toffeemax
Player Valuation: £15m
it is so normal for you to feel worse before you feel better - i think if youre honest with the person youre seeing about it, that helps
Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
- Thread starter Groucho
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it is so normal for you to feel worse before you feel better - i think if youre honest with the person youre seeing about it, that helps
One to lift the heart. Tellingly too the date.....6th January .....The Epiphany. May it continue to be a pivotal one for our new friend.
broughy
Player Valuation: £750k
I think a few people know my situation as i was off work for 6 months last year with it. i think people just think iv got over it but really im just the same but learned to deal with it a bit better. thanks for your advice means alot
trebilcock66
Player Valuation: £8m
Thanks mate. Means a lot
Frank Gallagher
Player Valuation: £50m
The Doc should have you back in for a review soon ?.
They should be 100% working by week four.
By working I mean you should be felling as close to normal as possible.
Frank Gallagher
Player Valuation: £50m
got an appointment end of next week to review my situation .
like I say, I'm defo abit more perky today
Well in mate.
Your Doc is obviously on the ball too, as I've known them prescribe stuff in the past with no review dates. So you end up not knowing if it's working the way it should be.
GwladysBlue
Player Valuation: £70m
Alanbileysfeathercut
Player Valuation: £80m
Spoke before about problems at my work
Here's another
Lad goes off with depression
So they'll ease him back by doing a half shift with a helping hand shadowing him ,fair enough .
Then for some reason the helping hand gets redeployed last minute
So they throw said lad on job himself cos work more important than health in managements eyes
Guess what? lads off again .
Here's another
Lad goes off with depression
So they'll ease him back by doing a half shift with a helping hand shadowing him ,fair enough .
Then for some reason the helping hand gets redeployed last minute
So they throw said lad on job himself cos work more important than health in managements eyes
Guess what? lads off again .
Like doesn't seem right somehow so congratulations on the interview, but deepest sympathy for your loss.
About losing your job, don't know if it's a money or something to do thing, but would you consider doing something like roydo (deliveries) or similar?
Setting up as a sole trader is simple and can be done online, and the books can be kept on a spreadsheet generally speaking.
Before I get a telling off, I'm not touting, just trying to give practical help.
granter79
Player Valuation: £35m
Cheers mate. Was up and down yesterday in the space of an hour. Gutted when I got the news. Will be a huge hole in everyone's life. A blue that u would sit for hrs listening to.
BiggyRat
Player Valuation: £35m
Got a new job this week. It's doing what I did roughly 15 years ago and is probably half the wage of the job I had to leave, but I'm looking forward to it.
Got to accept that a job is a vital part of our wellbeing and despite the drop in wages, being happy doing the job is worth more than the cash that's missing.
Got to accept that a job is a vital part of our wellbeing and despite the drop in wages, being happy doing the job is worth more than the cash that's missing.
Abraders
Player Valuation: £60m
I'm a bit lost at the moment. Starting to really feel terrible again on what seems like a daily basis. It's weird, speaking about it though. I've mentioned some problems before, felt somewhat better for a bit, maybe a couple of months, and then I slump all over again for a decent period of time. At the minute my anxiety and more is through the roof...
I'm literally not consistent. I've gone from happy-go-lucky to barely being able to get out of bed/the house all day again and being miserable, my mood can go from 100-0 in what feels like just a moment. And it does this over, and over, and over again. Sometimes weeks, sometimes months, sometimes hours...
I literally have 0 interest in the things I actually like at the minute, comics, drawing, gaming... I just can't bring myself to partake in these activities and if I eventually do, they are put away or turned off before I've even done anything of note. The only thing I even get partially excited for is Everton...
After finishing Uni, and regretting going by the way... I took a job I didn't want, as I find it hard to say no to people. I've grown into the role however and actually found myself enjoying it for a while, to the point where my boss offered me a management role for my performance. Since that, I've tried to condition myself into that state of mind and it's not really me. (Not only that, but a salary etc doesn't suit me whatsoever and I'll almost certainly be taken advantage of, if I haven't already been... like every other place I ever worked). I would leave tomorrow if I actually had something better lined up, but I don't and thus this will dictate my life for a while.
Anyway... I've found myself doing anything at all to take me away from reality, I guess. Drinking, smoking bud way too much etc etc. I enjoy it, but not for the reasons I should or want to.
I mentioned to my mother about the feelings today and didn't really get a response. I know that she's aware something's wrong because this isn't the first time I've mentioned it, and she's usually quick to cotton on - but today nothing and it made me feel even worse because I needed a response, or something... anything at all. I don't even know what it is I need. My parents are old fashioned though. My colleagues weren't so blind however, and I ended up opening up to my boss about a few things as he privately called me to one side... who went on to retract the managerial position proposal and offered some generally sound advice. This could really be seen as a blessing due to my feelings over the work and the situation... but nevertheless it made me feel worse, again. It's very hard to put on a smile and a brace face all of the time just for other people's sakes, too, which I've now done in another period of life for too long..
Since my long term ex some years ago now I've found myself being shat on by every opportunity, and that certainly hasn't helped. That being said I won't bore any of you further with my past relationships or anything, but I've put so much energy into making things better for other people that I think I've lost myself. I don't know who I am anymore, nor can I see how things will turn around. I actually feel guilty writing any of this, because some people in far worse conditions etc would long to have my place in life, no doubt.
Even in this writing I have really struggled to say what I actually intended, and have probably ended up just ranting.
Meh :/
I'm literally not consistent. I've gone from happy-go-lucky to barely being able to get out of bed/the house all day again and being miserable, my mood can go from 100-0 in what feels like just a moment. And it does this over, and over, and over again. Sometimes weeks, sometimes months, sometimes hours...
I literally have 0 interest in the things I actually like at the minute, comics, drawing, gaming... I just can't bring myself to partake in these activities and if I eventually do, they are put away or turned off before I've even done anything of note. The only thing I even get partially excited for is Everton...
After finishing Uni, and regretting going by the way... I took a job I didn't want, as I find it hard to say no to people. I've grown into the role however and actually found myself enjoying it for a while, to the point where my boss offered me a management role for my performance. Since that, I've tried to condition myself into that state of mind and it's not really me. (Not only that, but a salary etc doesn't suit me whatsoever and I'll almost certainly be taken advantage of, if I haven't already been... like every other place I ever worked). I would leave tomorrow if I actually had something better lined up, but I don't and thus this will dictate my life for a while.
Anyway... I've found myself doing anything at all to take me away from reality, I guess. Drinking, smoking bud way too much etc etc. I enjoy it, but not for the reasons I should or want to.
I mentioned to my mother about the feelings today and didn't really get a response. I know that she's aware something's wrong because this isn't the first time I've mentioned it, and she's usually quick to cotton on - but today nothing and it made me feel even worse because I needed a response, or something... anything at all. I don't even know what it is I need. My parents are old fashioned though. My colleagues weren't so blind however, and I ended up opening up to my boss about a few things as he privately called me to one side... who went on to retract the managerial position proposal and offered some generally sound advice. This could really be seen as a blessing due to my feelings over the work and the situation... but nevertheless it made me feel worse, again. It's very hard to put on a smile and a brace face all of the time just for other people's sakes, too, which I've now done in another period of life for too long..
Since my long term ex some years ago now I've found myself being shat on by every opportunity, and that certainly hasn't helped. That being said I won't bore any of you further with my past relationships or anything, but I've put so much energy into making things better for other people that I think I've lost myself. I don't know who I am anymore, nor can I see how things will turn around. I actually feel guilty writing any of this, because some people in far worse conditions etc would long to have my place in life, no doubt.
Even in this writing I have really struggled to say what I actually intended, and have probably ended up just ranting.
Meh :/
