Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

peteblue said:
I’ve spent the night and now early morning with my wife. I look at her chair and when she looks tired I change her and put her to bed. Unfortunately I then sit in the lounge and look at her empty chair. Then I think of what will come. I’ve just spent the last hour crying while looking at an empty chair. I know that most of my friends have lost their partners over the last twelve months and while I put on a brave face and try to give comfort to them, in these lonely hours looking at an empty chair, even though Kay is asleep in bed, I can’t handle it. I don’t know if my tears help or just make it worse. I know by the morning I will be my usual self and just get on with things, but it’s the private times on my own in the night that is killing me. I’ve not been able to share this with any of my close friends because I have to be their ‘rock’ during their mourning, which is why I release it in here. I really don’t mean to upset anyone as we all have issues to deal with, but I hope you don’t mind me sharing as I’ve no one else at the moment who I can really share with…….
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As others have said you must continue to share with us and although there’s little we can do practically we are all here to listen and hear you. I’m sorry if this does sound preachy but you too are grieving- for the woman you knew that was Kay before this cruel illness took her away from you, and for the life you were both able to share and the dreams and hopes you had for your future. You have so much loss to deal with even though Kay is still with you. As @jazzy and @Gwladysover said, sharing this with your friends and family might not be a bad idea. You are very much in my thoughts 💙.
 

Thanks guys you are all very kind. I find it easier to write how I feel rather than actually talk about it which is why I unload in here. The Doctor spotted this the other day and hence made the referral for a specialist to visit me at home to help me through all of this. As always I’m fine again today. I do take note of everything you guys say or suggest so thank you….
 

peteblue said:
I’ve spent the night and now early morning with my wife. I look at her chair and when she looks tired I change her and put her to bed. Unfortunately I then sit in the lounge and look at her empty chair. Then I think of what will come. I’ve just spent the last hour crying while looking at an empty chair. I know that most of my friends have lost their partners over the last twelve months and while I put on a brave face and try to give comfort to them, in these lonely hours looking at an empty chair, even though Kay is asleep in bed, I can’t handle it. I don’t know if my tears help or just make it worse. I know by the morning I will be my usual self and just get on with things, but it’s the private times on my own in the night that is killing me. I’ve not been able to share this with any of my close friends because I have to be their ‘rock’ during their mourning, which is why I release it in here. I really don’t mean to upset anyone as we all have issues to deal with, but I hope you don’t mind me sharing as I’ve no one else at the moment who I can really share with…….
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Keep talking to us Pete and use us Mascoteers as a shoulder to lean on. No one can be strong all of the time and letting some of the emotion out is a must. Not easy for a man to do that, I certainly struggle with it but it does help. We are all thinking of you mate and one of us is always about for a chat.
 

bigjonny said:
What did you decide about the new ground, weren’t there 18 of you that wanted to sit together ?. I went in the Top Balcony today to make sure I’d been in every part of the ground.
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In the end it didn’t work out because of the way that it was organised eg dependent on how long you had been a season ticket holder, and some people didn’t want to wait until the end to get their tickets in case their preferred areas had gone. So we are all in Upper South so far as close as we can be and five of us definitely next to each other, some on the row behind us. Some can’t get them til next week I think. That’s because of their age ie not being a season ticket holder when they were very young, which doesn’t seem fair but no matter what system was used someone would likely be unhappy with it.
I’ve never been in the top balcony but I’ve been in the main stand. I think I’ve been in all the others albeit pre season friendlies rather than league games. Have you got yours?
 
Val P said:
In the end it didn’t work out because of the way that it was organised eg dependent on how long you had been a season ticket holder, and some people didn’t want to wait until the end to get their tickets in case their preferred areas had gone. So we are all in Upper South so far as close as we can be and five of us definitely next to each other, some on the row behind us. Some can’t get them til next week I think. That’s because of their age ie not being a season ticket holder when they were very young, which doesn’t seem fair but no matter what system was used someone would likely be unhappy with it.
I’ve never been in the top balcony but I’ve been in the main stand. I think I’ve been in all the others albeit pre season friendlies rather than league games. Have you got yours?
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Yes we splashed out on Club View , I’ve got OAP (!) price for next year along with one other, three more will qualify for concessions the next season. My mate’s son is only 30 but I think the exclusive bar swung him and a couple of his mates. It’s the equivalent to our spec in the Upper Bullens and we’ve said if we have to change our match day habits then we’ll have some “luxury 🤣” .
 

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