Should i have offered the money and should it have been accepted?

[GrandOldTeam]

"should I pay £180 for deciding not to turn up for a meal or should I let someone else pay it who offered to pay"

That's it in a nutshell.

 

[magicjuan]

Send them a turd in a bow

 

[marnie]

3 Tight Minge Bags in the poll lol

 

[JimmyJeffers]

To be honest, I left the swinger scene a while ago so I’m not up to date on the lingo.

 

[lorens]

it was even harder for me to read this as for a non-native English speaker.
bro, you could write it all in 4-5 sentences.

you have already returned the money to them, so you shouldn't think about it. the deal is done, in any case, you're right, no regrets.

 

[Rich1878]

Ok lads I want some feed back to decide if i have done the right thing here and should a couple I am friends with accepted the money, apologies if this is a little long winded. A couple were paying for our Christmas lunch at a nice hotel near where we live., the wife of the couple told myself & my Mrs they wanted to pay for it at a cost of £180 which was very nice of them, so just under £90 each. They were also paying for 2 other lads who are friends of mine that were going too, 3 out of the 4 of us are Irish living in the UK and we (Myself the Mrs and the 2 lads) always have Christmas lunch out together since getting to know each other but last year with covid we had it with this couple in their home who we would all be friendly with and we have got to know them since moving over to the UK.
Anyway one of the lads decided to go home for Christmas, he had not been home in 7 years for Christmas, So last week he went and told the wife in the couple who were paying for the meals, that he had got Christmas off late and decided he would go home for it, long story short she was not too happy and made a comment to me about how these meals cost money the following day. So with all this covid about at the moment i got cold feet myself at the weekend and not wanting to fall out with the couple I went down and told them face to face that myself and my Mrs would not be going to the hotel for Christmas day lunch but i said i would give/offer them the £180 back, basically the cost of myself and the Mrs meal on Christmas day, it was taken by them, fair enough i offered it but I was just thinking after was i right to offer? I actually think I was but I believe if i offered to pay for a meal for somebody else I know I would not have accepted it. Just wondering what are others opinion on this?

Nice thing to do by offering it back, I probably would of done the same thing . But in my eyes , they offered to pay for you and shoukd of stuck by their word

 

[Toast]

"should I pay £180 for deciding not to turn up for a meal or should I let someone else pay it who offered to pay"

That's it in a nutshell.

Lost count of how many things I’ve booked and not been arsed to go to.
You take the hit.

 

[tommye]

3 Tight Minge Bags in the poll lol

I just clicked all 3 cos I could ?‍

 

[PITA]

Get them to bring the food back for you, you’ve paid for it.

How can you even know?

 

[Amokachi1995]

Assuming it wasn't your last £180 you were right to offer and them to accept. Would be tempted to get it as a take-out though.

 

[tommye]

BTW, 180 quid for 2 dinners?


They're taking you for a mug

 

[marnie]

I just clicked all 3 cos I could ?‍

You clicked all 3 cos you CBA reading it lol

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

"should I pay £180 for deciding not to turn up for a meal or should I let someone else pay it who offered to pay"

That's it in a nutshell.

Yeah. They’ve essentially paid for your company. If you’re not going to fulfil your end of the bargain then reimburse the cash.

Also don’t be spouting “with all this COVID about” as if it’s some brand new, mitigating circumstance that should absolve you of your duty.

 

[wm02]

Assuming they would be unable to get their money back, I think you are obliged to reimburse them.
Just curious, what’s a typical lunch like at that hotel?
Never spent anything close to that

 

[Nymzee]

So they paid £180 for you to eat a meal but you decided not to go so paid the money back. Right thing to do. Obviously.