Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Brett Angell Delight]

I've been so tired today can only hope its my body reacting to what was a really long day yesterday. I'm kind of pinning my hopes on next Wednesday removing more as this amount hasn't has the effects I'd hoped. Maybe it will get better over the next couple of days.

My favourite players are James, Richarlison and Digne. My all time favourite player is Mikel Arteta although I do also think Joe Parkinson would have been a great player had cruel injuries not struck.

I imagine what you went through yesterday was a lot of physical and emotional stress for you, mate. No wonder you’re knackered! Get yourself an early night when we’re 0-2 down at Huddersfield and you’ll feel much better tomorrow ?

 

[Sassy Colombian]

I've been so tired today can only hope its my body reacting to what was a really long day yesterday. I'm kind of pinning my hopes on next Wednesday removing more as this amount hasn't has the effects I'd hoped. Maybe it will get better over the next couple of days.

My favourite players are James, Richarlison and Digne. My all time favourite player is Mikel Arteta although I do also think Joe Parkinson would have been a great player had cruel injuries not struck.

Perhaps it is a reaction through everything your body went through yesterday and hopefully next Wednesday's visit has the effect you wish. You really are so brave going though this ordeal, are you still working too?

I actually really like Digne too, he is so quick and skillful with the ball and very cute too lol I just read a rumor that PSG wants to sign Richalison, I hope it is not happening this season as we already have many needs in our squad and he certainly is a weapon we can't afford to lose at the moment.

I hope Everton does well today, I am going to miss the match because my daughter has swimming classes and I volunteer to be in charged of the girls dressing room. I think it is only the first match I have missed since becoming a follower. How do you think we will do today? what's your score prediction?

 

[messymascot]

Perhaps it is a reaction through everything your body went through yesterday and hopefully next Wednesday's visit has the effect you wish. You really are so brave going though this ordeal, are you still working too?

I actually really like Digne too, he is so quick and skillful with the ball and very cute too lol I just read a rumor that PSG wants to sign Richalison, I hope it is not happening this season as we already have many needs in our squad and he certainly is a weapon we can't afford to lose at the moment.

I hope Everton does well today, I am going to miss the match because my daughter has swimming classes and I volunteer to be in charged of the girls dressing room. I think it is only the first match I have missed since becoming a follower. How do you think we will do today? what's your score prediction?

You must be a glutton for punishment if you've only missed one game. I think we will win 3-1.

Yeah we need to keep our better players so hope they pursue other targets.

I am trying to work but I'm starting to miss a few days now. Not sure how much longer I can keep it going but for my mental well being I need to try and keep working as long as I can. Yeah I'm hoping it's just a reaction and tomorrow will be better.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

You must be a glutton for punishment if you've only missed one game. I think we will win 3-1.

Yeah we need to keep our better players so hope they pursue other targets.

I am trying to work but I'm starting to miss a few days now. Not sure how much longer I can keep it going but for my mental well being I need to try and keep working as long as I can. Yeah I'm hoping it's just a reaction and tomorrow will be better.

I like your score prediction, lets project such win.

We sure do. The window is closing soon and I wish we knew what's going to happen with new signings and the James' drama.

I totally understand your desire to keep working as it is nice to have this sense of normalcy, hopefully your work will continue supporting you and let you remain working even if you at times have to miss a few days. I hope so too, I'm also projecting this will to the universe. I wish you feeling better tomorrow ?

 

[efcforever]

Hi I've just got back from my appointment with my consultant. Unfortunately as I expected there is nothing more they can do with regards to treating the cancer. They can maybe do things to make me a little bit more comfortable. He didn't really want to commit to a timescale but suggested it would be months rather than years. Looks like 1995 FA Cup is going to be my last trophy. Hopefully I can keep going a bit longer and if you are still fine with it I'll try and keep you updated in here. At this stage I don't totally know what to think but I'm sure it will sink in shortly. Need a good start so I can go out on a high!

I'm sorry to hear this mate. We all love you ?

 

[Earwigjoe]

I've been so tired today can only hope its my body reacting to what was a really long day yesterday. I'm kind of pinning my hopes on next Wednesday removing more as this amount hasn't has the effects I'd hoped. Maybe it will get better over the next couple of days.

My favourite players are James, Richarlison and Digne. My all time favourite player is Mikel Arteta although I do also think Joe Parkinson would have been a great player had cruel injuries not struck.

Messy youre bound to be tired buddy. . Both mentally and physically you must be proper exhausted youve been worrying then coming to terms with diagnosis, more tests, worrying again about each new test and future appointments. Youre going through so much I hope you can find time to rest or even to be distracted even for a little while with something else following this lot of ours cant be to much of a happy distraction at the minute. Hows the cricket going is it over now? Do they just play cricket in the summer? Arteta was quality to watch wasnt he. He was a much better player than he is manager though so far. Messy i hope you know youre always in our thoughts and prayers we're all rooting for you and thinking of you, i wish we could all be with you to support you. Messys blue and white army. Love you brother get some sleep.

 

[Spotty]

What an awful experience for you. There are posters on here who are more qualified than me but I just wanted to share some advice given to me when I was at my lowest ebb. “Don’t be impatient with time, let it pass, know that what you are feeling is temporary and it will go away.” Things (medication etc.) take time but knowing they would improve in the future was a great help to me. I wish you and your family the best of luck and please forgive the ramblings of an old woman.

Gwladys " more qualified than me "? No your wrong. We ALL bring our unique views on life's ups and downs. It's a learning curve for all of us and your views carry just as much weight as the next person's. I refer to what Oscar Wilde said about life " the only thing that stops our plans for life is ........life itself ". How many times have we thought to ourselves " does this just happen to me !? " and then you hear from someone who gone, or been through the same experience. Keep posting Gwladys it helps people it really does. Take care.

 

[Gwladysover]

Gwladys " more qualified than me "? No your wrong. We ALL bring our unique views on life's ups and downs. It's a learning curve for all of us and your views carry just as much weight as the next person's. I refer to what Oscar Wilde said about life " the only thing that stops our plans for life is ........life itself ". How many times have we thought to ourselves " does this just happen to me !? " and then you hear from someone who gone, or been through the same experience. Keep posting Gwladys it helps people it really does. Take care.

Thanks for the kind words Spotty. I have always held back from voicing my opinion throughout my life, my lack of confidence going back to my schooldays being told I was stupid for failure to understand algebra and equations. I retreated into my shell at the back of the formroom hoping that the teacher wouldn’t notice me and further expose my stupidity. This negativity progressed to other things in my life. In later years when I went for group therapy sessions for anxiety we were told to introduce ourselves by relating five facts, I focused on five things I couldn’t do! Although I am no longer the shrinking violet I once was and can stand my corner if necessary I still can’t shake the notion that other people are more qualified to speak. I will keep posting , if you hear a small voice piping up from the back that will be me lol. Thanks once again.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Thanks for the kind words Spotty. I have always held back from voicing my opinion throughout my life, my lack of confidence going back to my schooldays being told I was stupid for failure to understand algebra and equations. I retreated into my shell at the back of the formroom hoping that the teacher wouldn’t notice me and further expose my stupidity. This negativity progressed to other things in my life. In later years when I went for group therapy sessions for anxiety we were told to introduce ourselves by relating five facts, I focused on five things I couldn’t do! Although I am no longer the shrinking violet I once was and can stand my corner if necessary I still can’t shake the notion that other people are more qualified to speak. I will keep posting , if you hear a small voice piping up from the back that will be me lol. Thanks once again.

I think a lot will relate to that mate. Sad that generations of kids have to go through that and its subsequent effects before anything changes.

Great job piping up in spite of your anxiety though. The beauty of this place is the anonymity it affords you, so practice coming out of your shell with us and hopefully it’ll spill over into your non-forum life!!

Everyone that posts in here, once or a hundred times, should feel mightily proud of themselves for contributing to this conversation.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

@messymascot did you manage to get some rest under your belt last night, mate? What’s the word today?

 

[Spotty]

Thanks for the kind words Spotty. I have always held back from voicing my opinion throughout my life, my lack of confidence going back to my schooldays being told I was stupid for failure to understand algebra and equations. I retreated into my shell at the back of the formroom hoping that the teacher wouldn’t notice me and further expose my stupidity. This negativity progressed to other things in my life. In later years when I went for group therapy sessions for anxiety we were told to introduce ourselves by relating five facts, I focused on five things I couldn’t do! Although I am no longer the shrinking violet I once was and can stand my corner if necessary I still can’t shake the notion that other people are more qualified to speak. I will keep posting , if you hear a small voice piping up from the back that will be me lol. Thanks once again.

Gwladys if I may point out something that MAY be of benefit. I think and it's only my view, subjective, that people are often anxious about saying something for fear of being wrong. That's only natural, however. If you expect two things it may help. Firstly your view may in fact be wrong,not true, and secondly be prepared for your view to be challenged. It's OK TO BE WRONG,IT REALLY IS. As for seeing your views as being challenged, that I think makes it a learning curve especially if you think " you know what, I didn't know that and this person's spot on ". So please keep posting, your views may be challenged occasionally, but that's fine too. Take care.

 

[riddick]

Appreciate the thoughts and comments here. Haven't really been in a chatty mood obviously lately tho, I apologize. Seeing a psychiatrist in a couple hours, hopefully that goes well but the reviews on the guy are a bit...eesh. got called from my insurance company that they assigned a caseworker to assist, we discussed what steps need to be done starting today. If this doctor doesn't work out she said she has a list of others she will call on to get me a replacement.

Not hoping for the worst obviously, just preparing in case this isn't great. Last time I spoke with someone I had to check myself in so saying I'm a bit worried is a tad of an understatement.

 

[KloppShambles]

This may seem obvious, but... dont forget to take your meds!!!
Yesterday I was having an existential crisis about following football/Everton, what was the point of all this, nobody cares about spectating etc. Huddersfield equalizing made it worse. What am I gonna do with my life now that I have no passion?

The next day I realized that I forgot to take my medicine. Just a friendly reminder to double check if you're feeling worse than usual! Set an alarm!

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Great suggestion Sassy, I found relaxation or mindfulness a great help. I used to set aside half an hour each day when I wouldn’t be disturbed to listen to a tape ( it was in the olden days lol ). At first my mind would race but gradually learned to shut out the negative thoughts and concentrate on breathing and visualisation. I still use these techniques if I start to become agitated in queues and on buses etc.

Thanks @Gwladysover I wish I could get myself to be committed to meditating more regularly as there so many benefits with such practice but those times when I find myself needing some peace of mind I tend to find comfort in this practice and mindfulness techniques. I am also a big believer in visualisation and sending positive energy and thoughts out to the world, anything that helps me deal better with the reality of life and the barriers that one encounters throughout life.

BTW, I always appreciate your post and wise comments so keep posting and encouraging people here.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Appreciate the thoughts and comments here. Haven't really been in a chatty mood obviously lately tho, I apologize. Seeing a psychiatrist in a couple hours, hopefully that goes well but the reviews on the guy are a bit...eesh. got called from my insurance company that they assigned a caseworker to assist, we discussed what steps need to be done starting today. If this doctor doesn't work out she said she has a list of others she will call on to get me a replacement.

Not hoping for the worst obviously, just preparing in case this isn't great. Last time I spoke with someone I had to check myself in so saying I'm a bit worried is a tad of an understatement.

Riddick, I hope your appointment goes better than the last time. If you feel like expressing yourself we are here for you ?