As usual there is a great range of support on this forum. Some really excellent advice. We are all different, physically and psycho socially. As such we often respond to things differently. This includes how we respond to talking therapies. For example, CBT might be great for one person traumatised as a child, for the other traumatised child, not so well. One prescription does not fit all. Theirin lies the "issue". I wish we could open a book, under " when helping traumatised people, do this". But there isn't. It's often "horses for courses". If you try a therapy, and it works therapeutically, great. If not it's a case of trial and error. The problem lies unfortunately when you are put on a waiting list for help when you want it now.
The other issue is like to discuss is the nature of therapy itself. Any trained therapists worth their salt 2ill initiate therapy with "what are you expecting". This is because it's going to be a collaborative approach. Your going to have to do the hard work time and time again. The last part is often hard to hear and here's why. The therapist cannot take what happened to you away. They just can't. But what they can do is prepare you. Give you options on how you can cope, recognise triggers and support you with thought processes, options as to how to look at things. The Therapist wants to "enable" you. Help YOU be the catalyst to work towards dealing with things better. Perhaps help you with ways of coping in less harmful ways. For example, utilizing exercise as stress reliever rather than self harm. We aren't machines, we can't just forget abuse or trauma,hoping it will go away. But adopting a therapy / medical model approach can be so beneficial. It's just means persisting in a trial and error approach and eventually landing on the most therepeutic intervention.
The one thing I'm a 100% certain on is the need to share. There are people out there who WANT to help. We all have a value, mean something and yes, are in a position to help others. If you think you are worthless you are sadly mistaken. The importance of just listening to someone is incalculable and can literally mean the difference between life and death. Being there for someone who thinks "no one cares" is so so important. So please share, tell someone your struggling, even asking "can I spend a little time with you, I don't feel very well " can help you feel better. At a time when we celebrate the life of a man born 2000 years ago, who only wanted us to look after one another I myself can testify the thing that makes me feel the happiest and contented is 2h3n you have done something to help people. It gives you that nice feeling inside doesn't it.
Take care all. Happy Easter
