way.

Even though you're out of work I think (from experience) it's good to sort of treat your week like you are employed: get up and out of the house early, spend time every morning sending CV's around and doing some research etc. Little things just to give your week a sort of pseudo-structure.
 

Billy Dean

Player Valuation: £70m
Struggling a bit at the minute.

Still out of work, it's been about a month since I quit that other place after 2 days when it turned out to be a scam. Since then I interviewed for another job but it's been over 2 weeks and I've heard nothing back, nothing at all. I called them 10 days ago to ask if there was any feedback but they just said the interview process was still ongoing, since then nothing. Written it off now.

Sleeping pattern is all over the place, I'm waking up about 4-5pm and then staying awake until 5 or 6am the next morning. Feel stuck in a right rut. It's my birthday tomorrow and I couldn't be less bothered, we've booked a family meal but I'm not the least bit looking forward to it. Not been out for a drink with my mates for weeks, they're lying low at the moment and I think have forgotten it's my birthday this week. Meh.

Went up to Newcastle at the weekend for the match and despite the horror of the result I had good day, getting out the house was a nice change. Since then though I've crashed back down and feel rubbish again. Really hope I fly up again soon, right now I feel so demotivated and low.
I agree with @Nymzee mate, can you sort of treat a job search like a full time job? Maybe force yourself back to a normal sleep routine? When I'm down or stressed I find getting outside for long walks helps a lot, or going to the gym or for a run or something. Are there any opportunities for volunteering where you are while you're job searching?
 

wba83

Player Valuation: £2.5m
Struggling a bit at the minute.

Still out of work, it's been about a month since I quit that other place after 2 days when it turned out to be a scam. Since then I interviewed for another job but it's been over 2 weeks and I've heard nothing back, nothing at all. I called them 10 days ago to ask if there was any feedback but they just said the interview process was still ongoing, since then nothing. Written it off now.

Sleeping pattern is all over the place, I'm waking up about 4-5pm and then staying awake until 5 or 6am the next morning. Feel stuck in a right rut. It's my birthday tomorrow and I couldn't be less bothered, we've booked a family meal but I'm not the least bit looking forward to it. Not been out for a drink with my mates for weeks, they're lying low at the moment and I think have forgotten it's my birthday this week. Meh.

Went up to Newcastle at the weekend for the match and despite the horror of the result I had good day, getting out the house was a nice change. Since then though I've crashed back down and feel rubbish again. Really hope I fly up again soon, right now I feel so demotivated and low.
Keep your head up mate like Bill dean says if you can get out for a little run or walk put some of your favourite music on your headphones it makes me feel better after a little run with my music on .Hope you have a good birthday tomorrow mate all the best
 

COYBL25

Official GOT Joey Speak Interpreter.
Struggling a bit at the minute.

Still out of work, it's been about a month since I quit that other place after 2 days when it turned out to be a scam. Since then I interviewed for another job but it's been over 2 weeks and I've heard nothing back, nothing at all. I called them 10 days ago to ask if there was any feedback but they just said the interview process was still ongoing, since then nothing. Written it off now.

Sleeping pattern is all over the place, I'm waking up about 4-5pm and then staying awake until 5 or 6am the next morning. Feel stuck in a right rut. It's my birthday tomorrow and I couldn't be less bothered, we've booked a family meal but I'm not the least bit looking forward to it. Not been out for a drink with my mates for weeks, they're lying low at the moment and I think have forgotten it's my birthday this week. Meh.

Went up to Newcastle at the weekend for the match and despite the horror of the result I had good day, getting out the house was a nice change. Since then though I've crashed back down and feel rubbish again. Really hope I fly up again soon, right now I feel so demotivated and low.
Hi mate, I may have suggested this before, but have you thought about maybe doing something else ?

When I left my old job due to my head going bang I ended up doing a variety of jobs afterwards.

One of the best I ever had for my mental health, was working as a National delivery driver for a small bespoke plastics company.

It wasn’t badly paid and the lack of stress was liberating.

If you don’t particularly need the money badly, there’s loads of non stress part time jobs out there, that can lead to full time jobs.
 

jonnyg

Player Valuation: £750k
Its been awhile since i've posted, but I just need a place to put my thoughts down. My girlfriend broke up with me last year, the relationship just got taken over by me talking about my issues. I was unloading everything onto her and no one else while being distant emotionally and physically. I was numb, didn't feel anything at the time she was telling me she was leaving. And it was entirely justified for her to do that.

Since then I've just been pouring all my time into uni, my work's improved a lot due to that. I've also found that I kind of deal with stress better now that I have no one to talk about it to, just kind of suck it up and go at it. Doesn't sound healthy I know. I've been trying to be more active in helping out my friends with their problems and that's definitely helped though. Gives some perspective on how other people are coping with life.

The main problem I have now is that I've developed feelings for this girl in class. We're often the latest to stay in class to do work and sometimes eat together. We have a mutual friend we're both closer to than each other. I really enjoy talking to her and I always feel really stupidly pleased with myself if I make her laugh. I recognised these feelings coming on pretty early but didn't make much effort to stop them because it gave me something to be cheerful about when everything else seemed down.

I know I'm not used to being out of relationship and I might just be latching onto any sign of a new one to fill the void, that's not fair to put on a friend. Secondly I think we both really just want to concentrate on finishing school and getting a job. Lastly I don't think I would even be considered romantically as she seems pressured by family to focus on marrying someone within her race. Recently I think she might have started to notice I have feelings for her.

I'm starting to come to terms with putting a stop to this but I've been having problems with balancing keeping a distance and still being a friend. Every action I'm overanalysing whether it comes off as interest or being aloof. It's making the "stay in school and grind work" structure I have in my life abit uncomfortable when half the time I'm thinking about her. My head's a mess.

Of course, this might all just be in my head and I'm making things tense for no reason.
 

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