Unfortunately have to say this
Hand in hand with that is having to accept you may need plenty of first steps
Because tough thing is you may have to pick yourself up off the floor more than once. I know myself how I have been at the very lowest. barely leaving the house for weeks barely feeling human. Eventually manage to take those steps and get in a good place things going well. Only for it all come crashing down again due to one reason or another. A bad event can particularly just knock over all the progres you've made and you feel like you regress
It's true though once you've picked yourself off the floor once you know that you can do it again. Just have to be prepared for how horrible this disease is and how much strength it takes to live with it
Unfortunately have to say this
Hand in hand with that is having to accept you may need plenty of first steps
Because tough thing is you may have to pick yourself up off the floor more than once. I know myself how I have been at the very lowest. barely leaving the house for weeks barely feeling human. Eventually manage to take those steps and get in a good place things going well. Only for it all come crashing down again due to one reason or another. A bad event can particularly just knock over all the progres you've made and you feel like you regress
It's true though once you've picked yourself off the floor once you know that you can do it again. Just have to be prepared for how horrible this disease is and how much strength it takes to live with it
" having to accept you may need plenty of first steps" this
Moyes 100%. First step is finding the motivation. I've told my students numerous occasions, one of the first signs of people deteriorating mentally is poor hygiene.That person is usually well presented, teeth clean hair brushed. However, you see them now, they look a mess, etc. They've lost motivation lost interest in the things that they used to make them happy. Psychiatry has a fancy word for it. Anhedonia. All of the above are sure signs not of laziness as some think. But that mentally they are deteriorating. I tell my students it should ring alarm bells. So of course, yes the excercise is very beneficial but only when people are ready. Incidentally flick it around and you visit someone and the hair is brushed, they've been showered etc I suspect
Moyes is talking about supporting people as fist steps to do the basics. I recall a client agreeing to a three lined care plan. I paraphrase:
I will talk to people if struggling
I will clean my teeth when I get up
I will have a wash when I get up.
She literally couldn't do anything else, no motivation. We sometimes - I certainly include myself - can overcomplicate things when it's the most basic task like encouraging loved ones to talk, to help them stay clean, are the most personal way of telling and showing a loved one we care and love them. Not much to us, but I guarantee when they start to recover they'll say to you at some point: " you know I remember when I was at rock bottom, and you came around, ran my bath and got me into clean clothes I'll never forget the help you gave me". Gives you that warm glow that makes YOU feel good.
