Its unreal mate so hard to accept. I lost 1 of my best friends about 10 yrs ago to suicide. He was the funniest person ive ever known always laughing, joking and slegging everyone. Never knew anyone who didn't like him, when you seen him coming over you started to laugh already he couldve been a comedian we even spent lunchtime together as we worked near each other. You never know whats going through others heads - you only know what they let you know. Im sorry for your loss but look after yourself and your other friends - ive a mate whos an undertaker and he dreads suicides - he says half the times they do a funeral for a suicide they can be back within the month for 1 of the mourners who he reckons cant handle it or blame themselves for the suicide. Stay strong brother for yourself and others.
That's so sad. You never know what is going on inside somebody's head. My friend's Dad killed himself many years ago, I was 19, she was 18. The night before he did it, I had been visiting my friend and he gave me a lift home. Chatting away as usual, his last words to me were "Give my love to your Mum and Dad - see you soon" I think about him often. Such a lovely, kind man. When we were kids he would take all the kids in the street swimming rather than just his own, he would buy everybody an ice cream if the ice cream man came. Nobody was aware of the sadness that must have been inside him.
Sorry to hear this mate. It’s a tough time for many as it is, and relationships can give that sense of familiarity when everything else is changing, so to lose one can’t be easy.
It’s crazy how common this comment is around in relation to those who have committed suicide. They care so much for others that they go out of their way to make sure they’re not worried, all the while losing the fight against their demons.
‘How are you’ has become as standard as a nod going past a stranger on the street. It’s just a reflex response.
Why mate? Why are they your only choices???
Yeah I feel that last paragraph is spot on. It's just weird to me. My father is/was a doctor and he didn't agree with the psychologists diagnosis that I would get addicted to the benzos. My psychiatrist used my admitted "abuse" of alcohol as a reason to keep me from using the benzos but I've not had more than 3 beers in the last 6 weeks total so doesn't that show I'm not "addicted"?
Thanks for replying mate. How long have you been suffering?? The reason I ask is you seem from your posts to be sensible and educated. You and I know life and people are constantly changing. We're not the same people we were 10yrs ago and we'll be different people again in another 10yrs. Dont give up on yourself mate - so what if you've tried and failed before, try again, even if you keep falling - having the want inside to change will mean you'll get clean in the end. Suicides never a solution mate - its not a rest or a break from life mate its a complete end to life and your problems dont finish mate they just get thrown on to the shoulders of those you leave behind - who care and love you. Please keep trying brother and if you need help or an ear from a stranger let us know theres many of your blue brothers on here who'll be glad to do anything we can for one of our own.Love you brother, God Bless.
