lol if someone could just nick me 5 ducks I've got one of the old kids paddling pools out back and I'll just create my own pond.
Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
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lol if someone could just nick me 5 ducks I've got one of the old kids paddling pools out back and I'll just create my own pond.
Truly an immense achievement and I know it'll inspire many reading it, so thanks for the update, mate. I think seeing a doctor or mental health professional of some sort sounds like a logical next step - I imagine a big danger to your recovery could be the sense of being all alone in the fight - but you've done so much hard work yourself that you can give yourself the luxury of a bit of time to come to terms with the idea, find the right one, etc.
Best of luck with the journey, the wedding and the house. Keep us updated and do let us know if we can ever help you navigate any bumps that might appear in the road.
I think a lot of people - myself included in the past - spend a lot of time waiting to feel motivated, when the real motivation comes from taking action.
I imagine it must be a funny old time to work in/around/with hospitals, which I am sure has zapped a lot of energy out of you. Far easier said than done, I know, but maybe try to find another way to break the monotonous cycle you find yourself in? Exercise? Either starting or changing up your existing routine? Hopefully there's some change you can make that might enthuse you enough to wake you from your slumber and get you back up and at 'em at work.
Ultimately, though, if you DO need to spend a bit more time on autopilot by way of coping with this mess we find ourselves in, don't beat yourself up about it. You'll get back there eventually. Good luck, mate.
brieverton
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Read this earlier mate and re-read it several times since.
It's inspiring and even moreso considering the times we live in.
You can very justifiably take immense pride and joy in your accomplishments. Well done x 100000.
100% agree
I don't know if I have ever posted this on here ,I grew up after the war and many times was asked by my mum to go to the grocer for stuff to be told that we couldn't have it as we had no rations left or we had no credit left as my step-father would sooner pay for a good pair of pigeons than give me clothes to go to school.I went hungry but that was quite normal then and it of course happened to both my siblings .
I was forced to retire at 62 by the doctor .We had been used to a skiing holiday and one in the autumn because we grow a lot of veg and we had to wait until the first frost .
Anyway when it was forced on me as I was self employed I had no income other than a small pension of 99€ per month that I had earned whilst in Finland .
I applied to the UK pensions and they had me take two medicals over a period to determine whether I was able to work or not but couldn't decide .The Finnish KELA who are like national insurance would not give me any help because the UK wouldn't .
This went on until I officially retired at 65 so in total almost three years ,we had not been able to have any holiday of course but I have been blessed with the wife I now have and she paid for all that my 99€ couldn't .
We are lucky to have a big lawn so we put five short pieces of pipe into the ground and made a "golf course" the flags we painted in the colours of different countries so we could pretend we were there of course we finished at the Finnish flag and came home .We also walk ski cross country in the snow so we would know what we were eating tonight (Let's say spag bol ) and would imagine we were in Italy for a couple of hours .It is far easier than you might think to fool yourself ,just remember that lie that you keep telling -so much that you actually believe it !
We all go through hard times but we HAVE to face them and be strong as EVERTON need us .
I was forced to retire at 62 by the doctor .We had been used to a skiing holiday and one in the autumn because we grow a lot of veg and we had to wait until the first frost .
Anyway when it was forced on me as I was self employed I had no income other than a small pension of 99€ per month that I had earned whilst in Finland .
I applied to the UK pensions and they had me take two medicals over a period to determine whether I was able to work or not but couldn't decide .The Finnish KELA who are like national insurance would not give me any help because the UK wouldn't .
This went on until I officially retired at 65 so in total almost three years ,we had not been able to have any holiday of course but I have been blessed with the wife I now have and she paid for all that my 99€ couldn't .
We are lucky to have a big lawn so we put five short pieces of pipe into the ground and made a "golf course" the flags we painted in the colours of different countries so we could pretend we were there of course we finished at the Finnish flag and came home .We also walk ski cross country in the snow so we would know what we were eating tonight (Let's say spag bol ) and would imagine we were in Italy for a couple of hours .It is far easier than you might think to fool yourself ,just remember that lie that you keep telling -so much that you actually believe it !
We all go through hard times but we HAVE to face them and be strong as EVERTON need us .
Cameron Manning
Player Valuation: £35m
Well said, and I think Andy has shown great will power these last few months, Andy I think now and again you are allowed to give yourself a pat on the back for your determination to try and change the way your life is, no mean feat that. Good look for the future, you’ve done very well to do what you’ve achieved in ordinary times, in these really despairing last nine months I think a bit of positive think about yourself is well deserved.
Tipp blue
If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.
It's always heart breaking when a pet dies, but as long as she's not in pain she could live a while with diabetes.. we had a pot belly pig and during first Lockdown she got meningitis and the vet put her to sleep. It was the first time my 4 year old had to deal with death it was a tough conversation to have with him with the tears all around. Hopefully toffee will have a few more years in her.
Well done that man.
Article on that annoying inner critic...
www.theguardian.com
Silence your inner critic: a guide to self-compassion in the toughest times
Is your internal monologue friendly, calm and encouraging – or critical and bullying? Here is how to change it for the better
I'm totally the opposite. I hate home life. The 11 days I was forced to have off over Christmas was an absolute nightmare. I have not booked a days holiday for nearly 3 years. I literally can't get out of bed when I'm at home. Weekends are more than enough for me.
Sales must be real tough job at the moment though mate???
I enjoy a good balance of work and home life me mate. I enjoy the structure of work but enjoy being at home and don't mind my own company pottering around in my very empty brain for hours on end.
In isolation atm though mate so really missing just being able to go for a walk with the dog or with the wife and kids.
YoboCopter
Player Valuation: £50m
Brilliant. You should be very proud.
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