Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
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Frank Gallagher
Player Valuation: £50m
what a read... ive had similar issues and never thought I would be able to write about it on this forum.
it helps getting things off your chest tho.
I'm coming to terms with the fact that this is going to be a long battle rather than it being a 'quick fix' as my problems are quite deep rooted I believe.
I'm just glad that I'm at least trying to get back on track, and that my family know my position.
I have already had some txts and comments from family, that make me realise they do not fully understand what depression is tho, things like, 'oh you'll be fine next week, just get back to work and everything will be ok' ... this really isn't the case!
Yep mate, I made up my mind that I'm going to give it a go. Genuinely like her, she's got a good personality and is clearly a great mum to her little girl, her social media is full of cute pictures of them together that would melt your heart. A girl like that is clearly a good egg and that's the type of person I can develop an interest for. If she turns me down then it's no big deal, I'd still get along with her.
granter79
Player Valuation: £35m
Went really well thanks.Hope the interview went well today
Got some bad news that mate Terry passed away this morning. True blue season tkt holder and absolute gent. Gutted over it. Coming over to the games now will be a bit empty for a while
Kenshin
Player Valuation: £40m
Yep mate, I made up my mind that I'm going to give it a go. Genuinely like her, she's got a good personality and is clearly a great mum to her little girl, her social media is full of cute pictures of them together that would melt your heart. A girl like that is clearly a good egg and that's the type of person I can develop an interest for. If she turns me down then it's no big deal, I'd still get along with her.
if i can chime in a little bit on this Paulie. Sometimes in life a girl gets, for all intents and purposes, knocked up by the wrong person and it all ends in tears for them. I have a few friends who were in that position, dads who don't want to see their kids, some just never meant to be together etc, some just as i say knocked up. and all of them have one thing in common, they are boss women. The fact they have a kid or not is irrelevant to who they are and if anything it has helped them grow up a little bit, whereas friends from the past who have not settled down by 30 are still living the same life as they did at 18 but complaining of depression and bi polar and the like. I don't say that to make light of the situation, simply that they have just not grown up over the past 13-14 years and blame anything but themselves.
That was a huge tangent but what i am trying to say is you are right to want to go after this girl, chances are she will be boss like some of my friends are, all with kids and all ended up meeting someone miles better the second time around. So good luck Paulie, if she is half as great as you make her out to be then she will be a real catch.
trebilcock66
Player Valuation: £8m
First time on here for a while. I usually try to post something encouraging for sufferers as I am well now but have had a period of therapy to help with depression.
Now been told that I'm losing my job next month. I'll probably be OK but having something taken away by somebody or something else really knocks your self-esteem. Am determined to be strong about it but genuinely worried about the future. Being 60 is a real disadvantage in the job market. Onward and upward.
Now been told that I'm losing my job next month. I'll probably be OK but having something taken away by somebody or something else really knocks your self-esteem. Am determined to be strong about it but genuinely worried about the future. Being 60 is a real disadvantage in the job market. Onward and upward.
This has made me cry. Whoever you are, welcome x
toffeemax
Player Valuation: £15m
not posted in here in a while - hope everyones doing ok...
Personally speaking feel like im coming out of a bad patch - friend of mine committed suicide about 18 months ago and from there on in I had some serious obsessions about it, how easy it was. I never thought deep down I would do it but to have that in the back of my mind 24/7 was horrible. My anxieities are slowly moving from there to my relationship but hey ho, these things happen, and I know I've just got to grin and bear it that that's what my head's like! If I'm not anxious about something then I'm not myself, but the girlfriend is my rock and understands me.
The best healer is time, I say it non-stop to those who are in bad ways as that is what I've experienced. It's hard to think things can get better but they do, if they can get bad, they can also get good again - we should know that, we support Everton ffs!!
Keep posting in this thread - will do my best to help others now I'm feeling better myself - if you can though, see your doc. If you don't like that one, see another, and repeat until you're better. You wouldn't walk around with a broken leg if your doc said it was fine but you knew it wasnt!!
Personally speaking feel like im coming out of a bad patch - friend of mine committed suicide about 18 months ago and from there on in I had some serious obsessions about it, how easy it was. I never thought deep down I would do it but to have that in the back of my mind 24/7 was horrible. My anxieities are slowly moving from there to my relationship but hey ho, these things happen, and I know I've just got to grin and bear it that that's what my head's like! If I'm not anxious about something then I'm not myself, but the girlfriend is my rock and understands me.
The best healer is time, I say it non-stop to those who are in bad ways as that is what I've experienced. It's hard to think things can get better but they do, if they can get bad, they can also get good again - we should know that, we support Everton ffs!!
Keep posting in this thread - will do my best to help others now I'm feeling better myself - if you can though, see your doc. If you don't like that one, see another, and repeat until you're better. You wouldn't walk around with a broken leg if your doc said it was fine but you knew it wasnt!!
toffeemax
Player Valuation: £15m
hope it works out - more to life than jobs/money and there are loads of places/people who can help. Unfortunately don't know what it's like at that age yet... Keep us posted on how it goes.
broughy
Player Valuation: £750k
Ive been feeling really down lately and i think iv got to the point where i dont feel anything anymore. Im not happy but im not sad either im just here, same routine everyday. I cant seem to get out the routine. i have tried to get fit and back to the gym and then i get injured and it puts me back to square one. Its getting to the point where i feel like giving in. I get paid tomorrow and im guna have about £150 to myself for the next four weeks. When people look at me they see someone thats up for a laugh and pretty happy but its all a front, inside i dont feel anything iv stopped enjoying pretty much everything i ever liked. sport, music, socialising..
I did a few months back go and see someone about it all but then like usual i just gave on it. i know its not a quick fix and i should of gave it a bit longer but i just couldnt face it as it made me feel worse strangely speaking to someone about why i feel like this.
Anyway just thought i had to get it off my chest.
Take care.
I did a few months back go and see someone about it all but then like usual i just gave on it. i know its not a quick fix and i should of gave it a bit longer but i just couldnt face it as it made me feel worse strangely speaking to someone about why i feel like this.
Anyway just thought i had to get it off my chest.
Take care.
BiggyRat
Player Valuation: £35m
The tears of a clown. I always think of that whenever I see anyone post something like the above (bold).
I often used to wonder that, if you can put on that brave persona for others, why can't you do it for yourself? But, it really is just a mask. The real person inside is fighting the good fight with internal struggles. It's actually quite an achievement to fool those closest to us but it's unsustainable. The mask rarely slips but the battle to keep it up eats away inside.
I know this isn't giving you answers or solutions, but I'm hoping it's giving you validation of the fact that this is a common problem for many. It does not diminish your struggle, not at all, but there are people out there who know how to help. Speaking to someone else shouldn't make you feel worse but I clearly don't have all the facts (nor do I need them). I can only suggest you try another medical professional & be patient while you look for the right one for you. Worked well for me. To be able to blurt out everything & shed a tear with someone who won't judge you can be the most positive thing in your life. I hope you can try to stick it out. There is no quick fix, as you say, but just like a diet, it's not the quick fad that will solve the problem, but a whole lifestyle adjustment.
Good luck.
Blueway
Player Valuation: £1m
There is always a new challenge around the corner isn't there? Age is not respected in this country as it should be as experience is as good as any exam sheet! may I ask what industry are you in?
It is very hard to deal with redundancy, having been through it myself and lost a great deal financially, myself and people I know have - over time - realised it was maybe a good thing to have happened and I cannot imagine how my life would have panned out if I had trodden the same path in that previous role. I wish you all the best for staying positive and confident in the weeks that follow and someone, someone will see that bright light inside you regardless of age.
Hi mate.
You're describing txt book depression there.
Some wise words there from @BiggyRat there and I know how hard it can be to keep going to counselling when you feel like you're living in a black hole.
When I was really bad, I found this wonderful NHS run forum a great source of comfort and help :
Mentalhealth.org
It's an online Communtity of sufferers with every conceivable mental health issue imaginable.
The beauty of it is, you don't have to leave the house, you can log on and within seconds of posting that your having a bad day, you'll be inundated with other posters offering practical advice and support.
Ps - Do you have anyone close to you that you've told or knows what's going on mate ?.
The amount of people this thread helps is amazing.
I'll keep a long story short here, but one of my best mates is battling depression and didn't even know it till he confided in me about his state of mind the last few months.
Because i was open about what i was going through with family and friends and didn't keep it to myself at the time he knew he could vent to me and i pointed him in the direction of seeing his GP and starting counseling.
So despite never ever wanting to go through that ever again i can take positives that I'm now in a position to be a help to others and let people know it's nothing to be ashamed of as I'm really starting to see how many people are affected by it.
Because i was open about what i was going through with family and friends and didn't keep it to myself at the time he knew he could vent to me and i pointed him in the direction of seeing his GP and starting counseling.
So despite never ever wanting to go through that ever again i can take positives that I'm now in a position to be a help to others and let people know it's nothing to be ashamed of as I'm really starting to see how many people are affected by it.
