Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Brett Angell Delight]

Just wanted to post a little update in here because sharing in here has truly helped me more then any of you can ever know. I'm really quite emotional in a positive way for the first time in a long while. It might not seem like a big deal but it meant the world to me. On my vist to see the Mrs today the nurses said she could go out and walk around the hospital grounds for a bit (which in itself would've been enough for me to say it was a positive day). Its the first time she's been outside the ward since she went in and we even got lucky as the sun had come up as we went out. Anyway while we where walking she smiled her real smile at me. Not the brave, put on one she uses to pretend that everything is alright, her real one. Its the first time she's smiled like that since this all started. It took everything I had in me to not get all teary-eyed.

Bloody hell mate, just catching up on this thread now and my heart goes out to you both.

The wise old owls in here have done their work so not much for me to say other than good luck and I’ve got everything crossed for the fullest recovery possible for her and a good night’s sleep or two for you.

In general I think people need to remember that mental healthcare is still healthcare and should be treated as such. If your loved one had a headache you’d help them treat it at home; if they had a heart attack you’d call the professionals. Never feel bad for entrusting their care to the best people possible.

 

[Rita_Poon]

Next door (oesophageal cancer - terminal) went into hospital again last night, unfortunately I was out. He's 2.5 stone down from where he was in November. Vomiting blood again, a neighbour has run him into A&E. We all know he's in a bad way, he's been a good neighbour, we got through covid and just about kept one another sane with the daily chat. He wants to get to his 89th birthday late in March. He's been getting frailer by the day, he hated hospital last year and swore he wouldn't go back. I hope this isn't the serious part and it's just his stent that's perforated something not vital.

He still isn't happy about conscription (over 60 years ago) "imagine that for a pound a week".

 

[MaximusEvertonius]

Thinking about you and your neighbour today. I’m so sorry for what he’s going through

 

[Rita_Poon]

So.

I was out and unreachable yesterday as I'd arranged to watch the boxing, it's the first evening out this year. Catch up with some pals and what not.

Next door was in a bad way around half four yesterday afternoon, ambulance didn't come (Saturday night is a bad time to be fair), his next neighbour in an emergency took him into hospital with him losing a lot of sicked up blood. His son and daughter in law had made it over in time. He died quite quickly this morning just before 2am. I'm glad he wasn't on his own.
Was a good man and a good neighbour. And I'm very sorry to lose a good friend. I hope he is reunited with his wife somewhere, I know he missed her terribly. rip.

 

[MaximusEvertonius]

Wow. That was quick. I know he was terminal and he went quickly. It doesn’t make it any less difficult. Seeing a neighbour, your friend, suffer and then is just gone is tough. Just know we’re all here.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

So.

I was out and unreachable yesterday as I'd arranged to watch the boxing, it's the first evening out this year. Catch up with some pals and what not.

Next door was in a bad way around half four yesterday afternoon, ambulance didn't come (Saturday night is a bad time to be fair), his next neighbour in an emergency took him into hospital with him losing a lot of sicked up blood. His son and daughter in law had made it over in time. He died quite quickly this morning just before 2am. I'm glad he wasn't on his own.
Was a good man and a good neighbour. And I'm very sorry to lose a good friend. I hope he is reunited with his wife somewhere, I know he missed her terribly. rip.

Sorry for your loss mate. He had loved ones by his side, at least.

I’m sure it’s going to take some getting used to, the reality of life without someone you would no doubt have seen a lot of day-to-day. Take care of yourself, brother.

 

[Gwladysstreetlad]

So.

I was out and unreachable yesterday as I'd arranged to watch the boxing, it's the first evening out this year. Catch up with some pals and what not.

Next door was in a bad way around half four yesterday afternoon, ambulance didn't come (Saturday night is a bad time to be fair), his next neighbour in an emergency took him into hospital with him losing a lot of sicked up blood. His son and daughter in law had made it over in time. He died quite quickly this morning just before 2am. I'm glad he wasn't on his own.
Was a good man and a good neighbour. And I'm very sorry to lose a good friend. I hope he is reunited with his wife somewhere, I know he missed her terribly. rip

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss mate. For what its worth I truly believe that your friend will be reunited with his wife and other loved ones, that he'll be pain-free and will know that he's got a true friend in yourself and others. Take care of yourself mate.

 

[matty1878]

So.

I was out and unreachable yesterday as I'd arranged to watch the boxing, it's the first evening out this year. Catch up with some pals and what not.

Next door was in a bad way around half four yesterday afternoon, ambulance didn't come (Saturday night is a bad time to be fair), his next neighbour in an emergency took him into hospital with him losing a lot of sicked up blood. His son and daughter in law had made it over in time. He died quite quickly this morning just before 2am. I'm glad he wasn't on his own.
Was a good man and a good neighbour. And I'm very sorry to lose a good friend. I hope he is reunited with his wife somewhere, I know he missed her terribly. rip.

he’s been with someone mate that loved him and he loved them that’s a little condolence x

 

[Bryan+]

Genuinely thinking of knocking work on the head for a year to sort myself out. So much going on, I’m thankful I work from home but even that’s becoming too much to manage, the work is manageable but what’s worrying me I’m struggling with just the basics.

Took a month off last year and it really, really helped me.

 

[Gwladysstreetlad]

Genuinely thinking of knocking work on the head for a year to sort myself out. So much going on, I’m thankful I work from home but even that’s becoming too much to manage, the work is manageable but what’s worrying me I’m struggling with just the basics.

Took a month off last year and it really, really helped me.

Mate if knocking work on the head for a year is truly what you need to get yourself together and feeling better to be in the right place mentally and physically then do it. Ultimately your health and wellbeing needs to be your first, second and third priority. Please look after yourself and don't suffer in silence.

 

[MaximusEvertonius]

Working from home after going in 5 days a week for over two decades was one of the best things to happen for me in terms of work-life balance. I didn’t realize how much stress is added just from the daily commute and being in an office on slow days. It’s not for everyone, though. For me it was liberating. For some of my friends, it’s isolating. So if you need time away and can do it, you should. Your mental health and stability is primary, mate.

 

[Gwladysover]

So.

I was out and unreachable yesterday as I'd arranged to watch the boxing, it's the first evening out this year. Catch up with some pals and what not.

Next door was in a bad way around half four yesterday afternoon, ambulance didn't come (Saturday night is a bad time to be fair), his next neighbour in an emergency took him into hospital with him losing a lot of sicked up blood. His son and daughter in law had made it over in time. He died quite quickly this morning just before 2am. I'm glad he wasn't on his own.
Was a good man and a good neighbour. And I'm very sorry to lose a good friend. I hope he is reunited with his wife somewhere, I know he missed her terribly. rip.

So sorry for your loss, I hope that happy memories of your neighbour will be a comfort to you. Best wishes.

 

[matty1878]

Mate if knocking work on the head for a year is truly what you need to get yourself together and feeling better to be in the right place mentally and physically then do it. Ultimately your health and wellbeing needs to be your first, second and third priority. Please look after yourself and don't suffer in silence.

this if you can do it

your health is paramount

 

[Gwladysover]

Genuinely thinking of knocking work on the head for a year to sort myself out. So much going on, I’m thankful I work from home but even that’s becoming too much to manage, the work is manageable but what’s worrying me I’m struggling with just the basics.

Took a month off last year and it really, really helped me.

Your health and wellbeing are the most important things and if taking a break from work will help then you should do it. Taking care of yourself should be your priority.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

I'm nearly 3 weeks sober off alcohol, trying to give up both ciggies and Ale at same time is quite difficult. I don't know whether to go back to drinking. Because TBH, I've always drank to get drunk. There has been times when I've just had 2 pints, but too often drink has been escape for me. I may try to go March off ale as well. But at same time, I don't want to become a recluse. Sometimes I think I should stick to sobriety, other times it terrifies me life without booze.