Desperate for suggestions - HELP!

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Lisa said:
Well you have screwed up royally to put it plain and simple. Before you can apologize and even 'try' to make things right, you need to understand how you made her feel.
No wife or girlfriend wants to catch their partner pleasuring themselves to another woman. You have made her feel unattractive and unwanted. You have been deceitful and sneaky. Whether it was your first time or not she is not going to believe a word you say and why should she? Relationships are built on trust, she knows that if she hadn't have caught you that you wouldn't have told her, therefore you were keeping things from her and going behind her back.

I can only imagine how I would feel if I caught Dylan doing that. I would be so upset and hurt and feel very betrayed.


Did it not cross your mind to maybe wake her up and let her know how you were feeling? She would have appreciated that more than catching you in the 'act' alone. Good communication is the best thing for any relationship.

It's going to take a long time for her to trust you again and you have to respect that. Say your sorry and talk to her. But the key is going to be showing her that your sorry and not doing anything behind her back. Be honest with her all the time, talk to her about everything. Let her know when you have 'urges' and let her be a part of how your feeling even at 1 am.

Other than that give her time, she may forgive you she may not. Be the best partner that you can be treat her with the respect that she deserves.
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Thanks Lisa, wise words i know. I really do appreciate that advice from someone I know is in a happy and trusting relationship.

*and thanks Dylan for bringing this thread to Lisa's attention, making yet another woman on the planet hate me. Cheers mate!
 
TheFinnFan said:
you should have talked right after that "incident", your woman should relax, though...
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This. Seriously.

You were just knocking one out, everyone man does it.

Its just bad luck you were bashing it to someone you know and you got caught.

Explain the situation to her and if she doesn't accept it....you can always go back to the video. :lol:
 
Lao said:
Thanks Lisa, wise words i know. I really do appreciate that advice from someone I know is in a happy and trusting relationship.

*and thanks Dylan for bringing this thread to Lisa's attention, making yet another woman on the planet hate me. Cheers mate!
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I don't hate you, just dislike what you did:)
 
BlueTak said:
This. Seriously.

You were just knocking one out, everyone man does it.

Its just bad luck you were bashing it to someone you know and you got caught.

Explain the situation to her and if she doesn't accept it....you can always go back to the video. :lol:
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this.
you should stop that nonsence by talking to her (and dont feel bad). she is kinda torturing you, she knows you feel bad and humiliated too.
 

Lao said:
Thanks Lisa, wise words i know. I really do appreciate that advice from someone I know is in a happy and trusting relationship.

*and thanks Dylan for bringing this thread to Lisa's attention, making yet another woman on the planet hate me. Cheers mate!
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Sorry dude! How could I not?

And for the record.....I fap all over the show. She turns her back...fap, fap, fap, fap! You get the picture ;)
 
Lisa said:
I don't hate you, just dislike what you did:)
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I'm so glad I'm not the only woman who doesn't like what you've done, Lao, seeing as many of the lads thing it's great. :o

But yeah, take Lisa's advice - women know best.
 

I'm not saying 'don't do this, don't do that' I just mean, all men do it obviously, just most women don't really like to know about it. In most cases, like.
 
I'm pretty sure most women masturbate as well though you know, or else half the high street wouldn't be full of Ann Summers etc.
 
So your mrs is innocently sleeping upstairs, comes down and finds the man she loves knocking one off in front of the computer, not only is that bad enough but she then sees its somebody you both know!!! YOU then dont say a word to her about it and just skulk around like a naughty schoolboy caught with a top shelf magazine by his mum !!!! And you wonder why shes not talking to you???
I always thought there was something about you, all the boxes of tissues in your car should have given me a clue i guess. Get it sorted with her NOW before it goes too far xx
 

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