Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

anjelikaferrett said:
Morning all. Sunny but windy here so cooler than it has been recently. @Terrarian nice to hear from you. Update on our missing neighbour. His partner knocked at our door last night to apologise for the police always coming to the wrong house. The addresses are quite confusing. We live at the end of a terrace of six houses but each set of two houses have their own address! So we live at 2 X Buildings and she lives at 2 Y Buildings. Anyway she then told us the story. He is alive. She told us that his whole life has been a lie. He hadn't been working at Amazon, he's lied about jobs, qualifications, everything. He contacted her and said he is sleeping rough in London but she sent a friend to see if he was where he said he was. Friend went around 6am and he wasn't there. He's told lies about his family and she said it now makes sense why she never met any of his friends. They had been together for 11 years! He told her his Mum and Dad split up and never met anyone else. He nursed his mother through cancer on his own. All lies. Both parents remarried, he wasn't on his own. He also did the same thing to a previous partner years ago. Just disappeared. She said he told her there was a problem with his pay at Amazon which was why he didn't get any and in a previous job he had, working from home, told her the company went bust and he was owed loads of money. She now doesn't believe him. Also told her he was a psychologist and had a degree in psychology. Not true. She met him when he was homeless. She was working as a crisis nurse. Not sure if he was working there too but she said he told everyone he was a psychologist who had worked in a prison with sex offenders. The working in a prison was true but he was an admin clerk doing data input. She has found all of this out since he went missing. She said when they met she was asking his advice because some of her patients were victims of sex offences. She's moving out soon. Going to live with a friend in Devon and then buy a place when the sale of the house in Berwick goes through. She also said that she is very conflicted because she can't wipe away the 11 years they had but would never trust him again.

It's like an episode of Hollyoaks but I feel so sorry for her. She's recovering from breast cancer.
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While it’s good news that he is alive all my sympathies are with his partner, finding out the truth whilst recovering from cancer is truly awful. I’m amazed and appalled at the capacity of some people for lying. Saw a programme recently The thief, his wife and the canoe about John Darwin who faked his own death. Although she was manipulated and co-erced by her husband I really can’t understand how the wife could have lied for so long to her sons.
 

Terrarian said:
We're ok thanks plodding along, trying to find information on my mental deficiencies lol

G they need to nip that bullying in the bud, a big part of what is wrong with me is due to bullying and being beaten up regular, made me very mistrustful of others but I must have had these conditions then, as I can't help but react to things even if the other person is Tyson Fury, doesn't always end well and as an adult has caused my life to stagnate and go backwards.

Not up to much playing minecraft too much lol

have a good day all.
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Good to hear from you mate! Got to tell you my minecrafting has taken a pause .. about time! Got to catch up on a load of series.. so decided to break this addiction

Maybe I should read a book sometime. Grief!
 
Barnfred 55 said:
About the best I can say to that is at least he isn't dead.

Feel sorry for your neighbour though. Amazing how he can keep up the lies for 11 years. He needs help really, but the way he has treated your neighbour it's very difficult to have any sympathy for him.
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I agree. He was even saying he was doing extra shifts at the job he didn’t have! There was never going to be a happy ending for her.
 
Gwladysover said:
While it’s good news that he is alive all my sympathies are with his partner, finding out the truth whilst recovering from cancer is truly awful. I’m amazed and appalled at the capacity of some people for lying. Saw a programme recently The thief, his wife and the canoe about John Darwin who faked his own death. Although she was manipulated and co-erced by her husband I really can’t understand how the wife could have lied for so long to her sons.
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I watched that. Completely agree with you. She said last night even if he had left a note saying he couldn't deal with her illness any longer it might have helped. Poor woman.
 
Barnfred 55 said:
You're the only poster I know who can make a heart numbing post and end it with a laughing emoji T. Whatever your mental issues may be, a fantastic attitude certainly isn't one of them.

Apart from that, good to hear that you and Daisy are seemingly OK. Or "plodding along" as you like to say.
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I do my share of being melancholic mate, before the mental health took control of my day to day I used to be quite a jovial character, just don't smile or laugh that much anymore so I take these "windows of opportunity" to be as normal as possible until the guaranteed downward spiral.

Not sure when I start on the new meds though. So I am not feeling overly depressed, at last someone has understood that the depression come from frustration with the other stuff, i then pull myself out of depression and the cycle continues and that is how it has been for 18years now, me n the Dr found the first time I was referred and it was 18yr ago.

It is just a continuous cycle of depression, losing and or walking out of work(mainly walking due to my issues) pulling myself together and back again. Hopefully going forward I can learn to handle situations a bit better. early days yet though.
 

Terrarian said:
I do my share of being melancholic mate, before the mental health took control of my day to day I used to be quite a jovial character, just don't smile or laugh that much anymore so I take these "windows of opportunity" to be as normal as possible until the guaranteed downward spiral.

Not sure when I start on the new meds though. So I am not feeling overly depressed, at last someone has understood that the depression come from frustration with the other stuff, i then pull myself out of depression and the cycle continues and that is how it has been for 18years now, me n the Dr found the first time I was referred and it was 18yr ago.

It is just a continuous cycle of depression, losing and or walking out of work(mainly walking due to my issues) pulling myself together and back again. Hopefully going forward I can learn to handle situations a bit better. early days yet though.
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Goes without saying but good luck mate. Really hope you get sorted. If the medication can sort out the mental side have they given any indication if this would help towards the pain control.? Are the 2 linked in some way?
 
Barnfred 55 said:
Goes without saying but good luck mate. Really hope you get sorted. If the medication can sort out the mental side have they given any indication if this would help towards the pain control.? Are the 2 linked in some way?
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They're not linked but maybe the anti-psychotic meds will relax me, which may possibly help inadvertently, I'll see.
 
anjelikaferrett said:
Morning all. Sunny but windy here so cooler than it has been recently. @Terrarian nice to hear from you. Update on our missing neighbour. His partner knocked at our door last night to apologise for the police always coming to the wrong house. The addresses are quite confusing. We live at the end of a terrace of six houses but each set of two houses have their own address! So we live at 2 X Buildings and she lives at 2 Y Buildings. Anyway she then told us the story. He is alive. She told us that his whole life has been a lie. He hadn't been working at Amazon, he's lied about jobs, qualifications, everything. He contacted her and said he is sleeping rough in London but she sent a friend to see if he was where he said he was. Friend went around 6am and he wasn't there. He's told lies about his family and she said it now makes sense why she never met any of his friends. They had been together for 11 years! He told her his Mum and Dad split up and never met anyone else. He nursed his mother through cancer on his own. All lies. Both parents remarried, he wasn't on his own. He also did the same thing to a previous partner years ago. Just disappeared. She said he told her there was a problem with his pay at Amazon which was why he didn't get any and in a previous job he had, working from home, told her the company went bust and he was owed loads of money. She now doesn't believe him. Also told her he was a psychologist and had a degree in psychology. Not true. She met him when he was homeless. She was working as a crisis nurse. Not sure if he was working there too but she said he told everyone he was a psychologist who had worked in a prison with sex offenders. The working in a prison was true but he was an admin clerk doing data input. She has found all of this out since he went missing. She said when they met she was asking his advice because some of her patients were victims of sex offences. She's moving out soon. Going to live with a friend in Devon and then buy a place when the sale of the house in Berwick goes through. She also said that she is very conflicted because she can't wipe away the 11 years they had but would never trust him again.

It's like an episode of Hollyoaks but I feel so sorry for her. She's recovering from breast cancer.
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Bloody hell.

My immediate response is to feel so sorry for the woman , then wonder about his mental health and then how she could fall for all the lies hook , line and sinker.

Glad I have a simple life .....................................( I hope )
 
Terrarian said:
They're not linked but maybe the anti-psychotic meds will relax me, which may possibly help inadvertently, I'll see.
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Hope is an elixir and for you I am hoping it is a help .Try one positive thought ,bacon and eggs ,winning the lottery anything when you feel it is getting too much .Yes it won't win but it might last longer each time until you get the meds sorted . We are here and wanting a result for you my friend.
 

Terrarian said:
I do my share of being melancholic mate, before the mental health took control of my day to day I used to be quite a jovial character, just don't smile or laugh that much anymore so I take these "windows of opportunity" to be as normal as possible until the guaranteed downward spiral.

Not sure when I start on the new meds though. So I am not feeling overly depressed, at last someone has understood that the depression come from frustration with the other stuff, i then pull myself out of depression and the cycle continues and that is how it has been for 18years now, me n the Dr found the first time I was referred and it was 18yr ago.

It is just a continuous cycle of depression, losing and or walking out of work(mainly walking due to my issues) pulling myself together and back again. Hopefully going forward I can learn to handle situations a bit better. early days yet though.
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I think you're great. Love your posts and the Daisy Beagle pics/stories. I'm really rooting for you that the meds combined with a proper diagnosis will be really helpful and make a huge difference to your life.
 
jazzy said:
Bloody hell.

My immediate response is to feel so sorry for the woman , then wonder about his mental health and then how she could fall for all the lies hook , line and sinker.

Glad I have a simple life .....................................( I hope )
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I know. Its very strange. His mental health is definitely not right. Prior to moving back here they did voluntary work in Sierra Leone for 3 years so I guess that he couldn't lie to her about jobs and money in that situation. They say love is blind.....
 
Barnfred 55 said:
No. I'm not confident enough to make my own bread. But I do like flatbreads and there's a particular one I like from Asda that I have with humus, tatziki and other dips. Just stick it in the toaster for a minute to warm it up.
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I "invented" tatziki once, when I was mucking about in the kitchen. I excitedly said to Nik I had made this lovely new dip, and she fixed me with a smile, and gently let me know that Greece invented it about 1000 years ago!

I did invent a mega salad that she called the Roydo Salad, which is mega, and she loved. Shortly after me Dad passed, Mum asked me if I fancied a meal. (It is her thing). I said of course, and instead of a full roast, (again, her thing), I suggested that she cook a few lamb cutlets, and I will bring the (Roydo) salad. She was very sceptical, but absolutely loved the combo.
 

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