. I always said if I ever posted I would come on this thread and tell everyone who responds to posts in this thread or clicks in because there's been a new post that I think you all are amazing, wonderful caring people who offer any help they can for people they'll never meet. I'm not going to mention names you all know who you are or you wouldn't have clicked on thread. You helped me too, years ago when I was going through a bad time even though I hadn't signed up like many that are probably reading this now 2 posters were going through situations similar to my own so your advice to them helped me so know you are helping not only those that post but also those that are unable and/or unwilling. So on my behalf and those that never come back to update us on how they're doing God bess and THANK YOU ALL.
Nice one earwig. My sentiments exactly. Just to hear someone say something as simple as " we are here for you " means people are valued and have something to give. Said to a number of people on here, and I'm passionate about it, but helping someone gives you a lift, lifts your own self esteem. Lovely words and I'm confident you speak for everyone with regards the worth of this thread. Cheers.Hi guys ive stalked this site for many, many years and only signed up because the mods made me or I couldn't access site
Sorry to hear that m8. One of the things I would be considering while it's sinking is volunteering. Keeps you busy, mind ticking over, it's probably gonna be good for your mental health and might open some doors. Keep talking to loved ones and friends. Good luck Dan.
" I was there holding her hand when she passed ". When my dad was dying I never saw him. Family his friends and my friends all encouraged me to go and see him bug I didn't. I adored him, he had a personality to die for but he had his faults. He drank himself to death and as I have said before on here, my boys were very young and he wasn't going to be there for them. I thought he was selfish. He was, but I misread the whole thing, protected myself from the inevitable pain I would experience I would have felt so I didn't go to his funeral. It's was apparently choka, standing room only, hanging out the back door of the church but his first son - me - wasn't there. Morally I was a coward, I was selfish and judged him. Me, the man who has made so many mistakes I can't remember them all. I tell my brother's and sisters how cowardly I was and they are so supportive, support I don't deserve. This anacdote has a cautionary tale to tell. It's about judging people, how we should look at ourselves before casting aspersions about other. The saying in the Bible " don't try to pull the spelc from your neighbours eye before you pull the plank from your own " is so so applicable to me. Holding your mum's hand as she was dying is so good, so " human ". I always try to learn from people, their experiences because it's just so " real ". I hope you continue hogwild to look after yourself and loved ones. Strange how we can derive " something good " from the very painfull, heartbreaking experience of another. Cheers m8.
Hi Spotty, mate you sound really low there reading through that. There sounds alot of hurt, guilt and regret in your post-which is perfectly normal - Only good people feel regret mate. If I remember correctly like myself you're catholic and I'd just like to say The road to heaven is paved with regrets. Those who never feel guilty or sorry for what they have done are destined to become slaves to their own desires. My dad's anniversary is a few days away, he was my best friend and I'll always have regrets of what I could and should have done more. Read St. Augustine he was a proper badboy a real rogue but through his regrets he was able to turn his life around become a priest then a Saint. If I could give you any advice mate because it sounds like it's your heart and soul that's hurting you should go find a good traditional priest (not the novus ordo ones they rush you in and out) I don't know where you live but I'm sure there's an fssp or icksp parish near you and ask for a General Confession and then spill every feeling and regret out they're great at listening and helping, you'll honestly feel a million times better. Trust me mate you really will God bless mate.
