Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Woolverhampton_Blue said:
Do you work in law now? My first office job was at a small family law firm and it was without a doubt the most exhilarating job I have had.
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intellectual property/patents so, yeah, to an extent i do. Fairly surprising really considering how clueless i was about firms and career aspirations compared to others at the time
 
Woolverhampton_Blue said:
I haven’t. Will look into them but being honest I’m a very average philosopher (despite having done half an OU degree ‘majoring’ in it). My favourite work is Being and Time but I may not have understood it entirely. What I believe I understood was incredible. The first philosophical book I read was The Myth of Sisyphus and I do still have a soft spot for it.
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It strikes me as somewhat Ulysses like and I wonder whether the flaw is with me for being too daft to get it or with the writer for producing something so opaque.
 
coollino said:
Have you ever read any of Mark Fishers stuff?

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he is very interesting if you are into philosophy linking with modern culture etc. read loads of his k-punk blog when at uni.
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I haven’t mate. Will have a look into him along with the suggestions Bruce made. Do you like philosophy? It’s certainly got a lot of cross overs with law.
 
When my my two boys were born I so wanted my dad to b3 a part of their lives. But the drink killed him and he died young at 53. I was very angry with him. I judged him and had no right to. I wasn't there for him when he was dying, didn't give him a kiss and cuddle and tell him I loved him. I refused / didn't attend his funeral and occasionally I have days when I think of how much of a coward I was. I hate my cowardice and that I wasn't there for him. Painfully day today.
 
Spotty said:
When my my two boys were born I so wanted my dad to b3 a part of their lives. But the drink killed him and he died young at 53. I was very angry with him. I judged him and had no right to. I wasn't there for him when he was dying, didn't give him a kiss and cuddle and tell him I loved him. I refused / didn't attend his funeral and occasionally I have days when I think of how much of a coward I was. I hate my cowardice and that I wasn't there for him. Painfully day today.
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We all make decisions mate, rightly or wrongly and sometimes we can regret them but at the time of making them they make sense.

My dad passed away last August (he left us when I was 11) but growing up, becoming an adult and a father myself I tried time after time to get the relationship to work but it wasn't to be. I didn't attend his funeral, I never got tosay goodbye, never got to say I love him, never got to pull him up over all the pain he caused the family over the years.....but....my conscience is clear with my particular decision and every now and then a song comes on the radio that reminds me of him and I look up and say "hey you daft sod I hope your alright and I still love you".

Sorry mate, probably gone off on one a bit there haven't I. I just wouldn't want you beating yourself up when I reckon you would have made the decision in good faith at the time not to go the funeral or not try and speak to him at that particular time.
 
Spotty said:
When my my two boys were born I so wanted my dad to b3 a part of their lives. But the drink killed him and he died young at 53. I was very angry with him. I judged him and had no right to. I wasn't there for him when he was dying, didn't give him a kiss and cuddle and tell him I loved him. I refused / didn't attend his funeral and occasionally I have days when I think of how much of a coward I was. I hate my cowardice and that I wasn't there for him. Painfully day today.
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That’s a heavy weight on you mate . But we all make mistakes . everyone deals with death in different ways. Don’t beat yourself up about it
 
Spotty said:
When my my two boys were born I so wanted my dad to b3 a part of their lives. But the drink killed him and he died young at 53. I was very angry with him. I judged him and had no right to. I wasn't there for him when he was dying, didn't give him a kiss and cuddle and tell him I loved him. I refused / didn't attend his funeral and occasionally I have days when I think of how much of a coward I was. I hate my cowardice and that I wasn't there for him. Painfully day today.
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Make your peace with him mate. You’ll know how to do that. Good luck.
 

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