Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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This and if they have a tale to tell please listen. I was often guilty of thinking “Here they go again” when Nan & Grandad were talking about the past, both were born 1896, and those days seemed to have no relevance to my younger self. How I wish I had listened now!
 
Gwladysover said:
This and if they have a tale to tell please listen. I was often guilty of thinking “Here they go again” when Nan & Grandad were talking about the past, both were born 1896, and those days seemed to have no relevance to my younger self. How I wish I had listened now!
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My grandad is now early signs of dementia but he's always loved telling me about football and his childhood growing up on a farm. Will always listen especially with him forgetting more & more every day.
 
Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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Sorry for your loss.. My granny is in a nursing home near Birmingham, she has dementia and is getting very weak, I'd say there is a high chance I'll never see her again, obviously I can't at the moment and the home have restrictions where only 1 relative can visit which is my uncle, when will these restrictions be lifted? How long before I can fly over from Ireland and be let into a nursing home? I really feel for people who have lost someone during this time it must be so tough.
 
Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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Nymzee, some of my sharpest memories of my childhood concern my nan, gran and grandad. The grief of my mother when she found her dad Grandad Tom had passed. My Grans Yorkshire puddings and Grandad Tom letting me and my siblings pick his strawberry's in the back garde. Tom had been in the war and used to weep talking about his mates he lost. He used to make these wonderful fruit cakes. Just very basic simple memories that have never left me. We just don't as a rule, cherish our grandparents as much as we should ( as a rule ) like our foreign friends do. I'm a grandad to a wonderfull little girl and I spoil her as much as I can. Nymzee, you'll hopefully have lovely very personal memories that only grandparents can give. Your right, we should cherish those people in our lives who are often forgotten. Take care.
 
Tipp blue said:
Sorry for your loss.. My granny is in a nursing home near Birmingham, she has dementia and is getting very weak, I'd say there is a high chance I'll never see her again, obviously I can't at the moment and the home have restrictions where only 1 relative can visit which is my uncle, when will these restrictions be lifted? How long before I can fly over from Ireland and be let into a nursing home? I really feel for people who have lost someone during this time it must be so tough.
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Yeh it's a real naff time for people who don't live near their families. Luckily last night the hospital really did us a solid and let my mum, auntie, uncle & grandad all stay by her bed till the end. Not a lot of hospitals will do that and go against the rules I feel.
 
Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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So sorry for yoir loss. My maternal Nan and Grandad were both born in 1900. My Grandad would talk about his childhood in the Gt Howard Street area of Liverpool. He remembered the Titanic sinking, WW1 and spoke about watching Everton on the 1920s and 30s. You are so right. The elderly are to be cherished. My Irish grandparents recalled the Easter Rising in Ireland and the creation of Eire. Much love to you x
 
Nymzee said:
My grandad is now early signs of dementia but he's always loved telling me about football and his childhood growing up on a farm. Will always listen especially with him forgetting more & more every day.
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Lost my nan and now my step dad from dementia. If you can, play him music from his youth. Trust me it can really make a difference
 
Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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I lost my Mam in February. A big age but still the end of an era. Stay well.
 
Nymzee said:
I lost my nana in the early hours of the morning. This isn’t a post for sympathy but a reminder to all to go make the most of the time you have with older relatives. I’ve been guilty in the past of skipping out on visiting them because I’m being lazy or I’d rather do something else - now I don’t have the option anymore so please don’t do I as did. No one is here forever.
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Sorry for your loss, mate. Also some very sage advice; I’m as guilty as anyone of not calling/messaging friends and family as often as I should.

A lot of us have a lot going on personally, professionally, etc, but I’m sure if we’re honest with ourselves we could all find half an hour a day to cover off a few messages and calls just to show those we love that we haven’t forgotten them.
 
I've decided to do an experiment, I'm giving up my smart phone and internet for a week, I'm spending too much time on it and I think its affecting my mood, I did it a few weeks ago and started feeling better so went back at it and my mood had gotten worse since, so from this evening my wife will be hiding my phone because I have no will power, she'll check it for WhatsApp messages incase of anything important.. I'll be doing my best to stay offline in work too.. this may be the cause of a lot of my current feelings. Good bye for now.
 

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