Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Been a while since I posted in here , but I just got to say that my dark days are getting less. I feel a lot more positive these days despite Everton's woeful season.
Talking helps and having the strength and confidence to talk is vital.
Don't get me wrong , the dark spaces are still there , but I feel I can face them better now.
So yeah, try to keep things real and keep talking. Easy to say , but damn hard to do.
 
Rugby Toffee said:
Been a while since I posted in here , but I just got to say that my dark days are getting less. I feel a lot more positive these days despite Everton's woeful season.
Talking helps and having the strength and confidence to talk is vital.
Don't get me wrong , the dark spaces are still there , but I feel I can face them better now.
So yeah, try to keep things real and keep talking. Easy to say , but damn hard to do.
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That’s great news, mate. Hopefully it carries on getting better for you;)
 
EFCPaul said:
Feeling a bit better now but still a bit down. I'm only 24 but can't convince myself that what i'm going through is just a phase. It just feels like " this is all life is mate" and it's getting me down something bad.
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How you feeling this morning, pal?

Try lay off the ale, does absolutely no good for people with mental health issues, like us. I find that out the hard way most times!
 
TyphooToffee said:
My daughter told me today that one of my granddaughters is taking CBD oil as a way to combat her hypersensitivity. For the last three years she has struggled to get her to dress in the mornings due to the debilitating disorder. But after only two days she is dressing normally with no problem at all.

I think I might give it a try
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I use it to help me sleep mate.

It deffo helps, but tastes pretty bad lol
 
Feeling okay today but i've been better. The friends I was with noticed that something was the matter with me but I didn't explain what, I just tried to play it off as standard mood swing and carried on drinking even more.

I found out some disappointing news is all and it hit me badly, I would much preferred to have remained oblivious because what you don't know can't hurt you. It's nothing life changing, just something that i'd suspected was the case all along confirmed for me. Ruined my mood and the ale made it 20x worse. Oh well, today's a new day so we'll just have to carry on. Really think i'm due catching a break though.

Thank you all so much for the concern and i'm sorry if anyone was badly alarmed.
 
EFCPaul said:
Feeling okay today but i've been better. The friends I was with noticed that something was the matter with me but I didn't explain what, I just tried to play it off as standard mood swing and carried on drinking even more.

I found out some disappointing news is all and it hit me badly, I would much preferred to have remained oblivious because what you don't know can't hurt you. It's nothing life changing, just something that i'd suspected was the case all along confirmed for me. Ruined my mood and the ale made it 20x worse. Oh well, today's a new day so we'll just have to carry on. Really think i'm due catching a break though.

Thank you all so much for the concern and i'm sorry if anyone was badly alarmed.
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This bit is the most important. Some days I wake up feeling dreadful, but I tell myself it's a chemical thing, and it's usually worn off by 11am. Even if the day has been bad, tomorrow could be different. It's difficult if you're a moody sod like I am, but you just have to try and embrace the good days and get through the bad.
 
Drinking again but feeling better. Not sure where i'm at to be honest. I don't think i'm depressed but i'm not fully happy either. I feel like things aren't going the way i'd like them too and i can't forsee a scenario where it goes any better.

Genuinely no idea how things are going to go in the future, maybe that's a good thing?
 
EFCPaul said:
Drinking again but feeling better. Not sure where i'm at to be honest. I don't think i'm depressed but i'm not fully happy either. I feel like things aren't going the way i'd like them too and i can't forsee a scenario where it goes any better.

Genuinely no idea how things are going to go in the future, maybe that's a good thing?
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I don't know your circumstances,, obviously, but whenever I'm in a bit of a rut about how things are, I find it helps by trying to think how much worse things could be. I end up being grateful that things ain't so bad.

Then again, I have a pretty powerful imagination about how bad things could get!
 
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Just need to vent again

Currently in another self-destructive phase, I feel like its mostly related to uni work. I can see it about to happen but I just can't seem to change my mindset to get out of it once i'm actually in it. Just feel like lying down and missing all the deadlines. Keep fantasizing about my death as well, like what it'd be like if i jumped out. I don't really want to but these always seem to come whenever I'm stressed out.

Earlier this week i tried to take a look at what the rest of my class had done for their portfolios, instead of getting inspired it started all this hopeless crap i keep thinking about, don't know what kind of crappy personality that is
 
jonnyg said:
Just need to vent again

Currently in another self-destructive phase, I feel like its mostly related to uni work. I can see it about to happen but I just can't seem to change my mindset to get out of it once i'm actually in it. Just feel like lying down and missing all the deadlines. Keep fantasizing about my death as well, like what it'd be like if i jumped out. I don't really want to but these always seem to come whenever I'm stressed out.

Earlier this week i tried to take a look at what the rest of my class had done for their portfolios, instead of getting inspired it started all this hopeless crap i keep thinking about, don't know what kind of crappy personality that is
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Been there myself with the Uni stress, mate, absolutely horrible place to be. You’re definitely not alone in that, a good portion of students are in this mindset around exam/coursework time.

What I used to try to do is work for an hour and then give myself a 10-15 minute break away from it. Go have a cup of tea/coffee and just let your mind have a bit of a rest. The worst thing you can do is to let the work overwhelm you.

Also, go and speak to your professors and tell them that you’re extremely stressed out. They are there to help. I don’t care what course you’re doing, it is never going to be as important as you being alive and well.

I remember on one particular piece of coursework in my second year, it pushed me to the edge of quitting. I was on the verge of tears because it just felt like too much. I wasn’t eating, drinking or sleeping and it done me absolutely no good. In the end I went to my professor and he talked me through it and it all made sense.

Finally, NEVER look at other people’s work and compare it to yours. Most of the time people are arseholes and make out they’re much further ahead than they are and sometimes, if they are really ahead they haven’t read the brief properly and have talked a load of rubbish for ages.

Keep us updated, mate, and good luck!;)
 
GwladysBlue said:
Been there myself with the Uni stress, mate, absolutely horrible place to be. You’re definitely not alone in that, a good portion of students are in this mindset around exam/coursework time.

What I used to try to do is work for an hour and then give myself a 10-15 minute break away from it. Go have a cup of tea/coffee and just let your mind have a bit of a rest. The worst thing you can do is to let the work overwhelm you.

Also, go and speak to your professors and tell them that you’re extremely stressed out. They are there to help. I don’t care what course you’re doing, it is never going to be as important as you being alive and well.

I remember on one particular piece of coursework in my second year, it pushed me to the edge of quitting. I was on the verge of tears because it just felt like too much. I wasn’t eating, drinking or sleeping and it done me absolutely no good. In the end I went to my professor and he talked me through it and it all made sense.

Finally, NEVER look at other people’s work and compare it to yours. Most of the time people are arseholes and make out they’re much further ahead than they are and sometimes, if they are really ahead they haven’t read the brief properly and have talked a load of rubbish for ages.

Keep us updated, mate, and good luck!;)
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Fantastic post ;)
 
EFCPaul said:
Drinking again but feeling better. Not sure where i'm at to be honest. I don't think i'm depressed but i'm not fully happy either. I feel like things aren't going the way i'd like them too and i can't forsee a scenario where it goes any better.

Genuinely no idea how things are going to go in the future, maybe that's a good thing?
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Hi Mate, sorry to hear your not feeling great, I know life can be awful I totally get that but you need to start looking at the positives in you life, another recommendation is to stop drinking altogether, that will only make you feel worse, Alcohol isn’t a helper as much as it feels it, it’s actually one of the major problems.

I would also recommend start a hobby like golf or take up running, exercise is a great cue for feeling down.
 

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