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[Gwladysover]

In a bit of a quandary here. A neighbour passed away recently. We have known her and her late husband for over 30 years and although we were not that close friends we would always stop and chat and more recently as she became frailer Mr G. kept her front garden neat and tidy. When her niece called round to tell us she had gone we said we would like to attend the funeral. She was grateful as there will be few people there, the lady having no children and the only family able to attend being the niece, husband and their son. Have just learned that the funeral is on my birthday. I’ve nothing special planned, my birthday tea being the day before and the service is at 10 a.m. so would leave the rest of the day free. I have mixed feelings, I’d rather not attend a funeral on my birthday but on the other hand feel guilty about not going. Family think I am mad to even consider going especially as it is a “significant “ birthday this year. Thanks for listening ?
P. S. Don’t know what, if anything, has happened at school but Harry has been a bit happier the last two mornings.

 

[Barnfred 55]

In a bit of a quandary here. A neighbour passed away recently. We have known her and her late husband for over 30 years and although we were not that close friends we would always stop and chat and more recently as she became frailer Mr G. kept her front garden neat and tidy. When her niece called round to tell us she had gone we said we would like to attend the funeral. She was grateful as there will be few people there, the lady having no children and the only family able to attend being the niece, husband and their son. Have just learned that the funeral is on my birthday. I’ve nothing special planned, my birthday tea being the day before and the service is at 10 a.m. so would leave the rest of the day free. I have mixed feelings, I’d rather not attend a funeral on my birthday but on the other hand feel guilty about not going. Family think I am mad to even consider going especially as it is a “significant “ birthday this year. Thanks for listening ?
P. S. Don’t know what, if anything, has happened at school but Harry has been a bit happier the last two mornings.

Go G. It's the right thing to do, especially as you've already mentioned it.

Nothing worse than a very quiet funeral. Cal's uncle died about 18 months before we moved down here. Cal and her brother were his only family apart from a cousin who lived nearby. He only had a few friends who had all passed away before him. The cousin was ill on the day of the funeral so it was me, Cal and my brother in law and a couple of nurses from the nursing home he was living in. Very sad.

 

[Gwladysover]

Go G. It's the right thing to do, especially as you've already mentioned it.

Nothing worse than a very quiet funeral. Cal's uncle died about 18 months before we moved down here. Cal and her brother were his only family apart from a cousin who lived nearby. He only had a few friends who had all passed away before him. The cousin was ill on the day of the funeral so it was me, Cal and my brother in law and a couple of nurses from the nursing home he was living in. Very sad.

Thanks, Fred. It’s at the Crem so it’s only a twenty minute service, seems the least we can do.

 

[roydo]

Go G. It's the right thing to do, especially as you've already mentioned it.

Nothing worse than a very quiet funeral. Cal's uncle died about 18 months before we moved down here. Cal and her brother were his only family apart from a cousin who lived nearby. He only had a few friends who had all passed away before him. The cousin was ill on the day of the funeral so it was me, Cal and my brother in law and a couple of nurses from the nursing home he was living in. Very sad.

Depends on the person. Cals uncle would have been pleased that folk who cared about him were there. Some folk have a small circle of friends, some are more gregarious.

With Nikki, it was no more than 30, all but about 6 family. But it meant that after the service we could all have a nice, and cheerful chat, as families, not as a duty as a "host".

With me Dad, 4 months later, it was packed, crem and the wake, (he was VERY gregarious), and whilst it was lovely to see so many old friends of his and Mums, Mum was a bit overwhelmed, and I think the poignancy of the day was lost to her a bit. It was for me.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Just had a bottle of Italian wine -Susamaniello de puglia ,chosen as all connoisseurs do because the wife loved the shape of the bottle .

Sounds like a woman I can relate to!

 

[anjelikaferrett]

In a bit of a quandary here. A neighbour passed away recently. We have known her and her late husband for over 30 years and although we were not that close friends we would always stop and chat and more recently as she became frailer Mr G. kept her front garden neat and tidy. When her niece called round to tell us she had gone we said we would like to attend the funeral. She was grateful as there will be few people there, the lady having no children and the only family able to attend being the niece, husband and their son. Have just learned that the funeral is on my birthday. I’ve nothing special planned, my birthday tea being the day before and the service is at 10 a.m. so would leave the rest of the day free. I have mixed feelings, I’d rather not attend a funeral on my birthday but on the other hand feel guilty about not going. Family think I am mad to even consider going especially as it is a “significant “ birthday this year. Thanks for listening ?
P. S. Don’t know what, if anything, has happened at school but Harry has been a bit happier the last two mornings.

Go to the service. You don't have to attend anything afterwards ( if there is anything) Having got to know you through these pages, I think you would feel bad if you didn't attend.
Pleased Harry seems a bit happier. Fingers crossed there has been some positive action taken and things will now improve.

 

[blue1948]

In a bit of a quandary here. A neighbour passed away recently. We have known her and her late husband for over 30 years and although we were not that close friends we would always stop and chat and more recently as she became frailer Mr G. kept her front garden neat and tidy. When her niece called round to tell us she had gone we said we would like to attend the funeral. She was grateful as there will be few people there, the lady having no children and the only family able to attend being the niece, husband and their son. Have just learned that the funeral is on my birthday. I’ve nothing special planned, my birthday tea being the day before and the service is at 10 a.m. so would leave the rest of the day free. I have mixed feelings, I’d rather not attend a funeral on my birthday but on the other hand feel guilty about not going. Family think I am mad to even consider going especially as it is a “significant “ birthday this year. Thanks for listening ?
P. S. Don’t know what, if anything, has happened at school but Harry has been a bit happier the last two mornings.

So happy that Harry seems to have had the right attention . You should go ,what is a few minutes when you might regret it for years ,the fact you have confided in us to me shows you want to or you wouldn't have mentioned it . Chuffed for Harry.

 

[Ducans elbow]

So Docs office phoned today saying they need to see me after he looked at the X rays,
I said I’ll wait till I have the ultrasound, thanks for the advice I just need some meds for the pain, got fingers like walls sausages

 

[kev]

So Docs office phoned today saying they need to see me after he looked at the X rays,
I said I’ll wait till I have the ultrasound, thanks for the advice I just need some meds for the pain, got fingers like walls sausages

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Gracias amiga. 30 years !!

That’s a lot of years that your wife has put up with you, amigo

In all seriousness, I hope you had a nice celebration and may your union continue flourishing for many more years ?

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Has anyone ever got arthritis in their hands, I have been in agony lately with it , just sort of sneaked up on me
very very painful had X rays yesterday getting ultrasound tomorrow, for those that have had/have it you can relate have been taking loads of anti-inflammatory meds, thinking a cortisone shot maybe the answer

Need 2 hands putting the kettle on, I'll be drinking my pints with a straw next, just seeing if any fellow folk on here have gone through this, only good thing Mrs D has to cut the lawn as I'm to injured

So Docs office phoned today saying they need to see me after he looked at the X rays,
I said I’ll wait till I have the ultrasound, thanks for the advice I just need some meds for the pain, got fingers like walls sausages

I’m sorry to hear of your agony. Arthritis runs in my mum’s side of the family and I have witnessed how painful it was for my grandma, and now for my mum, that I’m fearing my own turn.

Hopefully the meds will help you but I would also suggest getting acupuncture. Acupuncture can decrease pain, inflammation and stiffness. I’ve gotten many sessions of acupuncture throughout my life for various issues, and so have my family, and I can’t speak more highly of this eastern medicine treatment. But not everyone likes needles and the cost, unless insurance covers it, can be high. Although here in Asheville there is a clinic that charges based on income so everyone has the opportunity to get treatment at a reasonable rate. Anyway I thought of mentioning that acupuncture could be another another treatment, in addition to the meds, that is worth considering. I

Hope your hands are not as painful once you start the meds and may you also have lean sausages as fingers by the time the next cutting of the lawn is happening ? xxx

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Has anyone ever got arthritis in their hands, I have been in agony lately with it , just sort of sneaked up on me
very very painful had X rays yesterday getting ultrasound tomorrow, for those that have had/have it you can relate have been taking loads of anti-inflammatory meds, thinking a cortisone shot maybe the answer

Need 2 hands putting the kettle on, I'll be drinking my pints with a straw next, just seeing if any fellow folk on here have gone through this, only good thing Mrs D has to cut the lawn as I'm to injured

I’m sorry to hear of your agony. Arthritis runs in my mum’s side of the family and I have witnessed how painful it was for my grandma, and now for my mum, that I’m fearing my own turn

Hopefully the meds will help you but I would also suggest getting acupuncture. Acupuncture can decrease pain, inflammation and stiffness. I’ve gotten many sessions of acupuncture throughout my life for various issues, and so have my family, and I can’t speak more highly of this eastern medicine treatment. But not everyone likes needles and the cost, unless insurance covers it, can be high. Although here in Asheville there is a clinic that charges based on income so everyone has the opportunity to get treatment at a reasonable rate. Anyway I thought of mentioning that acupuncture could be another another treatment, in addition to the meds, that is worth considering. I

Hope your hands are not as painful once you start the meds and may you also have lean sausages as fingers by the time the next cutting of the lawn is happening ? xxx

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Thanks, Fred. It’s at the Crem so it’s only a twenty minute service, seems the least we can do.

Your presence will bring the family some comfort, and while going to a funeral on one’s birthday is not the ideal morning activity, you may regret not going later and ruin your day over it. So go honor your neighbour with at her farewell.

Btw, when is the “significant” birthday happening? Asking for a friend ?

And how significant is it?

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Good evening lovelies.

I’ve absolutely enjoy reading the variety of topics that have been discussed the past two days, as always Karl’s coffee/tea house offers plenty of entertainment for those who visit it.

Having a busy weeks at work. i got a very good connection within the Latinx community for outreach opportunity so this week I’ve been attending these free food community markets that one of the local food banks is running and I have been able to interact with a lot of people, many low income immigrants from Mexico, Guatemala and Honduras. So all this eeek I’ve been interacting with them and informing them about the free English classes our college offers and other courses and services. It really makes me happy working with this segment of the community, for obvious reasons, but they are also such nice humble just good people. I brought some stuff that I usually give away at events and the kids were the happiest playing with some of the items I gave them. Here are some pics from one of the events. Tomorrow Im also receiving the final training so I can begin attending jail and helping some women inmates with enrollment. Im absolutely loving what I’m doing, I really feel like I’m making a difference

Cheers Blues. I hope everyone has a beautiful and cool Thursday ?

 

[Ducans elbow]

I’m sorry to hear of your agony. Arthritis runs in my mum’s side of the family and I have witnessed how painful it was for my grandma, and now for my mum, that I’m fearing my own turn

Hopefully the meds will help you but I would also suggest getting acupuncture. Acupuncture can decrease pain, inflammation and stiffness. I’ve gotten many sessions of acupuncture throughout my life for various issues, and so have my family, and I can’t speak more highly of this eastern medicine treatment. But not everyone likes needles and the cost, unless insurance covers it, can be high. Although here in Asheville there is a clinic that charges based on income so everyone has the opportunity to get treatment at a reasonable rate. Anyway I thought of mentioning that acupuncture could be another another treatment, in addition to the meds, that is worth considering. I

Hope your hands are not as painful once you start the meds and may you also have lean sausages as fingers by the time the next cutting of the lawn is happening ? xxx

Thanks Sass I’ll give it a try, had acupuncture before for a trapped nerve in my back and it did help

Meeting my doctor on Friday so I’ll find out what’s going on , and onwards and upwards from there