I can’t give you any advice or guidance but I sincerely hope you seek further help to help you find your peace.
So sorry to hear of the loss of your loved ones. Life can be cruel at times but I hope you are able to take comfort in memories of happier times.
Curtis sorry to hear you are struggling mate. Like you I work in mental health - I've been a psychy nurse for over 20 years. Do you get regular clinical supervision. I'm a stickler for making sure I get it and I am a clinical supervisor for a few of my colleagues. If you haven't may I suggest you request it on a regular basis. It is very important that you don't take it home with you. Saying that it's very hard not to at times. I need to feel human, not de sensitised. I can't and won't go into detail here, suffice to say I need to let things out. The thing that can be so distressing sometimes is oddly the thing that makes me love my job. You have a good soul, a kind heart, to want to help people in despair but you are human mate and as such need people to listen and to know that the heavy weight the job brings, is shared around. You need to tell people your struggling and whilst you have said you've seen people, it should have a beneficial affect, its meant to help and if it isn't you need to seek further help. Your feeling this way for a reason but it appears that the stress is still there. Can you take some time off, time away from your clients or service users? It is not an option buddy, the stress will build get too much so it's really important that any help you get is beneficial. It's great that your able to share and as you know there are lots of people who want to help. Take care, look after yourself and remember, it's a noble job helping others but it can only happen if you have peace of mind yourself. All the best bud.
We had two cats and lost the last one late last year because we are moving I said it would be wrong to get another as the new house might be just wrong for it .Anyway we had a chat on the wifes birthday and I asked did she now want another and she started to cry ,I felt as though I had robbed her of something .So we now have a male - that was what we both agreed we should avoid -and he is the best thing since sliced bread .
Having had both I can say that cats are better at being alone but we are lucky in that we have space for him to go out as I think they too need to stretch their legs .
Get a cat mate.
I understand completely ,it is nice to just be with them sitting next to you watching the blues win,saying that our new cat watches the game but never says anything ! nothing about who is playing well -nothing -but I suppose that is better than an argument.
I found out yesterday that my cat is dying. It feels devastating. He's been the most gentle and affectionate pet and we're really going to miss him. It is tough.
So sorry to hear and I know how devastating it is to lose a pet ,they are a part of the family .My only wish is that you think of him when the time comes ,please don't leave it too long as he cannot tell you the pain he is in .It is my biggest fear that we could have held on too long to our two she cats .
I agree. It's hard to know when the right time is though. He seemed healthy so recently but he's deteriorated suddenly due to kidney disease. The last thing we want is for him to suffer.
May be the time to ask a vet if you should wish him goodbye ,the thing is we all hold on for as long as we HOPE is fair but at least with pets you can put them out their pain ,us we are made to suffer sometimes far too long.
