Here's the thing though Pete - because even you acknowledge here that, after all we were told, Brexit didn't mean Brexit, because Brexit wasn't defined in the referendum, then why would you be against putting two solidly defined, actionable options to the public in a referendum now?
I've said for months now - people voted to leave, but didn't vote on how to leave - that's why we have the impasse in parliament, why the second referendum is required and, while we're at it, give the option to remain in case the public have changed their mind.
No deal isn't an option. We wouldn't put the death penalty to a public referendum, because the evidence and common sense tells you it'd be a disaster, regardless of whether the people want it or not. So the choice has to be deliverable and not insane - it has to be May's deal.