Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[coollino]

Oh no! How is she? Is she OK?

She is doing a bit better now, it was awful last night though. Just hoping she has been through the worst. The nurse at A & E said it should be ok but it was a normal thing to happen.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

The advice and support on this site is unbelievable. Love to all those who take the time to post and those who try to give a different take.

We are all Blues here x.

If anyone needs a random chat I am around all Christmas Day to bore the face off you

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

It's the whole 'if you accept mediocrity and you aren't running on the pitch, or protesting against Silva, it's your fault the club are crap, demand excellence NSNO raaargh' thing. I can't physically affect what Everton do, but when I come on here and see threads like that Yank bloke's I start thinking it is somehow my fault, and that's dangerous, because I've had delusions before where I think I have godlike powers and it's gotten me into trouble. I've posted here before.

As with a lot of posts in this thread, the encouraging thing is that you can identify what is wrong and why.

Gigantic cliche alert, but it really is JUST a game, mate. We all get wound up for obvious reasons and then of course a forum dedicated to our team becomes a poisonous trough of nonsense.

There are a number of reasons why the team are a massive disappointment to all of us most of the time but none of them are remotely to do with you.

In a time of the season where there are so many games in such a small period of time, maybe give the forum a swerve for a few days?

If not and/or if you feel you’re slipping, you know where to come. Best of luck, fella.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

She is doing a bit better now, it was awful last night though. Just hoping she has been through the worst. The nurse at A & E said it should be ok but it was a normal thing to happen.

We had something similar with both of ours, mate. I completely relate to feeling usless; ours were also both prem - cue another period of uslessness!

Point being, these things can happen and the outcome can still be fine. Then you just have to worry about them for the rest of your life

Everything crossed for you both.

 

[wgtwiddle]

It's not my fault we lost. Dammit. It's not my fault.

My thinking about thoughts... They have no impact on the material world, a world that is outside of the thinker's brain.

They affect you and only you, not their objects.

They're passive, ephemeral.

 

[NCLBlue]

She is doing a bit better now, it was awful last night though. Just hoping she has been through the worst. The nurse at A & E said it should be ok but it was a normal thing to happen.

Scary stuff that lad hope all is well for you both ..

 

[goodisonopheliac]

@coollino, I'm glad she's OK, hope she gets well soon.

As with a lot of posts in this thread, the encouraging thing is that you can identify what is wrong and why.

Gigantic cliche alert, but it really is JUST a game, mate. We all get wound up for obvious reasons and then of course a forum dedicated to our team becomes a poisonous trough of nonsense.

There are a number of reasons why the team are a massive disappointment to all of us most of the time but none of them are remotely to do with you.

In a time of the season where there are so many games in such a small period of time, maybe give the forum a swerve for a few days?

If not and/or if you feel you’re slipping, you know where to come. Best of luck, fella.

Thanks. I'm going to be with my family for a couple of days and that'll get my mind off things. It's just the blaming of fans that a lot of people on here do that gets me. I take it very personally, even though I haven't been the game since 15-16. I haven't self-harmed, though, which is good. I've been distracting myself by writing my mum's birthday card - she's 64 and she loves the Beatles, so I got her a print of the lyrics to When I'm 64.

 

[zzr45]

One of those daft things going through my mind - was in a buffet place in Manchester earlier in the year. Coming in i came in behind a bloke with a girl, both youngish. She paid, but looking at the whole situation it was absolutely evident that he was a pimp for this girl. I kept seeing them and it was clear she wasn’t allowed to eat whilst he was, she went out and was absolutely shaking, wasn’t sure if it was terror or withdrawal.

Sat here this morning thinking about how she’s spending Xmas and feeling so guilty about not doing or saying anything on that day. By not challenging it did I do nothing but excuse it? But then, what exactly could I have done, or would I have done nothing but add fuel to the fire.

It’s a tough one. It’s not tearing me apart but again just trying to write and rationalise it.

 

[COYBL25]

One of those daft things going through my mind - was in a buffet place in Manchester earlier in the year. Coming in i came in behind a bloke with a girl, both youngish. She paid, but looking at the whole situation it was absolutely evident that he was a pimp for this girl. I kept seeing them and it was clear she wasn’t allowed to eat whilst he was, she went out and was absolutely shaking, wasn’t sure if it was terror or withdrawal.

Sat here this morning thinking about how she’s spending Xmas and feeling so guilty about not doing or saying anything on that day. By not challenging it did I do nothing but excuse it? But then, what exactly could I have done, or would I have done nothing but add fuel to the fire.

It’s a tough one. It’s not tearing me apart but again just trying to write and rationalise it.

For what it`s worth, very few working girls in the UK have pimps mate. The ones that do, tend to be in massage parlours - sex slaves and never see daylight ( I used to work in a job that involved helping working girls )

It`s much more likely that this was some loathsome creepy fella out with his poor girlfriend.

 

[goodisonopheliac]

Sounds like an abusive relationship to me.

 

[BluePaul86]

I went on a date with a girl a few months back. We met online. Turned out she was a big Evertonian who just so happened to have a season ticket not far from me. Unfortunately the date didn't go well and she said she wasn't interested in me romantically and wanted to stay friends. We text for a bit but then she just stopped completely and then noticed she blocked me on facebook and presumably my number as she's never text me since. I've had a few experiences like this and normally it takes a couple of months to get my head straight and forget about it. This is different however as there's every chance one day I'll bump into her at the match and it's affecting my match day experience. On one hand i don't want to see her as it'll bring back what I'm missing out on as I really liked her but on the other hand I have this stupid voice in my head saying that if I do bump into her, we might chat and that might make her want to get back in contact with me.

 

[coollino]

After days of feeling better, my partner just finished her miscarrage in our local with all of our friends. She felt a lot better today so wanted to get back into the real world but I guess it is because the work has been done. After having one at the end of August I think he is probably right about it being one and not something else.

It was awful, feel numb but in an odd way as well was being sad, she looks the most relaxed that I have seen on the last week. The pain of not knowing seems to have lifted. We are at my parents now and they are looking after her

 

[Nymzee]

I went on a date with a girl a few months back. We met online. Turned out she was a big Evertonian who just so happened to have a season ticket not far from me. Unfortunately the date didn't go well and she said she wasn't interested in me romantically and wanted to stay friends. We text for a bit but then she just stopped completely and then noticed she blocked me on facebook and presumably my number as she's never text me since. I've had a few experiences like this and normally it takes a couple of months to get my head straight and forget about it. This is different however as there's every chance one day I'll bump into her at the match and it's affecting my match day experience. On one hand i don't want to see her as it'll bring back what I'm missing out on as I really liked her but on the other hand I have this stupid voice in my head saying that if I do bump into her, we might chat and that might make her want to get back in contact with me.

Don’t let it affect your footie experience mate. Just make sure if she ever sees you there you show her what she’s missed out on

 

[blue to the bone]

For lads who maybe alone or struggling this time of the year.
Stay off social media is a good idea.
No point looking at others fake great lives

 

[efcforever]

After days of feeling better, my partner just finished her miscarrage in our local with all of our friends. She felt a lot better today so wanted to get back into the real world but I guess it is because the work has been done. After having one at the end of August I think he is probably right about it being one and not something else.

It was awful, feel numb but in an odd way as well was being sad, she looks the most relaxed that I have seen on the last week. The pain of not knowing seems to have lifted. We are at my parents now and they are looking after her

I wish you both well. Stay strong.