AmericasToffee
Player Valuation: £40m
Sorry to hear that dave. Still have an open world in front of you. Hopefully you find better days ahead.
Sorry to hear that dave. Still have an open world in front of you. Hopefully you find better days ahead.
LydiateLee
Player Valuation: £8m
Hi Dave. My divorced was finalised last year after being seperated since 2014.
Although it was technically an 'easy' one with no court proceedings or custody battles, it was one of the hardest things I'll ever experience.
Please remember why you are doing it, the alternative is worse. Living your life unhappy with the wrong person is the worst type of prison sentence and nobody wins. This way you are being brave and giving yourself the opportunity to start over and be happy. That's what I did and it has worked out really great in the end. I have a perfect new partner now who I could only have dreamt of, my children are miles happier and I can look forwards at last.
Your marriage happened for a reason so be thankful. However it is in the past, choose to leave it there. It has no right to impact your today.
Good luck mate. Be excited for brighter days ahead.
That's a dreadful situation for the poor man...and also yourself. It seems the in house counselling are slacking with their lack of contact (which should be policy rather than ad-hoc as it seems here) but he has a very supportive rep in yourself. I would've thought that a Specialist pain relief Consultant would be able to give some sort of diagnosis....God knows its bad enough having to lose your livelihood without the thought that no diagnosis equates to nothing wrong with him. The suicide threat is a serious development given the medication at his disposal and surely the in-house welfare/O.H Personnel have a 'best practice' for dealing with this aspect. You've done everything you possibly can in supporting him so far so have nothing to remonstrate with yourself about...Im sure lots of us on here would've been grateful for the dedicated support of someone like yourself with the various work difficulties it seems a lot of us have experienced.
Thank you all for your support. I really appreciated it. Today I'm just angry so have wtitten an appeal for him. HR have spoken to the member concerned who they described as still very upset but talking of going away to his friends caravan for a few days as soon as the schools break up. So that's good.
Absolutely awful. I'm in for a tough few months I think. Me my wife and daughter of 13 were going on holiday in two weeks but now there going and I'm staying. I found out last weekend she was having an affair with the same man as a few years ago. But she says it was just a friendship. The scary thing here is her and her colleague are both secondary school teachers and work in the same office as safe guarding officers looking after children with tough home lives so they new the heartache it would cause.
This comes after years of her taking out credit cards in my name and spending thousands and using my overdraft to spend thousands more without my knowledge or consent.
Also a few years ago go she beat me up and left me with a black eye and I had to say I had walked into a door.
So last weekend her dad instead of turning up at my house and telling her to stop bloody destroying people including our daughter and his grand daughter he tries to take my daughter out of the house without my permission and I get arrested for breach of the piece and a night in a cell.
Now my wife is playing the victim and refusing to talk and running off to her parents who I feel are supporting us in totally the wrong way. They should be telling her to talk so we can at least start sorting things.
And yes the toughest thing is I still absolutely love her from the bottom of my heart but I don't think my marriage can be saved but I would literally do anything to keep her.
Life is just very tough at this moment.
Sorry to bore everyone
Thankyou mate. I'm just really struggling at the moment. You just feel so a lone all of a sudden with nothing to look forward to
I really hope so mate. Thanks
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
That sounds truly awful mate. I can't begin to imagine the pain you are going through.
I think the main thing to focus on is daughter and maintaining your relationship with her.
Keep posting in here. I think there's a few who have been through similar and could offer some useful advice.
We have only just started this devorce and yet I'm being dictated to about budget ,when I can see my daughter bearing in mind I work away all week and when I can use the car even though I'm only home at weekends. Do things get better? Me and my daughter had big cuddles and I cried tonight but is it bad to be sad round her and cry in front of her?
FC sexy xxx
Player Valuation: £35m
Mate fck her she is clearly a poisonous vile , game playing disgrace . She sounds evil and sinister . Sorry to be blunt .
Nobody should have to deal with that . Worry about you and your daughter .
The situation you are in is terrible but think of your OWN wellbeing and your daughters.
Good luck .
It’s got me angry that someone can be that sly to someone else .
chrismpw
Player Valuation: £70m
Sounds like its possible to make a handsome living by playing a computer game while saddos sat in their underpants surrounded by empty red bull cans (sponsoring the loss of our Ademola) throw money at you for watching the privilege from a bedroom in their mum's house..
Beats having to do something useful or worthwhile like saving someone's life, operating on them or designing great feats if engineering like
*wonders at the world.
At times mate I just can
Mate maybe I need someone to be blunt with me so thanks. Don't get me wrong I've not been perfect but by that i mean she says I've moaned a lot but bloody hell the crap I've been through and my daughter living through the arguments has messed my head big time
FC sexy xxx
Player Valuation: £35m
Get her out of your life mate . Be civil for your daughter but you don’t need someone to try and destroy you . Don’t bite and be the better person for your daughter .
chrismpw
Player Valuation: £70m
If its
If it's her that's been cheating, and you can show that, surely you will get custody. Seems you're the harmed party here. Her family will obviously support her, its what most families blindly do, but if what you say is true and correct then you should ignore them (they're only doing what they see as right for their daughter)and stand up for your rights. Your daughter has a mother who professionally knows the consequences of the actions she has chosen to take, yet has gone ahead despite this for her own self-satisfaction.
chrismpw
Player Valuation: £70m
I cannot imagine a better response than the one you gave. I can understand you being upset for feeling powerless about doing more, but genuinely well done.
