At least we wont see him for 7 days.
Good night x UTFT xxxxxAt least we wont see him for 7 days.
Eddie, currently you reside in the harmless fruitcake zone, if you insist on blaming women for male suicide, well you cross over into something far, far worse.
The Samaritans Chief Executive writes the second of three guest blogs previewing discussions on mental health at Expo 2018.
The latest UK suicide figures show that on average just under 6,000 people take their own lives every year. Three-quarters of them are men.
Suicide is the leading cause of death for men under 50. You can quote the statistics about suicide, but it is hard to convey the devastation with just numbers. A suicide is like a rock thrown into the water with the ripples spreading outwards, covering family, friends, soaking work colleagues, acquaintances, the wider community.
Why so many men? Again, the research, including Samaritans’ Men and Suicide report, shows how complex the issue is. In the report, men talk about relationships breaking down, separation from children, job loss, addiction, lack of close friendships, loneliness and being unable to open up. We also know that deprivation is a major factor in male suicide, increasing the odds of taking your life by 10 times, compared with the suicide risk of more affluent men.
Something called the ‘gold standard’ of masculinity puts pressure on men. It’s a persuasive little voice that whispers, ‘You’ve failed’ – unless you have gone out and secured that job, that house, that car, that woman, those children and that sunny family life.
‘You’re divorced? Don’t see your kids much now and don’t live with them? You lost your job? You can’t pay your debts, your rent, your mortgage, your bills? Your life is over, man!’
It whispers about anything that isn’t part of conventional James Bond-style masculinity: ‘You’re gay, you’re trans, you’re bi – what sort of life do you think you’re going to have? Don’t tell anyone, whatever you do.’ Feelings of failure and shame make it harder to open up because that will make things worse, won’t it?
Samaritans believes these toxic messages which eat away at men’s wellbeing can be reversed and in many places work is being done on this already. As well as Samaritans, Men in Sheds, the universities of Glasgow and Bristol, and the university of Manchester (with their research into why middle-aged men are particularly vulnerable) are all looking at why and how to help.
Many of us suffer from suicidal thoughts – 1 in 5 in fact, according to a recent NHS digital survey. Research shows that thoughts of suicide can be interrupted – for instance by talking to an organisation like Samaritans which helps people develop strategies to manage these thoughts when they intrude.
Of course, what we all want is for men to get support before they reach a crisis. Designing services to appeal to men, research into what works best – is it online, is it reaching people through sports, work, music, pubs, cabbies, betting shops? – are necessary steps to support suicide prevention.
We can make a difference and save lives. And silence the inner voice that says ‘failure’
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Well, with bums like these, it's understandable. It's enough to drive any man crazy!No I blame sheep,,,
But seriously though, you're coming off as a clown trying to scapegoat women for this.What do YOU think is the cause for poor male mantal health and the alaring rate of suicides amongst men then?
I personally have no problem talking about those issues, and I also think the depression thread on here is an absolute credit to the forum. I just don't wish to engage on such personal matters to me with a raving coked up AI bot.Now this is a good and useful post.
Still struggling to understand what exactly the feminist movement and the destruction of Western civilisation is, but I guess it's always been the last days of civilisation for those that feel marginalised and that they would feel better if they could bring back some outdated notion that they could not be bottom of the pile again - not by improving their lot, just making other peoples' conditions worse.
Male suicide? Male homelessness? Parental equality after the breakdown of the family? Male specific health issues? All of these are important and need tackling.
The obviously confrontational views on this thread just make people want to back away and not touch a difficult problem with a bargepole.
I still wish we'd signed himThis took a turn no one saw. Kudos!
I;m not coversersing with a wool...
This lad is a tit, but I had to post this one just for the look on Whoopi's face at the end.
@edwardcrompton You'd probably enjoy most of his other content... Typical 'the only time a woman should be allow out of the kitchen is when she's giving birth' rubbish etc...
You need to get in touch with your feminine side mate. Might I suggest back-to-back viewings of:
- Little Women (both the novel and movie)
- The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
- Eat Pray Love
- The entire 'Sex in the City' series followed by all 3 movies
- And lastly... The Vagina monologues.
If you're not singing:
After all that, then there's no hope for you mate.![]()
For many men it can be a turn off from what I gather during my studies
Yeah mate, define 'studies'?I think that man has a point. I always say that you can spot an ambitious/business minded woman a mile away with just how they carry/portray themselves... whereas you could be cracking a joke or talking about the football at the weekend to a gentleman who is a CEO of a big company and be none the wiser.
I don't know if those women feel like they have to give off certain vibes of importance in an attempt to be taken seriously & not be "overlooked" in the workplace. For many men it can be a turn off from what I gather during my studies.
Hello mate, my name is FB92, what’s yours? Nice to meet you Mr Gates. Phwoar look at the jubblies on that. Fancy buying a dream catcher?whereas you could be cracking a joke or talking about the football at the weekend to a gentleman who is a CEO of a big company and be none the wiser.
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