Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[kev]

Seems like an appropriate thread to post this

https://www.evertonfc.com/news/2025/november/27/gary-speed-memorial--talking-bench--to-be-unveiled-at-hill-dickinson-stadium/

A nce touch from the club and suggested by the Fan Forum

 

[Groucho]

Seems like an appropriate thread to post this

https://www.evertonfc.com/news/2025/november/27/gary-speed-memorial--talking-bench--to-be-unveiled-at-hill-dickinson-stadium/

A nce touch from the club and suggested by the Fan Forum

Excellent, just seen this now.

 

[blue1948]

I posted a while ago about my eldest son being diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD and then Asperger's .I am now proud to say after many and varied counsellors and therapists he is on the mend it seems .He has now got a permanent "dream " job and is loving it although he still has dark days they now seem to be outnumbered by the good ,he is on the brink of sorting other aspects of concern and so is in a much better place after his years of hell and torment .
I myself tried to be positive when he would let me be in contact but the job and his best friend seem to be the most influencing parts of his feeling better .He lost a job in a big company when they closed the department and that was in my opinion devastating for him but now he is running a team of twenty with a similar company ,he says he is being paid for doing his hobby which is something we all would strive for I think .
I suggested he come on here but he has never said he did ,if he did then a big thanks to all on this thread

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

My mental health has been worsening the last few weeks. Struggling with work, not enjoying life generally, and my first child is due in January which makes this a bad time for an episode of depression.

Feeling a lot of guilt because I really can’t be bothered with life yet I’ve got a child on the way. I’m just a dark cloud over my partner’s life atm, she should be excited and enjoying this time, not worrying because I’m unwell.

 

[SJB]

My mental health has been worsening the last few weeks. Struggling with work, not enjoying life generally, and my first child is due in January which makes this a bad time for an episode of depression.

Feeling a lot of guilt because I really can’t be bothered with life yet I’ve got a child on the way. I’m just a dark cloud over my partner’s life atm, she should be excited and enjoying this time, not worrying because I’m unwell.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this mate, especially during a time that’s already full of big emotions and pressure. Depression doesn’t wait for a “good” moment to appear, and feeling unwell and unlike your usual self doesn’t make you a bad partner or a bad Dad to be, it just makes you human.

It’s completely understandable to feel guilt, but the fact that you’re aware of how your mental health affects your partner shows that you're a good person so try not to be too hard on yourself in that respect.

If you can, please reach out for support, whether it’s a friend, a professional, or even just talking openly with your partner about the way you're feeling right now. You don’t have to carry this alone, and getting help now is one of the strongest things you can do for yourself, your partner, and your future child.

You’re not failing, you're not a dark cloud, you’re going through something hard. And you deserve help and compassion just as much as anyone else.