Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

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I wonder how many of us are suffering from post-Christmas blues as well. Christmas gets built up into this huge thing and then bang, it's over and a lot of people just end up feeling flat and empty. And I feel a bit sad about being on my own after being with my family for 2 days.

Same, I rarely go into the Everton section, and not just because my favourite player is Pickford and he's the current whipping boy.

My brother is a season ticket holder, and he stays well away from fan spaces because he finds them too depressing, but I never go the game anymore. I like watching Sheffield Wednesday (and I know having a second team is wrong but it is a very personal thing for me), and other teams as a neutral, such as Man United, but I CANNOT watch Everton because I just end up being a miserable panicky mess. It makes me sad because Goodison Park used to be this magical place for me, and now I can't go there anymore. I've not been able to sit through a whole match since Swansea in 2016, when I had to leave because I had a panic attack.

What I really hate is this thing a lot of fans have about how people like me are the reason the club are crap, because we don't demand enough, but I honestly just don't care that much, there are worse things going on in the world and I have a life outside Everton.

It's a sports club. Yeah one that means a hell of a lot to us but it's not worth anyone's mental health. That includes mine. I'm trying to give myself an almighty shake cos of how negatively I am letting Liverpool's 2018 get to me. It's silly really. The people who represent both clubs in the main don't care for the sides or the city, they like the status and money. They will soon move on.

I became a dad in May and I'm seriously thinking of telling my child to go and find a different sport if he does like football cos to me football is broken. The majority of us don't seem to enjoy and I don't just mean Evertonians.

 

[efcforever]

It's a sports club. Yeah one that means a hell of a lot to us but it's not worth anyone's mental health. That includes mine. I'm trying to give myself an almighty shake cos of how negatively I am letting Liverpool's 2018 get to me. It's silly really. The people who represent both clubs in the main don't care for the sides or the city, they like the status and money. They will soon move on.

I became a dad in May and I'm seriously thinking of telling my child to go and find a different sport if he does like football cos to me football is broken. The majority of us don't seem to enjoy and I don't just mean Evertonians.

I know where your coming from with the second bit. I have two young children and I used to think that I would insist on them supporting Everton. Now though, if one of them told me they wanted to support a different team I'd just shrug and buy them the shirt (anyone other than the RS I mean lol).

 

[David09]

I think that's the internet in general. Everything is exaggerated. I feel totally indifferent to Everton these days. They aren't going anywhere and it feels a waste of time hoping they do. Don't let others get to you. I think people are quick to say on the net what they wouldn't say to your face.

Me and my best mate are blues. Yet growing up I had a season ticket and then in my 20s did most the aways on top and saw myself as a "bigger" fan than most. Won't go into why but things changed for me and I stopped doing the aways, then slowly gave up my ticket and now I only watch on tv if I've got nothing better to do. My mate who I thought I was better fan than couldn't afford to go but has forgotten more about Everton than I will ever know. We all support the club in different ways. No way is better than another. It's personal choice and circumstance.

I love this forum its great but I generally prefer to read the non Everton sections.

Bloody hell mate your life as an evertonian has virtually mirrored mine. I was a season ticket holder early 2000s and some away. I then gave it all up apart from tv because I was a horrible git when we lost so I watched them on the tv for the last 10 years but lost 95% interest because I see absolutely no real ambition and now I don't really watch them on tv as I have lost my sky subscription but I do go to the odd game like Burnley away recently but otherwise I just wait for match of the day hoping we have won.

 

[Nymzee]

Having a very difficult night.

Been stuck in all day, my family went to town to watch a pantomime and didn't even ask me to come along. Then the football results made the day grimmer. Now in the night I've been extremely fed up and gone for a long walk and have stopped on a bench to write this (I'll head home soon so please one worry)

Only 2 weeks ago or so I felt more upbeat than I had done in a long time. Now I feel terrible and have done all over Christmas.

Barely spoke to my friend, she messaged once earlier today say she's been mad busy all yesterday and today, I doubt that to be honest, she hasn't replied to what I wrote back since. Presumably this is fizziling out like I thought it would. Been left with no plans for new year except a family meal I don't even feel like going too now.

I have an interview for a new job in the 24th of Jan but even that's not motivating me a the moment, it feels ages is away and in the meantime I'm stuck in the place I am now which is in its arse and on the verge of closing up.


So so down and tomorrow doesn't feel like it will be any better. Life can F off.

Does this part really bother you? Just your last post made it sound like you weren’t arsed at all and didn’t like her. Just curious.

 

[Nymzee]

I wonder how many of us are suffering from post-Christmas blues as well. Christmas gets built up into this huge thing and then bang, it's over and a lot of people just end up feeling flat and empty. And I feel a bit sad about being on my own after being with my family for 2 days.

Same, I rarely go into the Everton section, and not just because my favourite player is Pickford and he's the current whipping boy.

My brother is a season ticket holder, and he stays well away from fan spaces because he finds them too depressing, but I never go the game anymore. I like watching Sheffield Wednesday (and I know having a second team is wrong but it is a very personal thing for me), and other teams as a neutral, such as Man United, but I CANNOT watch Everton because I just end up being a miserable panicky mess. It makes me sad because Goodison Park used to be this magical place for me, and now I can't go there anymore. I've not been able to sit through a whole match since Swansea in 2016, when I had to leave because I had a panic attack.

What I really hate is this thing a lot of fans have about how people like me are the reason the club are crap, because we don't demand enough, but I honestly just don't care that much, there are worse things going on in the world and I have a life outside Everton.

A neutral Man United fan? Whut?

 

[David09]

I personally can't wait for 2019 to start and even then it won't be a celebration it will just be relief that a [Poor language removed] year is over.
I'll be perfectly honest and for the first time in admitting to anyone I've contemplated suicide but I haven't had the balls to carry it out.
I'm not a happy person now but I'm also not suicidal. I have no idea about the future but my daughter, work and you lot on this forum being there for me when I've been an absolute mess and a miserable sod have carried me at times.
Thank you all for your support and hard work.

 

[David09]

Having a very difficult night.

Been stuck in all day, my family went to town to watch a pantomime and didn't even ask me to come along. Then the football results made the day grimmer. Now in the night I've been extremely fed up and gone for a long walk and have stopped on a bench to write this (I'll head home soon so please one worry)

Only 2 weeks ago or so I felt more upbeat than I had done in a long time. Now I feel terrible and have done all over Christmas.

Barely spoke to my friend, she messaged once earlier today say she's been mad busy all yesterday and today, I doubt that to be honest, she hasn't replied to what I wrote back since. Presumably this is fizziling out like I thought it would. Been left with no plans for new year except a family meal I don't even feel like going too now.

I have an interview for a new job in the 24th of Jan but even that's not motivating me a the moment, it feels ages is away and in the meantime I'm stuck in the place I am now which is in its arse and on the verge of closing up.


So so down and tomorrow doesn't feel like it will be any better. Life can F off.

I haven't relied on any family mate this Christmas. I've spent most of it by myself and me and my daughter went to the pantomime on our own this evening.
Move on from that woman if it doesn't feel right.
I'm on my own again now for the next few days before I go back to work as a truck driver but I've realised in the past 6 months people either except me for who I am or can f off and I actually like my own company. I'll go for a walk or on my bike and I'm happy by myself but yes it is lonely.
Chin up mate. There are people far worse off than us in the world.

 

[FC sexy xxx]

A neutral Man United fan? Whut?

I loved watching Utd in the 90’s and 000’s under Ferguson because they made being a blue more bearable as they knocked Liverpool of their perch . I hope they get their act together soon and put Liverpool back in their box. We sure won’t do it .

 

[FC sexy xxx]

Having a very difficult night.

Been stuck in all day, my family went to town to watch a pantomime and didn't even ask me to come along. Then the football results made the day grimmer. Now in the night I've been extremely fed up and gone for a long walk and have stopped on a bench to write this (I'll head home soon so please one worry)

Only 2 weeks ago or so I felt more upbeat than I had done in a long time. Now I feel terrible and have done all over Christmas.

Barely spoke to my friend, she messaged once earlier today say she's been mad busy all yesterday and today, I doubt that to be honest, she hasn't replied to what I wrote back since. Presumably this is fizziling out like I thought it would. Been left with no plans for new year except a family meal I don't even feel like going too now.

I have an interview for a new job in the 24th of Jan but even that's not motivating me a the moment, it feels ages is away and in the meantime I'm stuck in the place I am now which is in its arse and on the verge of closing up.


So so down and tomorrow doesn't feel like it will be any better. Life can F off.

Maybe you’ve given off vibes that you aren’t interested in her . Judging by your last post you had lost interest in her . Maybe that’s why she’s cooled off

 

[goodisonopheliac]

A neutral Man United fan? Whut?

They're my local team. I have no affiliation to them. If I lived in Brighton I'd watch BHA and if I was still in Chester I'd watch them.

It's a sports club. Yeah one that means a hell of a lot to us but it's not worth anyone's mental health. That includes mine. I'm trying to give myself an almighty shake cos of how negatively I am letting Liverpool's 2018 get to me. It's silly really. The people who represent both clubs in the main don't care for the sides or the city, they like the status and money. They will soon move on.

I became a dad in May and I'm seriously thinking of telling my child to go and find a different sport if he does like football cos to me football is broken. The majority of us don't seem to enjoy and I don't just mean Evertonians.

He could always just enjoy the sport for what it is, like my mum does - she's not affiliated with any team, except England, maybe. She just likes watching games. As long as they're entertaining, that's all she's arsed about. I'm increasingly the same these days.

I think one thing that hurts is that I love Space, and one of the band is going round trolling rival fans under a fake name every time Liverpool win, and I keep worrying he'll go after me because he knows I'm a blue.

 

[EFCPaul]

Does this part really bother you? Just your last post made it sound like you weren’t arsed at all and didn’t like her. Just curious.

Meh no one likes being dumped plus the way she's gone about it has really pushed my nose out of joint.

Maybe you’ve given off vibes that you aren’t interested in her . Judging by your last post you had lost interest in her . Maybe that’s why she’s cooled off

Maybe mate. I don't like it when people pull ghosts on others though, it's nobhead behaviour and cowardice. Had it done to me before and it causes me to lose all respect for a person.

I know what I said in my previous post but I hadn't fully decided what I wished to do yet. Had I decided it wasn't the type of relationship I was really interested in I'd have made sure to let the girl down as gently as I could. Be decent enough to give her the explanation she deserved instead of letting her wonder if it's her, that would be cruel.

We've shared a lot of personal information the past few weeks and developed a bond of sorts, I'd want to make sure i told her from my heart how I felt because I think in the long run she'd appreciate my honesty. I wouldn't want her worrying about it could have been because something she'd said or done.

It doesn't look like I've been shown the same respect.

 

[Nymzee]

Meh no one likes being dumped plus the way she's gone about it has really pushed my nose out of joint.



Maybe mate. I don't like it when people pull ghosts on others though, it's nobhead behaviour and cowardice. Had it done to me before and it causes me to lose all respect for a person.

I know what I said in my previous post but I hadn't fully decided what I wished to do yet. Had I decided it wasn't the type of relationship I was really interested in I'd have made sure to let the girl down as gently as I could. Be decent enough to give her the explanation she deserved instead of letting her wonder if it's her, that would be cruel.

We've shared a lot of personal information the past few weeks and developed a bond of sorts, I'd want to make sure i told her from my heart how I felt because I think in the long run she'd appreciate my honesty. I wouldn't want her worrying about it could have been because something she'd said or done.

It doesn't look like I've been shown the same respect.

Not picking on you by the way but you've said a few contradictory things so not really sure how you view this. You mentioned she's always first to message, always rings you etc. but then complain she hasn't replied to your messages even though you also wrote this:

I'll get messages from her and not even feel like replying because it's not interesting

How do you know she isn't just doing this to you? And how is okay for you to do this but not for her? I don't know your situation, only what you've written on here, but from what you've written so far you're not coming across in the best of lights. Maybe even a little bitter for some reason. Ghosting isn't fun but it's actually a much simpler thing for everyone in the end.

Maybe you just don't like the idea she will end things before you can.

DM me if you think I'm attacking you, I'm not, I just know how guys think.

 

[blue to the bone]

Not picking on you by the way but you've said a few contradictory things so not really sure how you view this. You mentioned she's always first to message, always rings you etc. but then complain she hasn't replied to your messages even though you also wrote this:




How do you know she isn't just doing this to you? And how is okay for you to do this but not for her? I don't know your situation, only what you've written on here, but from what you've written so far you're not coming across in the best of lights. Maybe even a little bitter for some reason. Ghosting isn't fun but it's actually a much simpler thing for everyone in the end.

Maybe you just don't like the idea she will end things before you can.

DM me if you think I'm attacking you, I'm not, I just know how guys think.

I think best thing is to ask her straight out maybe.

 

[goodisonopheliac]

I'm in a mess right now. An ex-friend of mine died of cancer earlier today. He's been ill for a while and it was really aggressive.

I'm not going to pretend we were BFFs. We had some nasty arguments, and we used to be in a band together and he was one of the members who kicked me out behind my back - long story. I blocked him on Facebook after he made some gross comments about rape. But he was only in his early forties, and we did have some good times together, and I feel sad for his brother and sister. And I'm very weepy because my dad died of cancer. I know I'm being a hypocrite but it really upset me.

 

[FC sexy xxx]

Meh no one likes being dumped plus the way she's gone about it has really pushed my nose out of joint.



Maybe mate. I don't like it when people pull ghosts on others though, it's nobhead behaviour and cowardice. Had it done to me before and it causes me to lose all respect for a person.

I know what I said in my previous post but I hadn't fully decided what I wished to do yet. Had I decided it wasn't the type of relationship I was really interested in I'd have made sure to let the girl down as gently as I could. Be decent enough to give her the explanation she deserved instead of letting her wonder if it's her, that would be cruel.

We've shared a lot of personal information the past few weeks and developed a bond of sorts, I'd want to make sure i told her from my heart how I felt because I think in the long run she'd appreciate my honesty. I wouldn't want her worrying about it could have been because something she'd said or done.

It doesn't look like I've been shown the same respect.

I’ve had it happen a few times . It’s snide but it’s better to know their snide behaviour before you’ve wasted a few years of your life with someone before they show their true colours with far bigger implications That is a far worse experience . That’s something I’m paying for 4 years on now . And my trust in people now is non existent because of it. I’ll probably be alone for good now because it’s not worth the hassle and investment ( not financial obviously)