Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Meeting HR, on Tuesday. I spoke with the RCN,(who can't attend). Warned me that my job is at risk. I don't think that I will lose it soon, but now on half pay and really worried. My PTSD is starting to ruin my life. Hope the therapist can help me help myself.

Your condition was caused by what happened in work, yet your job is at risk !!!!

Have you thought about seeking proper legal advice from a solicitor who specialises in employment law outside of the NHS ?

I know from one of my old jobs, that a lot of the reps didnt really push hard for their members, as they didnt want to rock the boat too much, due to the fact that they were on such a cushy number with their expenses, cars etc.
 
Your condition was caused by what happened in work, yet your job is at risk !!!!

Have you thought about seeking proper legal advice from a solicitor who specialises in employment law outside of the NHS ?

I know from one of my old jobs, that a lot of the reps didnt really push hard for their members, as they didnt want to rock the boat too much, due to the fact that they were on such a cushy number with their expenses, cars etc.

Meeting HR, on Tuesday. I spoke with the RCN,(who can't attend). Warned me that my job is at risk. I don't think that I will lose it soon, but now on half pay and really worried. My PTSD is starting to ruin my life. Hope the therapist can help me help myself.


In my last job the main union man was more interested in seeing himself in the newspapers and getting out of his duties on 'union business' than helping his members. Only when he left in the first wave of redundancies did we get a rep that fought our corner. Unfortunately this was to late. If it is an incident caused by work the company are duty bound to put procedures in place to support an employee back to work. I imagine even the NHS have to follow these rules.
 
In my last job the main union man was more interested in seeing himself in the newspapers and getting out of his duties on 'union business' than helping his members. Only when he left in the first wave of redundancies did we get a rep that fought our corner. Unfortunately this was to late. If it is an incident caused by work the company are duty bound to put procedures in place to support an employee back to work. I imagine even the NHS have to follow these rules.

You`d think that the NHS would be at the forefront of supporting their staff, due to their workload and the fact that frontline staff get dogs abuse and assaulted on a regular basis.
 
You`d think that the NHS would be at the forefront of supporting their staff, due to their workload and the fact that frontline staff get dogs abuse and assaulted on a regular basis.
The RCN have a safe staffing level campaign. I have sent a claim form for work place injury. I'm waiting for a reply. Deep down I know things will be OK. Just I took pride that my work made a difference. Even a small one.
 

Meeting HR, on Tuesday. I spoke with the RCN,(who can't attend). Warned me that my job is at risk. I don't think that I will lose it soon, but now on half pay and really worried. My PTSD is starting to ruin my life. Hope the therapist can help me help myself.
Get them to re-arrange until the RCN rep can attend. You can't go that meeting, the way you feel if your job is on the line, without any support. Or go to the meeting on your own but if they start talking about capability, poor attendance, losing your job, putting you on any kind of performance measures then ask for the meeting to be adjourned until you can get your Union rep to come in with you.

You were injured in work FFS!! Have you seen this - you should be able to get some help (I haven't read it and I don't work in NHS) but somebosy should have investigated it for you.. NHS Injury Allowance
 
When your pay is reduced after 6 months then you can claim for TIA (Temporary Injury Allowance). To prove it was work related then it should have been datixed at the time and that will form the basis of your claim. As long as Occy Health support it then it should be successful.
 
So..... I hope anybody in this thread ,can take comfort from this. When I say comfort I mean smile.My friend Steve died on the 8th of Feb .We buried him on the 13th. I hope you oldies can remember this..............Steve in 1981.......
 
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Been a bit of talk about gambling addiction on here recently, it's a horrible addiction and wrecks people's lives and the lives of their families, so I'm not sure I approve of this e-mail from Everton encouraging gambling.
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Get them to re-arrange until the RCN rep can attend. You can't go that meeting, the way you feel if your job is on the line, without any support. Or go to the meeting on your own but if they start talking about capability, poor attendance, losing your job, putting you on any kind of performance measures then ask for the meeting to be adjourned until you can get your Union rep to come in with you.

You were injured in work FFS!! Have you seen this - you should be able to get some help (I haven't read it and I don't work in NHS) but somebosy should have investigated it for you.. NHS Injury Allowance

Sensible advice.

When on sick with mental health illness, management should be asking Occ Health if you’re fit to attend meeting of this nature. OH will probably say yes but will advise on support measures such as having representation in attendance, breaks during the meeting, pre-sight of the agenda, etc. To call you into a meeting without medical clearance would be “a courageous” decision on their part as Sir Appleby would have ominously put it!
 
Been a bit of talk about gambling addiction on here recently, it's a horrible addiction and wrecks people's lives and the lives of their families, so I'm not sure I approve of this e-mail from Everton encouraging gambling. View attachment 54734
You're not wrong, but hasn't the horse bolted on that one really? The Royal Blue Jersey is besmirched with some jarg online bookie so it follows the club will extensively promote it.
 
Copypasta'd from another site, and I know there's a fair few cat people on here.

My cat Dougie died last night. He was really old and I got him off a friend a couple of years ago. He had dodgy kidneys and a heart murmur, so I always knew he wasn't going to be around long and the plan was to make his last few years happy ones.

My mum came over to visit earlier in the week and he was fine, his usual self, but yesterday evening I noticed he hadn't touched his food and he was just lying in his bed with his mouth open, and he'd been quiet for ages - he was normally a very vocal cat. He'd been on a dry diet, vet's orders, but I put some wet food in a bowl to see if that would cheer him up, and he barely acknowledged it. Didn't even sniff it or anything. I plonked him down near the bowl and his legs gave way - he just could not stand up. Alarm bells were ringing by then, so after talking to friends and ringing around, I found an out-of-hours vet a few tram stops away (I don't drive). At the tram station, he didn't respond when I stuck my finger through the bars of his cage, and his heartbeat was very faint. By the time I got to the vet, it was too late. He was dead. The vet reckoned he'd just slipped away, and he died peacefully. She was very kind and let me have a few minutes with him, and I agreed to have him cremated. I didn't want to take his poor little body home with me and I didn't like the idea of burying him in my garden.

I did cry a bit last night, and my friends and family have been very kind - my mum was really sad too, she always liked Dougie - but right now I just feel empty and numb and part of me wonders if it is OK to be really upset about a pet. I live on my own, and the house just feels so empty without him, not hearing his cranky meow first thing in the morning or his claws on the kitchen floor when I come back from the shops. I can't be arsed to cook and I just feel like everything has slowed down. I had a translation job to do earlier and I got it done, it was short and for a company I've done loads of jobs for in the past, but even doing that was like pushing a rock up a hill. I'm going to a couple of Space gigs next week, so that'll cheer me up a bit as long as I don't mention the smegging Derby.

I do definitely want another cat, preferably an older one because I'm used to adults. Just not now. Not to replace Dougie, because he was irreplaceable, but you do get used to having a cat in the house.
OCD, pure O... thought I would share this. Comments section is enlightening.

My mum has OCD and while she is a neat freak, intrusive thoughts/anxiety is a major issue for her as well, and it could well be one reason why she's an alcoholic.
You're not wrong, but hasn't the horse bolted on that one really? The Royal Blue Jersey is besmirched with some jarg online bookie so it follows the club will extensively promote it.
I miss the days when phone/computer companies sponsored teams instead of gambling companies. I mean, I know our last sponsor were a beer company but a betting company isn't much better.
 
Copypasta'd from another site, and I know there's a fair few cat people on here.

My cat Dougie died last night. He was really old and I got him off a friend a couple of years ago. He had dodgy kidneys and a heart murmur, so I always knew he wasn't going to be around long and the plan was to make his last few years happy ones.

My mum came over to visit earlier in the week and he was fine, his usual self, but yesterday evening I noticed he hadn't touched his food and he was just lying in his bed with his mouth open, and he'd been quiet for ages - he was normally a very vocal cat. He'd been on a dry diet, vet's orders, but I put some wet food in a bowl to see if that would cheer him up, and he barely acknowledged it. Didn't even sniff it or anything. I plonked him down near the bowl and his legs gave way - he just could not stand up. Alarm bells were ringing by then, so after talking to friends and ringing around, I found an out-of-hours vet a few tram stops away (I don't drive). At the tram station, he didn't respond when I stuck my finger through the bars of his cage, and his heartbeat was very faint. By the time I got to the vet, it was too late. He was dead. The vet reckoned he'd just slipped away, and he died peacefully. She was very kind and let me have a few minutes with him, and I agreed to have him cremated. I didn't want to take his poor little body home with me and I didn't like the idea of burying him in my garden.

I did cry a bit last night, and my friends and family have been very kind - my mum was really sad too, she always liked Dougie - but right now I just feel empty and numb and part of me wonders if it is OK to be really upset about a pet. I live on my own, and the house just feels so empty without him, not hearing his cranky meow first thing in the morning or his claws on the kitchen floor when I come back from the shops. I can't be arsed to cook and I just feel like everything has slowed down. I had a translation job to do earlier and I got it done, it was short and for a company I've done loads of jobs for in the past, but even doing that was like pushing a rock up a hill. I'm going to a couple of Space gigs next week, so that'll cheer me up a bit as long as I don't mention the smegging Derby.

I do definitely want another cat, preferably an older one because I'm used to adults. Just not now. Not to replace Dougie, because he was irreplaceable, but you do get used to having a cat in the house.

My mum has OCD and while she is a neat freak, intrusive thoughts/anxiety is a major issue for her as well, and it could well be one reason why she's an alcoholic.

I miss the days when phone/computer companies sponsored teams instead of gambling companies. I mean, I know our last sponsor were a beer company but a betting company isn't much better.
Sorry to hear about your cat . When the time is right get another pet you aren’t replacing him , you are giving another harmless animal a home and happy life .

Take it easy .
 

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