Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[YoboCopter]

Not saying i have ever been depressed so it could be different but if i ever feel “fed up” or along them lines if i go the gym train hard get a nice pump listen to my tunes i literally come out a new man..

Again i will stress ive never been depressed i dont think but still.. its a very effective method.. ive been traning years it keeps me sane to the point i wonder how people actually dont train!

 

[Nymzee]

P.s. are you in touch with your GP mate? Maybe they can tell you a suitable illness to use? As mentioned above that’s what mine did.

No, I know I really should but they’re a long time family friend and I’d just find it a bit awkward speaking to them. Same goes for swapping GP’s so bit of a Catch 22. Work require a sick note for absences over 2 weeks so I do have to go at some point this week though to cover myself.

I downloaded Headspace to try today.

 

[Nymzee]

That’s it mate and therein lies the problem, and why, despite what I think and know I should do, I’m doing the opposite and keeping it quiet myself. It’s such a tough thing to deal with especially for people that are the main earner in a family. The weight of responsibility feeds the problem and makes it harder to be open about it for fear of the consequences.

I’ve been with my company for 6 years but I know they don’t deal with this kind of thing properly. A mate of mine took a couple of weeks off for stress and when he came back in, because it’s a male-dominated laddy office, just made fun of him for it. We’ve had posters up lately advocating talking about our problems but there isn’t anyone there I can trust to talk to, or even believe will have the slightest clue what I’m going on about.

I work in the construction industry where banter is like the king of the conversation. I’m going to force myself back tomorrow, even if it’s too early, just so I can report back here how it went.

 

[Buckers]

I’ve been with my company for 6 years but I know they don’t deal with this kind of thing properly. A mate of mine took a couple of weeks off for stress and when he came back in, because it’s a male-dominated laddy office, just made fun of him for it. We’ve had posters up lately advocating talking about our problems but there isn’t anyone there I can trust to talk to, or even believe will have the slightest clue what I’m going on about.

I work in the construction industry where banter is like the king of the conversation. I’m going to force myself back tomorrow, even if it’s too early, just so I can report back here how it went.

I hope it goes ok for you mate. I can imagine it must be particularly difficult in such a male dominated environment as construction. There’s probably a lot of blokes there all with similar issues but unable to talk to one another. I suppose that’s the barrier we have to break somehow. I think some of the most valuable support can come from people that have shared experiences. For a middle aged bloke to tell another middle aged bloke that they know they are feeing would be a powerful thing. It’s a shame it’s one of the hardest barriers to overcome.

I work in residential children’s care and one of our big problems is employers having no idea of the pressures that they put their staff under. This also sadly has a knock on effect of making the lives of kids who have similar issues harder in turn. There’s definitely broader issues with society in general and how we understand the causes. Society spends too much time trying to put out fires when we should be trying to address the causes of our deteriorating mental health. Employers have a big role to play in doing this.

 

[roydo]

Yeh it’s just the longer I leave the I feel the “worse” the illness has to be. Still haven’t been back, tried today but last night my anxiety was through the roof as I stared at my clock and tried to sleep. Was thinking of maybe trying something like Kalms before bed to help me tonight.

Feeling anxious is normal. What it sounds like is the controlling half of your brain has been overwhelmed by the emotional half. Like when Everton score a goal, but in a bad way.

Like, if you rationalise why we get so excited, and yes, overwhelmed when Everton score a goal, the sensible part of our brain is struggling to take back control. Its overwhelmed, because all that happened, rationally, is a person you dont know has kicked a football in the right place. The emotional half of your brain is having none of that though. Thing is, your brain has been trained to react to a goal, so will naturally return to normal, and in Everton world, will fully expect an equaliser. Everton that.

That ^^^^^^ is what you are now experiencing, apart from not knowing how, or why, you are feeling overwhelmed with anxiety/emotion. (similar thing chemically)

GP, mate or otherwise, is essential. Professional therapist, scary as that might sound, ditto. Telling you, one or two sessions with either with rationalise the issue, which is 95% of the solution, because the fear and panic will melt away. Trust me. Good luck mate

 

[AmericasToffee]

Counselors/Psychologists/Therapists are essential to helping understand what behaviors are counterproductive, or even causal, in illnesses, and why they may develop.

GPs/Psychiatrists treat the physical.

 

[Groucho]

World mental health day folks, but remember there’s another 364 mental health days for sufferers, not just today.

 

[buededw1]

Hi people

I thought i would write a little about a website I have created.

A bit of background about me; Originally a washed up footballer, due to injury had to stop playing. As a result of the injury I went to University (LJMU, so I could watch Everton for 3 years, as i'm from Kent) after my degree I turned to surveying. The last 5 years I have worked as a asset manager for both Savills and CBRE and recently finished my Masters Degree.

I realised the corporate life wasn't for me and wanted to help people. So, in turn created a property website to help share my knowledge with students. The website in its simplest form is like a right move for students. However, the twist of it is work to help students, so that includes provide comments on leases / dilaps etc etc and making sure no Landlords provide accommodation that isn't up to standard.

However, the biggest part of the whole website for me was helping students with mental health and wellbeing issues. Part of the company profits go to charities that focus on MH. Furthermore, we have partnered with anti bullying campaigners like Ben Cohen Mbe, National Dyslexia committee, Scholarshib hubs and many more.

So, I guess in short if your a parent or student or your concerned about someone who's a student then please drop me a message.

Dan

 

[Number_25]

Missus decided to study elsewhere (fantastic opportunity, mind) - spent three works solid in work trying to keep my mind off of things - starting to feel it now.

Not sure if I want to carry this on though.

Can't bare the thought her eventually being with someone else though.

Weird, that.

 

[dublinbluenose]

Quite uplifting this

 

[BluePaul86]

Today seems as good as any to first time post in here. To keep it brief I've been feeling down for a long long time, i struggle to remember the last time when I felt 'happy' to be honest. I struggle with sleep, am very unhappy in work and spend my social time with friends worrying about how i'm getting home etc. Finally took the plunge and visited the doctor. His answer to all this was 'sleeping pills' which after talking through with my family was not to take them as I don't want to become dependant or hooked on them. Friends and family know I'm down but probably not how down I actually am. My doctor doesn't believe I'm stressed or even depressed as my blood pressure, weight and heart rate is all normal. However I don't think it's natural to be unhappy 99% of my life.....

 

[YoboCopter]

The debate on sky is talking about mentall ilness tonite. Good show tbh nearly finished but am sure itll be on catchup!

Jeff shreeves
Chris kirkland
Chris boyd
Some chris fella from pfa

Deffo worth a watch!

 

[AmericasToffee]

Today seems as good as any to first time post in here. To keep it brief I've been feeling down for a long long time, i struggle to remember the last time when I felt 'happy' to be honest. I struggle with sleep, am very unhappy in work and spend my social time with friends worrying about how i'm getting home etc. Finally took the plunge and visited the doctor. His answer to all this was 'sleeping pills' which after talking through with my family was not to take them as I don't want to become dependant or hooked on them. Friends and family know I'm down but probably not how down I actually am. My doctor doesn't believe I'm stressed or even depressed as my blood pressure, weight and heart rate is all normal. However I don't think it's natural to be unhappy 99% of my life.....

I wouldn't overlook the necessity of sleep. Not sleeping is certainly a problem for your health but who knows if it is the cause? Maybe go for a second opinion?

 

[Tipp blue]

Today seems as good as any to first time post in here. To keep it brief I've been feeling down for a long long time, i struggle to remember the last time when I felt 'happy' to be honest. I struggle with sleep, am very unhappy in work and spend my social time with friends worrying about how i'm getting home etc. Finally took the plunge and visited the doctor. His answer to all this was 'sleeping pills' which after talking through with my family was not to take them as I don't want to become dependant or hooked on them. Friends and family know I'm down but probably not how down I actually am. My doctor doesn't believe I'm stressed or even depressed as my blood pressure, weight and heart rate is all normal. However I don't think it's natural to be unhappy 99% of my life.....

I know its easy for me to say but worrying about things to the level you seem to be is one of the most pointless things one can do, I know saying don't worry is also one of the most frustrating things to hear when you're feeling down, but you say when your socialising with friends you worry about how you're getting home ect, but I'd be willing to bet you've always gotten home eventually!!! and all the worry did was ruin your night out. We all worry about things from time to time. I've been through periods of excessive worrying and anxiety and it's horrible and I feel for you, I went to a psychologist for a few sessions it really helped, and I've said it here before and I'll say it to anyone who feels down, anxious worried or all of the above get rid of social media FB Twitter Insta, in alot of cases you'll feel alot better within a few days.

 

[Groucho]

Feeling anxious is normal.

Indeed.

The problem arises when it’s out of control.