I'll tag
@COYBL25 with this. It's the mate I was telling you about earlier in the week who I now keep in regular contact with.
He's an only child, lives on his own and is really worried about his aging mother, 86, who also lives on her own. Me and the missus reckon his old mum is in the early stages of dementia (we've both been through it with our parents) but he's a little bit in denial about that. He's a bit of a loner, doesn't work anymore and doesn't have a lot of close friends or family. So we keep in regular contact with him by phone as we know he's really concerned about his mum with this pandemic going on.
His mother is one of 4 sisters. One of them was in hospital in late February for a hip operation. Whilst she was in there she caught pneumonia and died. In early April, the daughter of the aunt who died (my mates cousin) was also in hospital for an unrelated condition and also died after having caught the covid virus in hospital. Next time I phoned him would have been around the third week in May. He told me that a week earlier he had a phone call from another cousin, saying that another of the aunties had passed away in a care home the previous night, having caught covid19. So he had to tell his mum that another of her sisters had died. He said his mum was expecting it to be her other sister who had been very poorly in hospital, and was shocked when she found out which one had died. The very next day the same cousin phoned him again, and my mate expected it to be about the aunt who had died the previous day. She was the daughter of the aunt who had been ill in hospital for a while. She was phoning to say the hospital had been on to say that her mum had died overnight. She had tested positive for covid19 and had deteriorated very quickly.
So my mate had to tell his mum that she had lost 2 sisters in 2 days to the virus, having previously lost a niece and possibly a third sister to the same virus in the previous 2 months. Totally unbelievable, but it happened.
The thing is, there must be plenty of examples like this going on around the country that you don't get to hear about. His mum can't even go to the funerals because she's vulnerable herself. The fact that they are limited to 10 people is probably a good thing because it gives them an excuse not to go, but even that sounds awful as I'm writing it. My mate is totally obsessed with isolation and distancing now as you'd understand. He only goes out to shop for food etc and to deliver food and check on his mum. But he won't break SD rules, not even to give his old mum a hug to comfort her.
Either me or the missus phone him once a week now and I encourage another mate to do similar. You and I are talking on here about going away for weekends and looking forward to pubs reopening, but for some people it will take months or longer to get over this.