Should i have offered the money and should it have been accepted?

[PITA]

"should I pay £180 for deciding not to turn up for a meal or should I let someone else pay it who offered to pay"

That's it in a nutshell.

Are you fluent in Chinese? Very, very impressed.

 

[marnie]

Yeah. They’ve essentially paid for your company. If you’re not going to fulfil your end of the bargain then reimburse the cash.

Also don’t be spouting “with all this COVID about” as if it’s some brand new, mitigating circumstance that should absolve you of your duty.

Seems like ... the mate has gone home and the others CBA going.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Seems like ... the mate has gone home and the others CBA going.

So there’s one fun mate in the whole group. He’s binned it and the whole charade has come tumbling down.

Despite the confusion opening salvo, I feel like there’s some low key forum gold lurking in here somewhere.

 

[wm02]

Go round to their house during the night and smear your own faeces all over their doors and windows.

It won't get you your money back but you'll feel so much better about the whole situation


Happy Christmas ?

Warmed the cockles reading this

 

[marnie]

So there’s one fun mate in the whole group. He’s binned it and the whole charade has come tumbling down.

Despite the confusion opening salvo, I feel like there’s some low key forum gold lurking in here somewhere.

I fear the close nit friendship bond may be severed. Bet there is no invite for New Year.

 

[ste d' indica]

I feel like Bill's just explained what happened to the Arteta money reading that.

 

[toffee82]

To be honest, I left the swinger scene a while ago so I’m not up to date on the lingo.

That's what I thought it sounded like.

They've been swinging a few times but now the fella with the big schlong can't go it's just not going to be the same.

 

[toffee82]

In all seriousness, you were right to offer. If they are going to be out of pocket then they are right to accept. If they can cancel and not be out of pocket then they should not have accepted.

 

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[Thomasc]

Sound like swingers to me

I’d of gone if she was a bit tidy.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

Ok lads I want some feed back to decide if i have done the right thing here and should a couple I am friends with accepted the money, apologies if this is a little long winded. A couple were paying for our Christmas lunch at a nice hotel near where we live., the wife of the couple told myself & my Mrs they wanted to pay for it at a cost of £180 which was very nice of them, so just under £90 each. They were also paying for 2 other lads who are friends of mine that were going too, 3 out of the 4 of us are Irish living in the UK and we (Myself the Mrs and the 2 lads) always have Christmas lunch out together since getting to know each other but last year with covid we had it with this couple in their home who we would all be friendly with and we have got to know them since moving over to the UK.
Anyway one of the lads decided to go home for Christmas, he had not been home in 7 years for Christmas, So last week he went and told the wife in the couple who were paying for the meals, that he had got Christmas off late and decided he would go home for it, long story short she was not too happy and made a comment to me about how these meals cost money the following day. So with all this covid about at the moment i got cold feet myself at the weekend and not wanting to fall out with the couple I went down and told them face to face that myself and my Mrs would not be going to the hotel for Christmas day lunch but i said i would give/offer them the £180 back, basically the cost of myself and the Mrs meal on Christmas day, it was taken by them, fair enough i offered it but I was just thinking after was i right to offer? I actually think I was but I believe if i offered to pay for a meal for somebody else I know I would not have accepted it. Just wondering what are others opinion on this?

What exactly have you done during lockdown for these people to pay £90 a head for, the wife and hangers on for Christmas dinner?

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

I fear the close nit friendship bond may be severed. Bet there is no invite for New Year.

By new year they’ll be daubing profanities on his front door

 

[barneygumble]

Moral of the story is…

Be like me, hate people and nothing can go wrong

Can’t disappoint people if you don’t spend time with them.

 

[Rogue Trader]

I'd have offered to pay if it was me.

It they were going to be out of pocket because of my choice I'd have not give them the chance to not accept it either.

You can't go crying off and putting other people out of pocket in the process.

I actually agree mate.

 

[Rob17896]

Ok lads I want some feed back to decide if i have done the right thing here and should a couple I am friends with accepted the money, apologies if this is a little long winded. A couple were paying for our Christmas lunch at a nice hotel near where we live., the wife of the couple told myself & my Mrs they wanted to pay for it at a cost of £180 which was very nice of them, so just under £90 each. They were also paying for 2 other lads who are friends of mine that were going too, 3 out of the 4 of us are Irish living in the UK and we (Myself the Mrs and the 2 lads) always have Christmas lunch out together since getting to know each other but last year with covid we had it with this couple in their home who we would all be friendly with and we have got to know them since moving over to the UK.
Anyway one of the lads decided to go home for Christmas, he had not been home in 7 years for Christmas, So last week he went and told the wife in the couple who were paying for the meals, that he had got Christmas off late and decided he would go home for it, long story short she was not too happy and made a comment to me about how these meals cost money the following day. So with all this covid about at the moment i got cold feet myself at the weekend and not wanting to fall out with the couple I went down and told them face to face that myself and my Mrs would not be going to the hotel for Christmas day lunch but i said i would give/offer them the £180 back, basically the cost of myself and the Mrs meal on Christmas day, it was taken by them, fair enough i offered it but I was just thinking after was i right to offer? I actually think I was but I believe if i offered to pay for a meal for somebody else I know I would not have accepted it. Just wondering what are others opinion on this?

You were right!