Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

messymascot said:
I definitely don't plan anything as it would never happen it was just annoying that it ran into Tuesday as well. I can no longer drink vodka as it has really bad effects on my mood. I'll be glad when it turns round and starts to get warmer and dark later as combination of cold, dark and hangover compounded things. As I say brighter today but how long will that last? If we beat City on Saturday I'm sure that will help also. Gonna put a coupon on all Premier League results for weekend except ours. It'll only be £1 stake but should give me a little boost if it comes in.
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I cant drink vodka or anything like it either, white spirits send me round the bend, aggressive as anything

either beer or dark spirits for me (sailor jerrys is my tipple), they just make me silly drunk haha
 
SiEdmo said:
hi mate, sorry I didn't come on for an update before now I only really get a chance to come on here in work

so I met her, and it went as well as it probably could have done

she is the same woman at the end of the day and there is going to be some traits she can never shake, however she did seem more level headed (she is back on her meds) and she agreed that things could have been dealt with in so many better ways

she even admitted a few things that she had said where in the heat of argument and were not actually true

we agreed a clean slate between everyone, and I said "when I say clean, I mean clean, if anyone makes so much as a face or a word, then I wont have it", she agreed with this

I then messaged her a few hours later to see if she had talked it through with my step dad and if he agreed (he has always kept out of things to be fair to him) that it was the best course of action

I then invited her to meet my son yday morning, they only came for an hour or so but "a start" was all it was supposed to be, it was nice, made me feel happy, my lad started getting a bit ratty as he was tired and she calmed him and rocked him to sleep, and I just thought 'look how good she is at this, how stupid that so much time has been wasted'

so all positive so far, I am tentatively pleased, but lets see how it goes
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Nice one. That sounds positive. As you say it's early days but a good start.
 
messymascot said:
Tell me about it. Yesterday was bad enough. Is 21st December not the earliest sunset? I'm good today at the moment because I got myself to the gym and the endorphins have done me no end of good. I was lethargic Monday and Tuesday due to going out on Friday night and then drinking again at a christening. As much as I enjoy the nights the days after sessions are always painful. Think Boxing Night will be my next big drink hopefully we will win so will make the following days better!
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Earliest sunset is a week before the solstice, the mornings will keep getting shorter until the 21st by about a minute a day but evenings are already getting brighter by maybe 20 seconds a day.
 

Still talking to my lady friend. We've been messaging all day every day this week, early in the mornings to late a night and just talking about the most random stuff and sharing our quirks with one another. Monday and Tuesday we worked in the same room as another but didn't physically interact but we were messaging each other on the sly.

I met up with some friends last night and told them a bit about her. They seemed happy for me but just stressed that i should be careful. I confided in them I'm not sure how far this could end up going but they said to not think about stuff like that right now, for the time being just live it and let the cards fall where they may. Pretty good advice I think.

We're seeing each other in the flesh again tomorrow, we're going on another work function but this one is going to be more low-key.

Still not taking an meds, been about 6 weeks now I think. Thought about going back on them in light of all these goings-on mentioned above, my brain does spend parts of the day racing and over-thinking but so far I've felt able to get through.

Hopefully this is start of a great chapter.
 
EFCPaul said:
Still talking to my lady friend. We've been messaging all day every day this week, early in the mornings to late a night and just talking about the most random stuff and sharing our quirks with one another. Monday and Tuesday we worked in the same room as another but didn't physically interact but we were messaging each other on the sly.

I met up with some friends last night and told them a bit about her. They seemed happy for me but just stressed that i should be careful. I confided in them I'm not sure how far this could end up going but they said to not think about stuff like that right now, for the time being just live it and let the cards fall where they may. Pretty good advice I think.

We're seeing each other in the flesh again tomorrow, we're going on another work function but this one is going to be more low-key.

Still not taking an meds, been about 6 weeks now I think. Thought about going back on them in light of all these goings-on mentioned above, my brain does spend parts of the day racing and over-thinking but so far I've felt able to get through.

Hopefully this is start of a great chapter.
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sounds promising mate, and it sounds like you have a good set of mates around you, as they say just live it for the moment, people do spend so much time analysing life they sometimes forget to live it
 

EFCPaul said:
Still talking to my lady friend. We've been messaging all day every day this week, early in the mornings to late a night and just talking about the most random stuff and sharing our quirks with one another. Monday and Tuesday we worked in the same room as another but didn't physically interact but we were messaging each other on the sly.

I met up with some friends last night and told them a bit about her. They seemed happy for me but just stressed that i should be careful. I confided in them I'm not sure how far this could end up going but they said to not think about stuff like that right now, for the time being just live it and let the cards fall where they may. Pretty good advice I think.

We're seeing each other in the flesh again tomorrow, we're going on another work function but this one is going to be more low-key.

Still not taking an meds, been about 6 weeks now I think. Thought about going back on them in light of all these goings-on mentioned above, my brain does spend parts of the day racing and over-thinking but so far I've felt able to get through.

Hopefully this is start of a great chapter.
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Sounds really positive mate.

Just be yourself, don't be tempted to accept less than you deserve for the sake of a relationship.

The best relationships are ones where you can be yourself (including your troubles) and the other person doesn't just accept you, they love you for it.

All the best, we are all rooting for you.
 
EFCPaul said:
Still talking to my lady friend. We've been messaging all day every day this week, early in the mornings to late a night and just talking about the most random stuff and sharing our quirks with one another. Monday and Tuesday we worked in the same room as another but didn't physically interact but we were messaging each other on the sly.

I met up with some friends last night and told them a bit about her. They seemed happy for me but just stressed that i should be careful. I confided in them I'm not sure how far this could end up going but they said to not think about stuff like that right now, for the time being just live it and let the cards fall where they may. Pretty good advice I think.

We're seeing each other in the flesh again tomorrow, we're going on another work function but this one is going to be more low-key.

Still not taking an meds, been about 6 weeks now I think. Thought about going back on them in light of all these goings-on mentioned above, my brain does spend parts of the day racing and over-thinking but so far I've felt able to get through.

Hopefully this is start of a great chapter.
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Mate - keep on the meds...unless your GP says otherwise. It's great to hear you are coming out the other end BUT the meds are presribed for a purpose and you are still into the start of your journey. They have hopefully calmed your mind and got you back on an even kilter but there may still be ups and downs to come and I for one know that the meds will help you cope. You do not want to be going backwards, trust me! Good luck!
 
Bruce Wayne said:
Interesting read about Gareth Farrelly and the bullying culture at Villa.

https://www.theguardian.com/footbal...farrelly-bullying-aston-villa-kevin-macdonald
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Gareth is some man, scored probably the most important goal in our history, having come from that xrap at villa I'd say a good few young lads hung up their boots because of it. Then after football to become a lawyer having left school at 16, I always liked him but after reading that my admiration of him has gone up.
 
BigBlueNose said:
Yeah there is that.

Need to get re motivated in the new year and get myself going again.

Perhaps not having the stress of losing your own place will be beneficial.
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Don't get too worked over football either. Nearly everything you post on it is negative.
Its out of your control so no point letting it get to you too much
 

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