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[Gwladysover]

Spent a couple of hours at my son and kays commercial bank. The amount of paperwork, identification etc to get the LPOA in place for the shop was hard work but it’s done now and should be in place in a few weeks.

I’ve also been in touch with the village church regarding burial plots, which being a villager we are guaranteed a plot, and what needs to be done whether Kay or I pass away. I want to get it all sorted so our kids know what needs to be done. I am having a meet up with the church people in a week or two.

This getting ready for death takes up a huge amount of time.

Again, sorry for being morbid but I’m trying to get everything lined up to make it easier for the kids. Our accountant and solicitor have already done the sums etc to pay the death duties when the time arrives.

Not being morbid, it’s practical. We are doing the same after seeing the trouble our son and DIL had after her Mum passed away last year. I also had my funeral planned down to the last detail, I was only sorry I wouldn’t be there to see it, so to speak. DIL’s Mum had one of those Direct Cremations and after consideration I have decided to do the same, I’d rather the family spent money on themselves maybe have a party and remember me that way if they wanted. I did consider saying I would like them to go to an Everton home game as a memorial instead of a funeral, Mother’s one last act of revenge! Sorry if I have offended anyone with my last remark but just my sense of humour.

 

[Littlesue]

My brother has played Crown Green for over 40 years , his knees let him down now though. We used to play locally up here once a year on the flat green but stopped. I tried to explain the concept of Crown Green but people didn’t get it in Scotland.

He should definitely take it up again Anj, he’ll likely pick it up again quite quickly.

My late hubby was a crown green bowls player for years. He actually died on the bowling green. His heart ruptured while playing in a home match. Sure if he could have chosen where to pass he would have picked the same spot. Way too young though as he was only 58. We had been separated a number of years but still a shock as our two lads were 17 and 20 and had to help them through it.

 

[blueloon]

My late hubby was a crown green bowls player for years. He actually died on the bowling green. His heart ruptured while playing in a home match. Sure if he could have chosen where to pass he would have picked the same spot. Way too young though as he was only 58. We had been separated a number of years but still a shock as our two lads were 17 and 20 and had to help them through it.

That’s a bit “ bitter sweet” Sue, far too young an age to go but in a place he obviously enjoyed.

 

[blueloon]

Spent a couple of hours at my son and kays commercial bank. The amount of paperwork, identification etc to get the LPOA in place for the shop was hard work but it’s done now and should be in place in a few weeks.

I’ve also been in touch with the village church regarding burial plots, which being a villager we are guaranteed a plot, and what needs to be done whether Kay or I pass away. I want to get it all sorted so our kids know what needs to be done. I am having a meet up with the church people in a week or two.

This getting ready for death takes up a huge amount of time.

Again, sorry for being morbid but I’m trying to get everything lined up to make it easier for the kids. Our accountant and solicitor have already done the sums etc to pay the death duties when the time arrives.

You are wise to be planning ahead in these matters, particularly in terms of leaving things simple and straightforward for your kids.Six years ago I was an executor for one of my sisters who died suddenly, single and no children and with a complex will. IHT was a nightmare as she’d given so much away and no IHT allowance is given for her house to be passed on. It took 2 years to sort. Having had the experience recently of watching another sister’s life savings and house sale proceeds dwindle in the face of huge care home fees we do review our finances regularly with a view to balancing how to help our children, while ensuring we retain enough for our own later life care . As you say it does take a large amount of time but is necessary as you get older.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

Spent a couple of hours at my son and kays commercial bank. The amount of paperwork, identification etc to get the LPOA in place for the shop was hard work but it’s done now and should be in place in a few weeks.

I’ve also been in touch with the village church regarding burial plots, which being a villager we are guaranteed a plot, and what needs to be done whether Kay or I pass away. I want to get it all sorted so our kids know what needs to be done. I am having a meet up with the church people in a week or two.

This getting ready for death takes up a huge amount of time.

Again, sorry for being morbid but I’m trying to get everything lined up to make it easier for the kids. Our accountant and solicitor have already done the sums etc to pay the death duties when the time arrives.

It’s not morbid at all Pete, it’s common sense. Lives are complex and it’s hard for even a family member to understand your affairs should they be in that unexpected position. I’m forever preaching at people to sort out a will as it makes things so much easier.

Interesting to read how you are guaranteed a plot in the village. It has been said to me before how people worry about getting into their own graveyard when the time comes. I know people will say ‘sure you are dead’ but I totally get why people want to know where they will be resting. I have my own plot and have stood on it many times to see what sort of view I’ll have for eternity

 

[blue1948]

It’s not morbid at all Pete, it’s common sense. Lives are complex and it’s hard for even a family member to understand your affairs should they be in that unexpected position. I’m forever preaching at people to sort out a will as it makes things so much easier.

Interesting to read how you are guaranteed a plot in the village. It has been said to me before how people worry about getting into their own graveyard when the time comes. I know people will say ‘sure you are dead’ but I totally get why people want to know where they will be resting. I have my own plot and have stood on it many times to see what sort of view I’ll have for eternity

The view won't be quite the same unless they intern you standing up .

 

[Armaghtoffee]

The view won't be quite the same unless they intern you standing up .

Yes, that is a very valid point blue!

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Spent a couple of hours at my son and kays commercial bank. The amount of paperwork, identification etc to get the LPOA in place for the shop was hard work but it’s done now and should be in place in a few weeks.

I’ve also been in touch with the village church regarding burial plots, which being a villager we are guaranteed a plot, and what needs to be done whether Kay or I pass away. I want to get it all sorted so our kids know what needs to be done. I am having a meet up with the church people in a week or two.

This getting ready for death takes up a huge amount of time.

Again, sorry for being morbid but I’m trying to get everything lined up to make it easier for the kids. Our accountant and solicitor have already done the sums etc to pay the death duties when the time arrives.

My Dad, who was Mr Organised made it so easy for us.There was soldering with his will labelled 'when I kick the bucket'.Everything was listed - bank accounts ISAs, premium bonds , pensions, utility companies, car/ house insurance, funeral request- very simple 'exactly the same as your Mum' He had even filled in an Inheritance tax form as far as he could. By the time he died, the form he used was out of date and it was all online but having the numbers was a massive help to my brother and I.
I'm sure you know this Pete, but when Dad bought their grave plot after Mum died, he was advised to put the ownership of the plot in one of our names. Because you need the owner's consent to open a grave. So if Dad had been the owner, nobody would have been able to open the grave until we got probate which could take weeks(or something like that). Anyway my youngest brother is the grave owner.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

I’ve done my back and I don’t even know how . I think I sat too long today working on the laptop and I just seized. I am now walking like an extra in The Walking Dead. I feel exhausted in general and fingers crossed it’s one of those you sleep off overnight. I’m due a big day in Armagh tomorrow for our game against Derry (7.15 throw in) but a planned meet up with mates at 2pm. I’m doing it no matter what but it’s an early night for me.