No you didn't go off on one bud. I've made some howlers in my life and had no right to cast judgement on him. Just get days when I reflect and think I failed him. I believe in God, was raised a Catholic and believe I will see my loved ones again but I very very much regret what I didn't do. We all make mistakes yes, but that one remains very fresh dispute the years. Still my bad days are sporadic thankfully.
Mate you've mentioned this a few times. It must really hurt. Our lives are full of regrets, everyone of us have them and if we could have a do over theres so many things we'd all change. If its any comfort mate you say you weren't there for him, and couldnt give him a kiss or cuddle, I only know you through this site- you've been there for so many people in here in hard times, you dont even support Everton but still you've selflessly found the time to lift up so many people on here and put them back on their feet. I pmed you yesterday and regardless of what you were doing within minutes youd jumped in to help- Your Dad and Mum will be so proud of you. You're an amazing person, your kids have a great dad, your wife has a loving and caring husband. Go easy on yourself brother theres no one whos ever lived who hasnt a regret. ?
Didn't realize I'd mentioned it before Earwig. Anyway I'm fine it's just I get times when it comes into my thoughts and stays for a few hours. Been busy and thats when I ruminate usually sitting in a dark room just staring at a candle. Odd I know but it works for me. Symbolic I suppose, a flickering light piercing the darkness. Anyway there you are and the replies on here are what I expected. Said it so many times on here, knowing there's someone out there who just cares helps doesn't it. Nice one people, cheers.
I believe I’m a lot older than you, and one of the odd things as you get older the mistakes you made , regrets you have from the past pop more and more into your head . You easily forget all the good things you’ve done, the happiness you’ve created , it seems that only others recognise those things while we continue to beat ourselves up about our past mistakes. If a new “ mistake/ regret” pops into my head I make an apology to whomever was concerned and make my peace. It works for me.
Regrets make us humble too Spotty , they remind us that we're not as strong as we desire to be or thought we already were. If you're still struggling with the regret - Without getting too religous You're Catholic like me remember St. Peters. St Paul's and St Augustines regrets. Everyone of them grew out of their regrets and became better, stronger people - much like you've done since your dads passing. If you still cant forgive yourself mate I mentioned before talk to a good priest, a Traditional 1 if you can - an FSSP or ICKSP who'll listen and advise.Youre a top, top man, dont be so hard on yourself buddy.
Law is my bread and butter and it was the philosophy of it that got me into it. Loved my Jurisprudence classes.
Spotty, never ever call yourself a coward. You my man are an Angel on here, God sent to help troubled people and this site is blessed for your contribution.
Always intended being the ‘People’s lawyer’. My final dissertation was on community rights in NI (emphasis on Orange order parades in ‘host’ communities’)
Same with me. I have been waking up between 4:30-5 and I also have been fortunate about no feeling tired even on the weekends when I go to bed late and I still wake up early
Hey you don’t have to rub it in
