Might not work for you but it did for me,after a life changing illness I was suffering from PTSD and decided to change my life to do voluntary work. The Simon Community in Gospel Oak do soup and tea runs for the homeless. I did it full-time but you can do what fits in with work commitments. Spending time with people with so little can help give your own life some perspective and you can meet some really interesting people both on the streets and other volunteers.
Hey fellas. Thanks for thinking of me.
Yeah, I'm gonna have to do something. It's a major hurdle for me especially with my appearance issues. I just hate people looking at me and dealing with the looks and comments about how tired I always look.
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Yeah, I'm gonna have to do something. It's a major hurdle for me especially with my appearance issues. I just hate people looking at me and dealing with the looks and comments about how tired I always look.
For those that don't know, I have dark circles around my eyes and eye bags. Doesn't sound bad to people but to me it's dictated my life. I hate it. Times when I've braved it and gone out without my cap on I've had people as soon as they see me say things like "Jesus you look done in" or "late night
Even got told I look like a drug addict once. That was a major bad thing. Sent me downwards fast.
I know it sounds trivial, it is as I see other people who look loads worse than me.....but I utterly hate my face, hate being in this body.
So, when I have to work I'll have to do so without my cap to be able to hide my face. It'll be like going out naked. Bright lights, unflattering lighting and all that everyday stuff no one thinks of all make me look worse. It's ruined my life.
I want a job, want a routine, want money and like everyone tells me it gives you a sense of self worth and pride. It's just the face!
Please don't judge me for that. I know it may be trivial to everyone and that I shouldn't worry about it but I do.
People telling me to ignore it and all that is easy for them to say.
All my ex girlfriends have been red hot so I can't be that bad. I just have zero confidence and I'm terrified to be seen without my lid on. Causes major stress and I've had severe anxiety attacks over it.
It's been the cause of my last 2 relationships breaking up.
Also, it's not easy to find a new girlfriend. How can I tell someone what I am and that I don't work. The first thing most women ask is "what do you do for work" etc.
Anyway, I'm aware it comes across as a bit pathetic. It just rules my life.
Now, I do enjoy having time to do my own thing with not working. I like to learn and create so I have time for that.
Sadly though, I'm also bored often. The PS4 gets booted up and I just exist for a day or two.
I DO have to change it. I just have zero motivation to do so and it's cost me everything.
One thing I'm going to mention to my GP is testosterone deficiency. Something I only learnt about from the radio the other week. Clutching at straws but I've had blood tests, thyroid tests and nothing is wrong.
. Joking aside I've always had a low confidence about my appearance and hate having photos taken as I can't look at myself without thinking about how ugly I am and how others must see me.
Lads I’ve got the full houseI know how you feel about your appearance mate because I have the same feelings about myself. I hate my appearance, like yourself I have a very tired look around my eyes and get the same jokes said about me. I'm also getting very thin hair on top, it's hereditary as my dad + grandad also went bald very early. It doesn't suit me though because I have a youngish face. Just something I'll have to get used to. I've also believe myself to be ugly and unlike you I've never had any red hot girlfriends so I must be
I know that feeling mate. It sucks.
Jesus mate, you sound exactly like me (apart from the hair). I can't stand being on camera. Many times in the past i've been caught out or forced to have a photo and when i've seen myself it's knocked me down really hard. I hate it and people just don't understand. It's so easy to say nice things when it's not them dealing with it. Plus, it seems most people i look at look really awake and "Normal". It's really hard and it's dictated my life totally. It's changed me from a confident, outgoing person to a miserable, hateful recluse. I've lost everything because of it.I know how you feel about your appearance mate because I have the same feelings about myself. I hate my appearance, like yourself I have a very tired look around my eyes and get the same jokes said about me. I'm also getting very thin hair on top, it's hereditary as my dad + grandad also went bald very early. It doesn't suit me though because I have a youngish face. Just something I'll have to get used to. I've also believe myself to be ugly and unlike you I've never had any red hot girlfriends so I must be
I was made from the spare parts bin!
