Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[efcforever]

Just found this online. I'm experiencing similar issues at the moment. The issues in here are one of the main sources of my anxiety.

It's to do with people pleasing and feeling like you have let people down. Might help some people on here

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/pleasing-others-bad-person-feeling-0308124/

 

[Frankattack]

I know this is crazy, but I'm really heartbroken after my dog had to be put to sleep on Saturday after being sick for a while. We really thought we could save him, but one night he really started to get unwell and my missus took to him to the emergency vet and we decided to end his misery. For over thirteen years he had been with us through tick and thin, and we feel like we let him down. Now we are on holiday with our little girl and we try to put on a brave face, but it's really hard, and we feel like we are letting her down as well. I guess time will heal us, but goddamn how we loved the guy!

 

[GwladysBlue]

I know this is crazy, but I'm really heartbroken after my dog had to be put to sleep on Saturday after being sick for a while. We really thought we could save him, but one night he really started to get unwell and my missus took to him to the emergency vet and we decided to end his misery. For over thirteen years he had been with us through tick and thin, and we feel like we let him down. Now we are on holiday with our little girl and we try to put on a brave face, but it's really hard, and we feel like we are letting her down as well. I guess time will heal us, but goddamn how we loved the guy!

Take some comfort that you gave him a good life, mate!

I had a dog that died when she was only 3 a few years ago. Absolutely rocked the entire family. We were all devastated. It'll get better with time.

 

[COYBL25]

I know this is crazy, but I'm really heartbroken after my dog had to be put to sleep on Saturday after being sick for a while. We really thought we could save him, but one night he really started to get unwell and my missus took to him to the emergency vet and we decided to end his misery. For over thirteen years he had been with us through tick and thin, and we feel like we let him down. Now we are on holiday with our little girl and we try to put on a brave face, but it's really hard, and we feel like we are letting her down as well. I guess time will heal us, but goddamn how we loved the guy!

Hi mate, if you go to pages 553/554 of this thread you'll find others sharing similar experiences of grief after their dogs have passed, may be of comfort / help to you.

Our pup was run over a few weeks ago and my eldest lad made himself ill with grief, to the point of us being quite worried about him. We bit the bullet and got a new dog. Once he got over the feelings of guilt, he's well on the way to being back to his old self now.

It really is like losing a family member x

 

[flippa]

I know this is crazy, but I'm really heartbroken after my dog had to be put to sleep on Saturday after being sick for a while. We really thought we could save him, but one night he really started to get unwell and my missus took to him to the emergency vet and we decided to end his misery. For over thirteen years he had been with us through tick and thin, and we feel like we let him down. Now we are on holiday with our little girl and we try to put on a brave face, but it's really hard, and we feel like we are letting her down as well. I guess time will heal us, but goddamn how we loved the guy!

Not crazy at all. Dogs are a part of the family, and a particularly loving, non-judgemental part of the family at that. You need time to grieve and that's totally normal. Hopefully that pain will fade and you will be able to remember all the fun things about him, the little quirks, and remember the time you had together with happiness- perhaps you and your daughter could write a list together of fun moments you had with him, funny things he used to do, and put it somewhere safe (e.g. a jar)- then when she/ you are missing him, you can take out the list and remember some happy moments.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

When you're at an event and just want to hide, that's probably not good.

 

[COYBL25]

When you're at an event and just want to hide, that's probably not good.

Depends what the event is ?

I remember when I was a Rep, spending whole days hiding at Sales Conferences, which was preferable to spending time in the company of Swiss Tony / Colin Hunt clones

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Depends what the event is ?

I remember when I was a Rep, spending whole days hiding at Sales Conferences, which was preferable to spending time in the company of Swiss Tony / Colin Hunt clones

Medical event at Oxford University. Not on it at all. Sadly not the first time lately. Not good.

 

[RAFUH]

When you're at an event and just want to hide, that's probably not good.

People/events can be very mentally draining. If you are working through something emotionally/mentally, these types events can be overwhelming.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

People/events can be very mentally draining. If you are working through something emotionally/mentally, these types events can be overwhelming.

Think that's very much the case. Such events are important for my work though.

 

[RAFUH]

Think that's very much the case. Such events are important for my work though.

Understand...I personally can't stand groups/small talk in the best of times.
Hope you can work through whatever is weighing on you and you are quickly back to your suave networking best.

 

[Groucho]

When you're at an event and just want to hide, that's probably not good.

Perfectly natural mate.

Anything outside the old comfort zone can make you uneasy.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Understand...I personally can't stand groups/small talk in the best of times.
Hope you can work through whatever is weighing on you and you are quickly back to your suave networking best.

Wednesday night is therapy night. Slowly slowly Thanks for the advice though. Problem shared and all that

Perfectly natural mate.

Anything outside the old comfort zone can make you uneasy.

Don't normally mind them, but this month has been utterly hopeless.

 

[Groucho]

Don't normally mind them, but this month has been utterly hopeless

In general or something specific?

 

[Bruce Wayne]

In general or something specific?

Family and wedding related stuff. Well, just family really, the wedding is going fine.