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Terrarian said:
Absolutely Jazzy I do, you've all been a great help to me and very supportive. This more trying to get me to stop being reclusive, She also says I need to start visiting family more as well.
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Have to say she’s absolutely right mate!! There’s a lot of research that shows communicating face to face, even with strangers, does wonders for your health and helping you live longer. They’ve also shown that in those communities that have more than the average numbers of centenarians a key part is that they have supportive social networks and look out for each other. Ironically they call these communities “ Blue Zones “ 🤣
 

Just back from a wee jaunt with Mrs b, hiring out a full kilt outfit for my youngest son’s wedding in Loch Lomond this July. I’ve worn the “ Welsh Pride” tartan for my own wedding and my daughters , and I’ve ordered it again as this time my son has chosen it for himself, all his Groomsmen plus future Farher-In -Law. ! Should be good fun on those Bonnie Bonnie banks!
 
blueloon said:
Just back from a wee jaunt with Mrs b, hiring out a full kilt outfit for my youngest son’s wedding in Loch Lomond this July. I’ve worn the “ Welsh Pride” tartan for my own wedding and my daughters , and I’ve ordered it again as this time my son has chosen it for himself, all his Groomsmen plus future Farher-In -Law. ! Should be good fun on those Bonnie Bonnie banks!
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Awesome. Pics of the event please in due course!
 

Eggs said:
….i remember our daughter went with us and we stayed in the Riu. Daughter and i had a few late nights always finished off with Madeira wine, found it a bit like port.
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Just waiting at the airport and we just had to try some for "free" , well it was if you bought some!

Strange, as Fred knows I love my wine bone dry but me and Mrs J much preferred the Madeira medium sweet.

It actually reminds us of Pinot which we've only ever found in the Charente region of France .
 
Terrarian said:
Absolutely Jazzy I do, you've all been a great help to me and very supportive. This more trying to get me to stop being reclusive, She also says I need to start visiting family more as well.
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When walking Daisy you could try just saying Morning or Nice Day to other dog walkers, no need to get into a conversation but may help with your self confidence, it’s surprising what you can do when pushed out of your comfort zone.I have posted the full story in the depression thread but to cut a long story short, I was recommended to go for group counselling, something that filled me with horror, I went not expecting to get past the door but I did. To my surprise I enjoyed the sessions and was sorry when the course ended. Take things slowly and don’t be disheartened if things don’t go to plan straightaway, you will have tried and that’s the important thing. Keep trying and we’ll be with you every step of the way. Sorry if that came across as preachy, wasn’t my intention, I do go on a bit if you hadn’t noticed.😂
 

Gwladysover said:
When walking Daisy you could try just saying Morning or Nice Day to other dog walkers, no need to get into a conversation but may help with your self confidence, it’s surprising what you can do when pushed out of your comfort zone.I have posted the full story in the depression thread but to cut a long story short, I was recommended to go for group counselling, something that filled me with horror, I went not expecting to get past the door but I did. To my surprise I enjoyed the sessions and was sorry when the course ended. Take things slowly and don’t be disheartened if things don’t go to plan straightaway, you will have tried and that’s the important thing. Keep trying and we’ll be with you every step of the way. Sorry if that came across as preachy, wasn’t my intention, I do go on a bit if you hadn’t noticed.😂
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Believe it or not, I do speak to other dog walkers, after living here 6years you get to know the regular ones. None would have a clue that I had personality disorders. The issue is prolonged interaction. I'm very polite and say good morning etc, I'll even have conversations, I'm in control of them interactions and can exit any time. I just start feeling anxious if I have to spend any amount of time with people, even my family.

I think it's been so long that I've probably made myself more anxious as well. Fingers crossed I can take that step. Thanks G, I appreciate your advice 👌
 
Terrarian said:
Afternoon all, well my therapist has challenged me to get back in touch with my friends before next Thursday's appointment. Not going to lie I'm cringing at the thought 🥺
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One of the best things about mates is that connecting with them is always seamless be it 5 days or 5 years since you last spent time together.

They will be delighted to hear from you T.
 
Gwladysover said:
I don’t like sitting around either, I operate on the premise a moving target is harder to hit. lol
Little story regarding my Grandad, another who liked to remain active. He drove a delivery lorry for a local builders’ merchants and stayed on after reaching retirement age, his employer was happy for him to continue. Two heart attacks at 68 forced Grandad into retirement and he was not happy, the R word was banned in his hearing. His former mates and employers clubbed together and bought, what they considered to be the best present they could give and which, in fact, was the absolute worst …. a lovely comfy armchair which must have cost a pretty penny. The boss went round to Grandad to present him with the chair, Grandad was horrified with the implication that all he was good for was sitting in a chair and not one to mince his words told the boss exactly what he thought. My Nan and Mum (who was visiting at the time) were left cringing with embarrassment and the boss loaded the armchair back onto the van. It was never spoken of again, well at any rate not when Grandad could hear! Grandad lived to 89 and was still shinning up the walnut tree in his garden to cut branches well into his eighties.
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Good for him, age is a state of mind I’m sure. Some people are old in their fifties, others young in their eighties. He sounds like he was a great character.
 

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