Takes us back to the question of the money, doesn't it?
I agree that the EU are offering awful terms for departure under May's deal, but I believe their motivation for doing so is simply because they want the UK to remain and continue as one of the five or six biggest contributors of cash to the EU budget. They don't give a toss about what's best for the UK, nor would I expect them to - they are negotiating on behalf of the other 27 countries. If they had any interest in the concerns raised by the UK then the last two years would have seen at least one recognisable figure from the EU (not Verhofstadt, Juncker, Tusk or Barnier, obviously, but someone of similar standing) make public statements about wanting to help ease these concerns. Someone would have spent time trying to explain in layman's terms what the many benefits of EU membership are, probably a whole department of somebodies would have been tasked to do what every government in my lifetime has failed to do: "sell" the concept of the EU to the British public. When our strongly pro-remain media cannot find anyone who rises above the mud-slinging to simply list all the benefits of EU membership, it does make you wonder what those benefits are.
If we revoke Art.50 and stay as members, the EU get their money.
If we leave on May's terms, the EU can simply refuse any future deal proposed and that will activate the backstop. Then they get their money, but we lose any existing membership benefits AND cannot leave the backstop without EU permission. And why would they give that permission if they have a situation whereby the UK still pays every year, is still bound by all the rules, but no longer gets ANY say whatsoever in what happens?
For anyone pro-leave, neither option is acceptable.
For anyone pro-remain, surely May's deal is unacceptable.
The last time the public voted, they voted to leave.
The last time Parliament voted, they voted to stay. But they didn't change the legislation, which currently sees us leaving on March 29th.
The whole thing is a mess, and pretty much nobody in public office, here or in Brussels, seems remotely interested in clearing it up. They're all on one gravy train or another.